Dd (13) went to a birthday party on Saturday night for a girl she's friends with in her year (8) at school.
There was about 13 girls there and the mum was there too.
I picked her up about 9.30 and she told me the mum had got some alcohol free Prosecco for them. Dd said she had tried it but it was horrible so discreetly left it on the table.
It's been playing on my mind and just doesn't sit right with me giving children that young alcohol free Prosecco.
I'm the daughter of an alcoholic so sometimes things can be a little triggering for me so not sure if I'm being over the top.
Is it like like trying makeup out? Trying to look grown up maybe? I'm just not sure.
I have older teens who have been allowed to drink around us after around 16/17 so I'm not anti alcohol and drink myself.
What do you think I'm I just being stupid?
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13 years olds and no-secco
troppibambini6 · 05/02/2024 10:45
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troppibambini6 · 05/02/2024 11:20
@CorylusAgain oh god now I've just read your post!!!
Comedycook · 05/02/2024 11:00
Even when you buy alcohol free in shops, you need to be over 18
Well apple juice, orange squash and milk are alcohol free. Surely you should need id to buy them then?
Comedycook · 05/02/2024 11:00
Even when you buy alcohol free in shops, you need to be over 18
Well apple juice, orange squash and milk are alcohol free. Surely you should need id to buy them then?
JaninaDuszejko · 05/02/2024 11:26
I think mocktails are different because they are just fun fruity drinks. Whereas alcohol free drinks that taste like alcohol are more closely related to drinking culture. Why not just have normal soft drinks? But I wonder if the girl was interested in trying her Mum's prosecco and so her Mum gave her some non-alcoholic stuff and it's now become a thing. I wouldn't complain about it, just think it's a bit strange.
DD1 has had alcopops at parties in the last year, the parents have always discussed it before to check we're OK with it. When she had her 16th party I asked if she wanted us to supply alcohol but she and her friends were quite happy to just have soft drinks. If they're not fussed either way I'm not going to push it.
viridiano · 05/02/2024 11:01
I suppose I would be wondering why the mum felt like this was something she wanted to offer to a bunch of 13 year olds. Did they ask for it or did mum just get it and encourage them to try it? If so why?
It's all a bit weird, really. Kids don't really tend to be all that interested in alcohol these days anyway compared to how it was 20 years ago. I imagine mum probably wanted to be seen as cool, and it was more about her than the kids.
It wouldn't sit right with me. It's not only about it having no alcohol, it's the whole culture around alcohol, which is why you need ID to buy it and kids can't buy it.
Comedycook · 05/02/2024 11:00
Even when you buy alcohol free in shops, you need to be over 18
Well apple juice, orange squash and milk are alcohol free. Surely you should need id to buy them then?
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troppibambini6 · 05/02/2024 11:26
@anyolddinosaur no wouldn't have been bothered at all with appetiser but I think because it's not pretending to be alcohol.
But as you say essentially it's just other fizzy drink.
Tryingandfailingagain · 05/02/2024 12:07
Agree. It doesn’t sit right with me. It’s just…. “Off.”
I’d place a wager that it was more for show for the mum’s instagram stories and photos though, than about the 13yr olds….
Ultimately, there’s just no need, or sound reasoning for this. What’s wrong with a selection of soft drinks? 🤷🏼♀️
viridiano · 05/02/2024 11:01
I suppose I would be wondering why the mum felt like this was something she wanted to offer to a bunch of 13 year olds. Did they ask for it or did mum just get it and encourage them to try it? If so why?
It's all a bit weird, really. Kids don't really tend to be all that interested in alcohol these days anyway compared to how it was 20 years ago. I imagine mum probably wanted to be seen as cool, and it was more about her than the kids.
It wouldn't sit right with me. It's not only about it having no alcohol, it's the whole culture around alcohol, which is why you need ID to buy it and kids can't buy it.
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