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Early in relationships couples enjoy fulfilling sex lives but that can fade over the years

Mary O'Conor

Someone remarked recently to me “what was that thing we used to do on Saturday nights?” Other people in the company nodded in agreement, but as nobody seemed anxious to take the conversation further, I decided to write about it instead.

It seems to me that our whole sexual process is intrinsically tied up with perpetuating the human race. When people are in their teens and early twenties, the hormones are flying, the woman’s eggs — she is born with a certain amount of eggs in her body and these are subject to the ageing process the same as she herself is — are new and fertile, and pregnancy is fairly easy to achieve. Also, sex happens more often in the early stages of a relationship because the relationship is new, the couple are delighted to be in each other’s company and they can’t keep their hands off one another. This is sometimes referred to as the ‘bunny phase’ for obvious reasons.