Dear Mary: We are either too busy or exhausted from children and work to have sex. How can we keep the spark alive?

"We struggle to be intimate, usually due to exhaustion and little people in the bed." Illustration: Getty

Mary O'Conor

Question: I read with sadness your recent letter from an unhappy wife and mother. I am married with four young children myself. My husband is a good man and I love him, but we live a very busy life and can’t seem to find any time to connect between work, school, activities and family commitments.

We struggle to be intimate, usually due to exhaustion and little people in the bed. My question is how do we prioritise our relationship so we don’t fall into that same rut.