Motherhood and friendships: ‘You really find out who your friends are when you have a baby’

Friendships are often put to the test when babies arrive — some connections fall apart, while true support and camaraderie can arise in the most unexpected places

Old friends Amilia Keating and Kelly Donegan reconnected when they both became mothers. Photo: Gerry Mooney

Filomena Kaguako

While the bond in some friendships can stand the test of time, other connections fizzle out during various stages of life. But how can two people navigate their friendship after the goalposts have been so dramatically moved by one person — particularly in the case of female friendships when one woman unexpectedly becomes a mother?

According to Laura Guckian, founder of Mind Mommy Life Coaching, the changes that occur in friendships when a woman becomes a mother are a reflection of the internal shift that takes place during motherhood.