So, I'm 30, female and work as a sustainability consultant for a large engineering consultancy. We're having a client networking evening thing on Thursday night and I just know at least a couple of guys are going to ask if I'm the office manager/in business development/marketing. Of course there's nothing wrong with being any of those things, but why PRESUME that I can't be an engineer just because I'm female?!?!? (And at a networking evening, why ask close ended questions like that?! But anyway....).
After the last time it happened, I vowed that I was never going to be 100% 'nice' in future in dealing with it. I'm usually a bit wishy washy and just say 'oh no, I'm a consultant actually'. But if you don't challenge the attitudes they'll never change their ways, right??
So I need some good replies in readiness for Thursday night. I still have to be polite, obviously, as it's a client thing.
So far I've come up with saying:
- 'no' and then turning to talk to someone else in the group.
- 'yes' and then asking if he's the janitor in his office.
- 'no, I don't do anything useful really, I'm just employed to make the office look prettier'
- 'no, I'm the director in charge of the sustainability business in the UK' (leave awkward pause) 'I'm joking, that's a few years off yet, I'm a consultant for now.'
I'm probably happiest with the last one, but still not particularly happy. I need your ideas please!! I can report back after the event and let you know how they went down!!