Recently I was talking to my daughter Emma. She was having one of those days when she felt overwhelmed by the pain in the world; the war in Gaza, violence suffered by LBGT communities, the plight of the homeless and marginalized, victims of domestic violence and other violent crimes, the cruelty and hopelessness that often characterizes the lives of children swallowed up by the “system”. The list of suffering - endless.
Emma asked me, “if you knew then, what you know now, would you have had children?”
I responded with statistics saying that in comparison to the previous 100 years, today there are less wars, poverty worldwide has decreased, as has child labour etc., we just hear about the bad things that are happening because technology allows these things to be reported in real time.
Since we spoke, I’ve thought about her question quite a bit, “if you knew then what you know now, would you have had children”, and I’ve come to a far greater realization, statistics aside, that while there is still no a hell of a lot of horrendous suffering going on in the world, had I not given birth to Emma, she would not exist and consequently, there wouldn’t be a Radical Recruit and all the good that has been achieved since it opened its doors.
Emma keep in mind, if you had never been born:
There wouldn’t be 650 less people looking for a job.
There wouldn’t be care experienced young people with a safe place to sleep because you found them temporary accommodation, helped pay their rent, or sorted out their debt issues.
There wouldn’t be Radical people with enough food to eat because you paid for an emergency shop to stop them from going hungry or searching through bins.
There wouldn’t be four Radical people who get out of bed every morning to help others with similar life experiences because you recognised their potential and gave them a job.
There wouldn’t be people who have been given hope in their darkest hours when they felt there was nobody else to turn to, you wouldn’t have been there.
There wouldn’t be people who have managed to sustain their employment because you funded their travel to work or their clothing so that they get the best start and could thrive in their new jobs.
There wouldn’t be people who have chosen to leave their life of crime behind because you taught them they are valued and worthy and helped them to use their talents and skills for good in a job where they are valued.
There wouldn’t be other female founders and women in leadership who have been inspired by your work and gone on to do other great things.
So, the answer to Emma’s question is a resounding yes, I would have had children, because as terrifying and seeming insurmountable the problems facing the world may seem, if I hadn’t had children there would be one less person in the world doing all they can to fix some of those problems.
(And, to be fair, even if you weren’t doing the work you are, I love you Em and couldn’t imagine my world without you in it).