fix: Indexnode stuck at stopping progress cause by wrong lifetime control

[weiliu1031]

issue: #34557
pr: #34558

[congqixia]

/lgtm

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Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 0% with 1 line in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 79.82%. Comparing base (60aab15) to head (1a0e6e8).
Report is 4 commits behind head on 2.4.

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- Coverage   84.41%   79.82%   -4.60%     
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  Files         786     1051     +265     
  Lines      112475   135835   +23360     
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+ Hits        94951   108426   +13475     
- Misses      13305    23197    +9892     
+ Partials     4219     4212       -7     

Files	Coverage Δ
internal/indexnode/indexnode.go	79.77% <0.00%> (+1.24%)	⬆️

... and 294 files with indirect coverage changes