‘Miscarriage broke me — the person I am now is a completely different person in so many ways’

The grief that accompanies a miscarriage is often a disenfranchised grief — poorly understood, or even going unrecognised, by others. Dublin woman Emma Grimes shares her story of loss, trauma and hope, plus expert advice on getting through it

Emma Grimes: ‘If you open yourself up to grief and open yourself up to love, you get so much out of it.’ Photo: Frank McGrath

Filomena Kaguako

The pain that comes with losing a child is a pain that stays with a parent for life. This everlasting heartbreak is something Dublin woman Emma Grimes has been living with since the miscarriage of her son Milo in March 2020 — just two days before Mother’s Day.

“It was kind of a bit of a blur,” she shares. “I was just walking around my apartment just crying because I was just so in shock. I couldn’t believe that had happened. I was almost in complete disbelief because it had happened so quickly.”