Ask Allison: I’ve just moved in with my partner and she has an issue with my nightly glasses of wine. Should we call it quits?

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Question: I have just moved in with my partner — we are both in our early 50s and it is a second relationship for both of us. My marriage ended as my ex and I grew apart, having met and married very young. No children on either side.

I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine a night and more at the weekends — a couple of beers and a bottle of wine, and sometimes a small whiskey after. This is if staying in. I have always drunk like this and I don’t think it is excessive — my parents and siblings would be more or less the same, as are my friends.