Modern Love Podcast

Having a decades-long marriage in Hollywood is rare, but actor Peter Gallagher has managed to make it 41 years with his wife, Paula Harwood.

Why it’s so hard to know what to say when the people we’re closest to need us most.

Ahead of Mother’s Day, the advice columnist John Paul Brammer (a.k.a. ¡Hola Papi!) has a reminder: Loving your abuela doesn’t have to mean telling her everything.

Why the model and writer wants to blow up gender roles in dating, without chivalry having to die.

The Gen Z ‘it girl’ singer on the painful push and pull of young love.

For the actor, compatibility comes down to food. You need to be able to share.

The relationship expert reads one of the most controversial Modern Love essays ever published.

The “Stranger Things” actor reads an essay about a “nobody-moves-out” breakup and reflects on her own experience growing up with divorced parents.

Actor Penn Badgley reads the essay “Watching Them Watching Me” and reflects on the power of apologizing to your children.

The chef and writer is known for bringing people together over delicious food. She reads an essay about the importance of making connections and the most of your time.

On her second solo record since leaving Alabama Shakes, “What Now,” Brittany Howard traces a path out of heartbreak. Today, she reads a Modern Love essay about that treacherous, hopeful journey back to love.

The acclaimed author delves into a Modern Love essay about parenting, poetry and persistence.

It’s been 20 years since Daniel Jones started Modern Love as a weekly column in The New York Times. Today, he shares what the job has taught him about love.

Here are three performances that won us over in this year’s nominated films.

Politics and speed dating: What could go wrong? Astead Herndon, host of “The Run-Up,” talks to Anna Martin about his recent reporting excursion.

A best-selling author on relationships was totally unprepared when his wife told him she wanted to be “unmarried.” What did that even mean?

Zoe Fishman had a strong feeling that the man she nicknamed her “subway crush” was the love of her life. But what she couldn’t predict was the devastating way she would lose him.

Sonja Falck was happily married to a man 34 years her senior. When their age gap started to test their bond, they had to change their relationship in order to save it.

When Eric Darnell Pritchard was 11 years old, they fell for the cute boy across the street. The cute boy confessed that he liked Eric, too. That’s when things got complicated.

For years, Jessica Slice had dumped any guy who was kind to her. Could she break the cycle?

Rick Reiss couldn’t control his troubled teenage son, so he had him taken away. Years later, he and his son re-examine that decision.

As Christi Clancy was about to teach a spin class, her best friend’s ex-husband walked in. She decided to let him have it.

Heather Sellers thought she made peace with her estranged father years ago. But as she’s gotten older, she’s realized that complete forgiveness was never really on the table.

He wanted to pay for everything. Why couldn’t Deanna Fei accept his offer?

Susan Gelles met the love of her life at a singles mixer. But first, she ran away.

For years, Khalid Abdulqaadir hid his past from his wife. To try and save their relationship, he had to tell her the truth.

When her aunt died by suicide, Samantha Joseph went on a yearslong quest to understand why it happened. That search eventually led her to a moving conversation with the “Friends” actor.

Alone on a honeymoon trip intended for her and her ex, Nell Stephens learns to leave behind the rules others set for her.

David Khalaf’s family hid his husband Constantino from his 96-year-old grandmother for years.

The youngest Modern Love essayist shares a story of divorce from the child’s perspective. And then we hear from listeners about the moment their parents’ divorce became real for them.

The hole left by generations of absentee fathers is filled by a powerful matriarchy.

An artist learns the ropes of car sex later in life — and finds a husband in the process.

The unconventional child of a conventional Indian family realizes she overlooked the affection in her parents’ marriage.

Clare Almand thinks her days are numbered. She decides it’s time to have sex — as soon as possible.

Bob Morris’s father fell in love at the end of his life with a woman who knew her limits.

When Tyler’s ex-boyfriend Sam gets amnesia, she becomes the keeper of their past.

Sometimes getting ghosted helps you figure out what you really want.

The author and podcaster Jay Shetty on how the lessons he learned as a monk shaped his romantic life.

As it turns out, the TV version of romance feels particularly relevant when life seems uncertain.

At 40, he was desperately embarrassed by his overprotective mother. Until a playful deal paved the way for a healthy set of boundaries.

Is the pursuit of a partner who meets all your criteria worthwhile or unrealistic? Two women on choosing imperfect love.

Two women envision their lives with the man of their dreams: one in the checkout line at the grocery store, and one in photos of her old home on Zillow.

After feeling hopeless about dating, the musician Aly Tadros discovered B.D.S.M. It was both painful and cathartic — and taught her what she really needed.

It pained her to see how Alzheimer’s was stealing her father’s memories. As he drifted further away, she struggled to connect with him — until she found his old journals.

Stories from couples in unconventional arrangements, exploring the possibilities of two-way and three-way relationships.

After years of suppressing her gay desires, an ultra-Orthodox Jewish woman reaches her breaking point.

We asked listeners to tell us about their most bizarre date spots. The stories were imaginative, morbid and in some cases, life changing.

When he yearned for his father, his godfather would appear. Plus: How a woman’s life changed when she gave her subway card to a stranger.

A woman comes to terms with her bipolar disorder and how it affects her love life. After her essay: A man has a hunch he’s met the one.

They had agreed to have other romantic partners on the side. A tragic accident put their arrangement front and center.

Nearing 40, Katharine Dion separated the idea of getting pregnant from finding love.

A man with a chronic illness savors the time he has with the ones he loves.

When Amy Pittman had a miscarriage, she grieved her loss — and tried to move on. But the internet wouldn’t let her.

When it comes to whom she loves, an immigrant daughter can’t make her mother happy. But she holds on to hope, as her mother always taught her to do.

After 56 years of marriage, a widow finds hope for the future by remembering the sweetness of life spent together.

Two stories about the power of music and the search for a deeper connection between a parent and child.

A Deaf man has been let down by every lover he’s ever had. This time might be different.

A man comes out to his wife — and breaks apart their family. Fifteen years later, we check back in.

At 83, and legally blind, a woman needs help with one of her favorite pastimes: visiting the sex shop.

When her ex-husband became terminally ill, she had a difficult choice to make. Over a decade later, her decision still resonates.