I have just posted on another thread and spent far too long deciding whether I should write "DH and I used to go ...., DH and myself used to go ...., or me and DH used to go.
I have far better things to worry about but they've been pushed to the back of my mind for now, lol. Also, while I'm here with people who I think understand these things, should the list in my title and first paragraph be separated by commas or semi colons?
Is it DH and I, DH and myself, or me and DH?
MissMarplesNiece · 12/04/2024 09:55
Shiningout · 12/04/2024 10:19
I'm not much of a pedant, but I really dislike people using 'myself' all the time incorrectly, someone I work with does it often and it makes me wince but no idea why. It doesn't even make sense to say it! I would just say me and bla bla bla but that's probably not correct either 🤔🤣
upinaballoon · 12/04/2024 19:30
Please, surely 'DH and myself' is correct in the sentence ' I bought chocolate for DH and myself'.
The only time when it's ok is when you're combining 'I bought chocolate for DH' with 'I bought chocolate for myself', or similar sentences, including jelly babies.
maudelovesharold · 12/04/2024 10:07
‘The house belongs to me (and dh)’.
‘(Dh and) I went to the cinema.’
As pp have said, if it still sounds right by removing ‘dh’, then that’s the one to use! Never dh and myself. The only appropriate use of myself is e.g. ‘Dh couldn’t change the lightbulb, so I did it myself.’
maudelovesharold · 30/05/2024 19:01
It may be technically correct, but honestly have you ever heard people use that construction? It sounds really stilted! Most people wold say e.g. “we bought ourselves some chocolate” or “I bought us some chocolate.” Strangely, although you would say ‘I treated myself to some chocolate’, it sounds (to me) more natural to say the ‘incorrect’ “I treated dh and me to some chocolate” than the ‘correct’ “I treated dh and myself to some chocolate.” Interesting!
upinaballoon · 12/04/2024 19:30
Please, surely 'DH and myself' is correct in the sentence ' I bought chocolate for DH and myself'.
The only time when it's ok is when you're combining 'I bought chocolate for DH' with 'I bought chocolate for myself', or similar sentences, including jelly babies.
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