Hey all, just a bit of background. I’m a mum of 2, I work full time, and myself and my children all live together.
I have a bit of a strained relationship with my daughters dad, he’s not dad to my other child who is older.
we split up a few years ago, for 1 year, then got back together, he had been living at his dads who he has always paid dig money to for staying there.
since getting back together we’ll sort of he will stay at his dads the whole week and come to see us one day and maybe stay one night a week.
recently he has told me that his dads told him that his own homes rent is increasing and he could be doing with his help towards it, he told me that he wants to go and stay with his dad most of the week and maybe spend a few nights a week here.
the problem I have is that he has said throughout this whole period that he can’t wait until things are more settled financially with his dad so he can come and live with us and be a family ect but now it he’s telling me this.
during this and still he will send my daughters child maintenance, he has recently told me that he think it’s too high, but it’s a calculated amount he got from the CM website so it’s not like I’ve demanded a certain amount.
im just looking for advice on everything, I don’t understand why he wants to help out his dad more than his own family, I could be doing with financial help too, I work full time and pay everything for the house and kids
he is 35 for reference
Mums and dads I need your opinion!!!
PinkLemur · 25/02/2024 09:19
Hellocatshome · 25/02/2024 09:33
Sounds like he is living his best life. Just gets to dip in and out of family life and your bed when it suits him with no real commitment or responsibility.
PinkLemur · 25/02/2024 09:40
Yeah I think I’ve been delusional believing that he wanted to come and live as a family, the thing that upsets me is that he has more concern for his dads rent and being there to help him with it than me who he claims to love and care about and my children who he claims to love and care about
PinkLemur · 25/02/2024 09:43
I pay full rent and council tax as I work full time, he doesn’t live with me he as stated on the post, he maybe stays over once a month, he pays towards rent and council tax where he lives!
PinkLemur · 25/02/2024 09:43
I pay full rent and council tax as I work full time, he doesn’t live with me he as stated on the post, he maybe stays over once a month, he pays towards rent and council tax where he lives!
Imnotarestaurant · 25/02/2024 09:46
Is it one night a week or one night a month??
PinkLemur · 25/02/2024 09:43
I pay full rent and council tax as I work full time, he doesn’t live with me he as stated on the post, he maybe stays over once a month, he pays towards rent and council tax where he lives!
PinkLemur · 25/02/2024 09:40
Yeah I think I’ve been delusional believing that he wanted to come and live as a family, the thing that upsets me is that he has more concern for his dads rent and being there to help him with it than me who he claims to love and care about and my children who he claims to love and care about
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