Upon court order, contact with my ex unfortunately has resulted in email contact only regarding important matters surrounding the children
This however has not stopped the abusive, manipulative and derogatory emails I receive from her daily. This is the main reason its got to email only yet it doesn't stop
Upon Cafcass advice and learning, I always keep my emails professional and to the point, leaving emotion aside. I also never involve children in any plans until I have ok'd them with her, but primarily I arrange my work and social life around the court order
She repeatedly puts me down as a father, insults my family and my new partner, completely unprovoked! And then says I refuse to communicate. The reason I don't respond half the time is because of the onslaught
Example
I have the children Monday evenings. Today is my boys 6th birthday and usually he would wake up with me. She requested that she kept him last night at his request. Now I know my boy enough that this was not something he would have considered unless provoked. However, I accepted this and said that's fine as its in his 'interests'
I had originally planned to open presents this morning, but due to this request, my next day to see him is Wednesday. I have a work meeting this evening and was going to get some last minute bits tonight to have a proper birthday with him tomorrow night.
Because she has planned to work this evening instead of her court ordered hours, I am once again expected to change my plans (my work are already pissed at these constant changes, hence the court order) and I 'don't want to see children'. I stress, the order is in place to avoid these situations
Unfortunately my eldest daughter has taken a similar mentality as her mother, treating me with disrespect and telling me what I should and shouldn't do. In my eyes, this should never have been discussed with her.
I made multiple attempts to call this morning to wish him a happy birthday and they have taken it upon themselves to not let this happen
The question I ask is, what can I do to stop these emails. Is there anyone who can enforce that this behaviour is not ok. Its affecting me mentally and also once again, I'm petrified of the damage its doing to my children
As a man, its very hard to see past the fact that if the shoe was on the other foot and I was sending this abuse, there would be an avenue and access to support that would take this situation seriously. She really needs to be told this is not ok
Derogatory and Abusive Emails
2pacdad · 23/01/2024 09:51
2pacdad · 23/01/2024 09:51
Upon court order, contact with my ex unfortunately has resulted in email contact only regarding important matters surrounding the children
This however has not stopped the abusive, manipulative and derogatory emails I receive from her daily. This is the main reason its got to email only yet it doesn't stop
Upon Cafcass advice and learning, I always keep my emails professional and to the point, leaving emotion aside. I also never involve children in any plans until I have ok'd them with her, but primarily I arrange my work and social life around the court order
She repeatedly puts me down as a father, insults my family and my new partner, completely unprovoked! And then says I refuse to communicate. The reason I don't respond half the time is because of the onslaught
Example
I have the children Monday evenings. Today is my boys 6th birthday and usually he would wake up with me. She requested that she kept him last night at his request. Now I know my boy enough that this was not something he would have considered unless provoked. However, I accepted this and said that's fine as its in his 'interests'
I had originally planned to open presents this morning, but due to this request, my next day to see him is Wednesday. I have a work meeting this evening and was going to get some last minute bits tonight to have a proper birthday with him tomorrow night.
Because she has planned to work this evening instead of her court ordered hours, I am once again expected to change my plans (my work are already pissed at these constant changes, hence the court order) and I 'don't want to see children'. I stress, the order is in place to avoid these situations
Unfortunately my eldest daughter has taken a similar mentality as her mother, treating me with disrespect and telling me what I should and shouldn't do. In my eyes, this should never have been discussed with her.
I made multiple attempts to call this morning to wish him a happy birthday and they have taken it upon themselves to not let this happen
The question I ask is, what can I do to stop these emails. Is there anyone who can enforce that this behaviour is not ok. Its affecting me mentally and also once again, I'm petrified of the damage its doing to my children
As a man, its very hard to see past the fact that if the shoe was on the other foot and I was sending this abuse, there would be an avenue and access to support that would take this situation seriously. She really needs to be told this is not ok
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