A breif history
There is currently a court order in place with regard to contact which states I have my children 6 nights in 14 days. 2 nights a week and every other weekend, to which I supply all clothing/uniform/food for my 3 children when they are with me and on top of that pay all my CSA religiously (£350 a month)
So....
That time of year has come around and I know how much my children enjoy xmas at my ex's parents, so previously all I have asked is that I have them for a few hours in the morning, where I collect and drop-off. That's been every Christmas since we split
This year it has been dictated that I have my children from 9am-11am. The round trip of collection and drop off is approx. 40mins.
This leaves the children the best part of 1.5 hours with me, on may I add, my day in the evening according to the court order. I've also given up the Friday/Saturday before so the kids can go to a pantomime
These plans would have already been made and should I refuse, my ex will undoubtedly make me look the bad guy to my children. My eldest is 14 and told everything by her mum
To add to this, upon my agreement to give up my time, she now thinks I am debt to her by missing the Monday night that she has planned!!! I'm sorry but children are not currency. I sacrifice my time in their interests and make all my plans with them around the court order
Where do I go from here, there really is no reasoning as its always her way or the highway, hence why I got the order in the first place.
The bottom line is that if I refer back the order, she will effectively be in breach, however thats not fair on my children, especially on such a special day
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2pacdad · 27/11/2023 15:20
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