A breif description of my situation
Ive been apart from my ex nearly 4 years now
I live with new partner and we have my three children regularly. Everyone in the household get along but my eldest daughter has now been showing displays of disrespect towards me and my partner. To the extent she has hit and kicked me and tells my partner to shut up she doesnt have a say
Ive tried numerous occassions to talk with her on a level, but it doesnt seem to be setting in. Ive explained that rules in our house may differ from your mums, but whilst you are here, you respect our rules. We both pay towards the house and your little brother and sister follow the rules
There obviously is history between me and ex and the disrespect towards me certainly stems from this
The past 2 weeks I've taken it upon myself to take all 3 children to my mothers, to try diffuse the hostile situation between me and my partner, however, this is a massive upheaval as she lives a 30 min drive.
I don't want her in my home at this moment in time and am looking into counselling for us both, but in the meantime, I need to make her realise its not ok
The little 2 children are suffering, as am I, my partner and mother. What's the next step I ask?
As her mother refuses to keep her till its sorted, I'm thinking of stripping further luxuries of the home and send her to my Aunties. Its walking distance from her school, she's 13 years of age and the walk is only 20mins.
She shows no remorse, empathy and spends to much time on her phone to acknowledge what its going on around her. She insists she is happy to come to our house but wont talk to my partner. I said that's not how a family home works and I'm not happy with that mentality
Good solution? In my right? Please advise
Am I in my right to send Daughter to family member in my care
Graveturtle · 11/03/2023 08:42
LaviniasBigBloomers · 11/03/2023 08:54
This isn't about whether it's your 'right' or not, it's whether it's the right thing to do for your dd who is (clearly) right in the middle of a truly awful teenage stage.
She's pushing your boundaries - sending her away would be a terrible thing to do.
Are you - consciously or unconsciously - trying to engineer a situation where she just stops coming, or her mother is so pissed off at your behaviour she keeps her home?
This is what parenting is pal. Teens are hard, incredibly hard. But we need to parent them through it, not send them elsewhere for someone else to do our jobs disney dad.
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MaireadMcSweeney · 11/03/2023 08:58
Sorry I missed that
at 13 she's starting adolescence and all that goes with that. You need to learn about teenagers.
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