Hy Everyone!
To be honest, I don't know where to start, although I am sure, I'm not the only one who facing similar problems. I'm a new dad, my baby boy is almost 6 months old, and of course, I love him. Since he was born, my relationship with my wife getting worse day by day. She is tense and nervous every day, because she feel herself tired and exhausted and I feel like a "punching bag"... Agressive quarreling every day, for no fcking reason. She loves our boy, too much, and the baby gets all the attention and according to my wife, I don't help enough. Maybe it's a partial truth, although I do the feeding, changing the diaper 1-2 times a day, and bathe the child at least 3-4 times a week, but man, I am working as well. It's hard to describe the feeling, but when the baby starts to cry, I feel it's my fault, "why you not there and not helping us??"... Before we decided we are having a child, we agreed, that we won't leave our complete "old life". Even so everything changed and nothing left from our old life. I used to train 3-4 times a week, I haven't been in the gym since my boy was born. We used to go to cinema, escape rooms, smaller parties, etc. , but we haven't been everywhere since our boy was born. Sex is 0 for a couple of months, I feel so, she doesn't want anything from me. I am depressed and I've never felt so alone myself like now. I started to drink, 2 beers a day, it's not much, but it can be the start of a neverending slope. And I don't see the light in the end of the tunnel, I don't know when will be anything easier and better. Every good advice or experience would be appreciated!
Relationship problems
Hungariansteven · 15/11/2022 17:23
KangarooKenny · 15/11/2022 17:30
I’ve picked up on the fact that you say ‘bathe the child’ and ‘the baby’ which seems to be you distancing yourself from your son. It’s not a very soft and loving way to say it.
Do you resent your son ?
Hungariansteven · 15/11/2022 17:23
Hy Everyone!
To be honest, I don't know where to start, although I am sure, I'm not the only one who facing similar problems. I'm a new dad, my baby boy is almost 6 months old, and of course, I love him. Since he was born, my relationship with my wife getting worse day by day. She is tense and nervous every day, because she feel herself tired and exhausted and I feel like a "punching bag"... Agressive quarreling every day, for no fcking reason. She loves our boy, too much, and the baby gets all the attention and according to my wife, I don't help enough. Maybe it's a partial truth, although I do the feeding, changing the diaper 1-2 times a day, and bathe the child at least 3-4 times a week, but man, I am working as well. It's hard to describe the feeling, but when the baby starts to cry, I feel it's my fault, "why you not there and not helping us??"... Before we decided we are having a child, we agreed, that we won't leave our complete "old life". Even so everything changed and nothing left from our old life. I used to train 3-4 times a week, I haven't been in the gym since my boy was born. We used to go to cinema, escape rooms, smaller parties, etc. , but we haven't been everywhere since our boy was born. Sex is 0 for a couple of months, I feel so, she doesn't want anything from me. I am depressed and I've never felt so alone myself like now. I started to drink, 2 beers a day, it's not much, but it can be the start of a neverending slope. And I don't see the light in the end of the tunnel, I don't know when will be anything easier and better. Every good advice or experience would be appreciated!
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