In Sunday’s The New York Times Magazine, I wrote about the annoyingly difficult transition from your late 20s to your early 30s, what some people call a life change, and others call a Saturn return 🪐: a period of great upheaval — “growing older, burning out at work, increasingly higher bills, a couple of monumental life milestones,” as the astrologer Aliza Kelly so succinctly put it.
I’ve been mulling over this month’s column since last November, when I returned to New York City after a couple of weeks in Kyoto and Osaka. I walked through the doors of my tiny Brooklyn apartment and thought, “god, I hate New York.” Entering my 15th year in this love-hate city, and writing regular columns for the people who live here, I feel at once relieved and horrified that I am somehow growing up. As Carey Mulligan’s character said in 2009’s “An Education”: “I feel old, but not very wise.”
The first and main way I was able to process this encroaching negative feeling was by preparing myself Japanese breakfasts — really just an excuse to tinker in the kitchen and keep my mind busy while the sun came up and my body acclimatized to the jet lag. As I developed my new kitchen practice, performing small tasks in advance (like marinating fish, practicing my onsen tamago, salting leftover crisper-drawer vegetables), the actual time spent cooking the meal lessened and made room for the part I love most: the eating. Over time, my refrigerator became a store cupboard of simple side dishes, mostly vegetables and grains, and fishes too, that made my morning stomach feel good for once. And all I had to do was put on the kettle.
Remember that preparing Japanese breakfast is like cooking for future you, not present you — one of the key differences, I think, between flying by the seat of your pants in your 20s to having a better handle on things in your 30s (or at least beginning to). This type of premeditated meal — “one soup, three dishes” — became a lifeline for me as I made peace with the city again, and I hope it does the same for you. https://lnkd.in/eJCmqPjK
Chairperson at Culinary Historians of San Diego
2wEric Kim, your story just made my day and night happy and emotional. Thank you for sharing it!