8 Rules of Love Quotes

“Alone, we learn to love ourselves, to understand ourselves, to heal our own pain, and to care for ourselves.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Language has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Everything we love goes. So to be able to grieve that loss, to let go, to have that grief be absolutely full, is the only way to have our heart be full and open. If we’re not open to losing, we’re not open to loving.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Sometimes people jump from relationship to relationship because they’re trying to avoid the challenges that love requires. You could date someone new every three months and have a lot of fun. But there is no growth in the cycle of just flirting, hooking up, and ditching. It is this ongoing growth and understanding that helps us sustain the fun of love, the connection of love, the trust of love, the reward of love. If we never commit, we’ll never get to love.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love

“They’re afraid to talk about difficult feelings because they or their partner might get angry. They hide how they feel to avoid stirring up trouble. Keeping the peace often comes at the expense of honesty and understanding. And the converse is also true: Love built on honesty and understanding is deep and fulfilling, but not necessarily peaceful. Partners who avoid conflict don’t understand each other’s priorities, values, or struggles. Every couple fights—or should.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“We often pressure our partners to be as enthusiastic as we are about our passion. Or we wonder if they’re right for us because when we talk about our passion, they don’t have much to add to the conversation. Our partner doesn’t have to share our passions. Even if they do, that doesn’t guarantee success in a relationship. Remind yourself why you are with them and remember that being alike isn’t necessary for a happy relationship.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“One of the secrets to a good relationship is being attracted to someone out of choice rather than out of need.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Closure is something you give yourself.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Loneliness makes us rush into relationships; it keeps us in the wrong relationships; and it urges us to accept less than we deserve.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“But trust comes with quiet reliability.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“We are meant to be learning at every stage of life. Think about life as a series of classrooms or ashrams in which we learn various lessons.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“the deepest love as when you like someone’s personality, respect their values, and help them toward their goals in a long-term, committed relationship.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Love is not about staging the perfect proposal or creating a perfect relationship. It’s about learning to navigate the imperfections that are intrinsic to ourselves, our partners, and life itself.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Honor your ex for the gifts they gave you.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Our difficult loved ones are in our lives to teach us tolerance. Meet people with love even when they don’t meet you with love.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“We can’t expect to get love right when we’ve never been educated on how to give or receive it. How to manage our emotions in connection to someone else’s. How to understand others. How to build and nurture a relationship where both people thrive.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“If there are aspects of ourselves that we don’t like, we should do something to change them.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Dear Self, We’ve been together since the beginning, and it’s thanks to you that I get to experience this life. You are closer to me than anyone, the only one who knows all that I’ve seen and done. The only one who has wwitnessed the world through my eyes. Who knows my deepest thoughts. My darkest fears. And my biggest dreams. We’ve been through a lot together—everything, in fact. The highest highs, and the lowest lows. You’re wwith me in my greatest moments and the ones I’d like to do over. And no matter what, you’ve always stuck by me. We are true partners—you are the only one about whom I can say wwithout a doubt that we wwill always be together. But in spite of your loyalty, and your caring, I’ve sometimes ignored you. I haven’t always listened when you told me what’s best for me or nudged me in the direction I should go. Instead of looking to you, I looked outwward, at what others were doing or saying. I distracted myself, so I couldn’t hear your voice. Instead of caring for you, I sometimes pushed too hard. And yet you’ve never abandoned me. You’ve always forgiven me. And you’ve always welcomed me home, wwithout judgment or criticism. For all of that, I thank you. Thank you for being gentle wwith me. For being strong. For always being wwilling to learn and grow wwith me through my mistakes, and my triumphs. And for over and over reflecting back to me the best of what is inside me. Thank you for showwing me what unconditional love truly means. Love, Me”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“We have a choice: we can either change our mindset or change what we don’t like. We need to get in the habit of assessing ourselves and making efforts to improve our own lives.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Even if you’re not avoiding your partner, it’s still a bad sign if you feel drained and unenthusiastic when you spend time with them.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Energy of goodness. In this energy, you chose someone with whom you felt connected and compatible. There was mutual respect, and often these relationships end with some feelings of respect still intact.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“When you like a flower, you pluck it. When you love a flower, you water it daily.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“The difference between loneliness and solitude is the lens through which we see our time alone, and how we use that time. The lens of loneliness makes us insecure and prone to bad decisions. The lens of solitude makes us open and curious. As such, solitude is the foundation on which we build our love.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“We acquire skills like compassion, empathy, and patience (Rule 1). This prepares us to share love because we’ll need these qualities when we love someone else. We will also examine our past relationships to avoid making the same mistakes in relationships going forward (Rule 2).”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“We must use the time when we are single or take time alone when we are in a couple to understand ourselves, our pleasures, and our values. When we learn to love ourselves, we develop compassion, empathy, and patience. Then we can use those qualities to love someone else. In this way, being alone—not lonely, but comfortable and confident in situations where we make our own choices, follow our own lead, and reflect on our own experience—is the first step in preparing ourselves to love others.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“I define the deepest love as when you like someone’s personality, respect their values, and help them toward their goals in a long-term, committed relationship.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love

“If you can’t generate a high vibration, it might be because you don’t have any new thoughts to share. You aren’t spending time developing yourself; you aren’t reading or absorbing new art or ideas. You will never be able to reset or refresh a relationship if you keep doing the same old thing over and over again.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“After we learn the lessons of one level, we move to the next. If we struggle or move on from a stage before we’ve completed it, we simply return to the lesson we need—life pushes us back in the direction of this work.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“You wanted to jump into doing at the start, but your performance will only be as strong as the learning and experimenting you did beforehand.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go