Reading_ Tamishly's Reviews > Starfish

***Made it to TOP 10 favourites of 2021***

Yes, no one understands you. Not even your family.

Let me cry tonight.

I feel you, girl. I feel you.

This book is one classic example of how things start from our own families. The reason why we let people bully us, why we accept less than what we should, why we lack confidence and why we ultimately end up hating ourselves and doing the same to others that we don't even know.

The mother. Yes, it's almost always the women in our lives that make our lives hell. I am telling you it's not always the men, the boys or the strangers. The way we are being judged right from the moment we wake up.

She's your daughter for god's sake! Let her learn things her own way. Don't destroy her.

It's because you do it to your daughter that gives power to your other children, the neighbours, the friends, the relatives and even the strangers to judge her, bully her, make mean comments, pass casual remarks, shaming her whenever they want.

And you say she needs therapy! Nothing will help unless you stop being too critical and judgemental towards your child. She's growing up. Know this first. It's the crucial time you let her build a strong character for herself.

(You know the best books I read where mothers/fathers/parents give their best to their daughters in bringing them up are Becoming by Michelle Obama, I'm Malala, Unfinished by Priyanka Chopra.)

See the difference for yourself. No parenting guide book will help you like these books.

Parents in the name of doing the best for the best for their kids actually do more harm than they know. Speaking from personal experience. And it's still ongoing.

So yes, books like this are triggering yet at the same time more eye-opening for me.

Hail you, girl.

Hail author!

The writing is flawless.

The characters are so real.

It's almost personal!

The true friendship the main character has. We all deserve that.

And we women should always empower each other.


Starting from our own families.

Stop shaming us for all the possible "flaws" you see in our weight, appearance, style, habits, work, cooking and EVERYTHING else. We aren't the flaws