Slut Shaming Quotes

“A slut is someone, usually a woman, who’s stepped outside of the very narrow lane that good girls are supposed to stay within. Sluts are loud. We’re messy. We don’t behave. In fact, the original definition of “slut” meant “untidy woman.” But since we live in a world that relies on women to be tidy in all ways, to be quiet and obedient and agreeable and available (but never aggressive), those of us who color outside of the lines get called sluts. And that word is meant to keep us in line.”
― Jaclyn Friedman

“You shouldn’t be that way about her,” Alex says. “I hear what people say and I bet half of it isn’t even true. And even if it is—fine. She’s no different from you and me; she wants to have sex. So let her.”
― Mindy McGinnis, The Female of the Species

“Abstaining from sex, hitting the books, and wearing loose-fitting clothes are common ways that girls try to molt their "slutty" image. But more often their shame leads them to self-destructive behavior. They become willing to do things that they wouldn't have dreamed of doing before they were scandalized because they now feel they have so little to offer. Some girls do drugs or drink to excess in an attempt to blot away their stigma. Others become depressed and anorexic. And others think so little of themselves that they date boys who insult or beat them.”
― Leora Tanenbaum, Slut!: Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation

“I look at Kitty, who's braiding Chris's hair in microbraids. She's being extra quiet so we forget she's here and don't kick her out. 'I think that as long as you're ready and it's what you want to do and you're protecting yourself, then it's okay and you should do what you want to do.'

Margot says, 'Society is far too caught up in shaming a woman for enjoying sex and applauding a man. I mean, all of the comments are about how Lara Jean is a slut, but nobody's saying anything about Peter, and he's right there with her. It's a ridiculous double standard.”
― Jenny Han, P.S. I Still Love You

“Prostitute. Whore. What did they really mean anyway? Only words. Words trailing their streamers of judgment. I hated labels anyway. People didn't fit in slots-- prostitute, housewife, saint-- like sorting the mail. We were so mutable, fluid with fear and desire, ideals and angles, changeable as water.”
― Janet Fitch, White Oleander

“You can always evaluate a man's character by the way he speaks about his ex girlfriends and other women. When entering a new relationship or getting close with a new guy, make sure you take notice of the language he uses when referring to other girls”
― Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

“I didn't deserve this. Even the most confused and lost girl, even the most screwed up of us all, doesn't deserve this. Death isn't the consequence for making a mistake; it's the punishment we force on girls because they couldn't be good. Only girls have to die for wanting.”
― T.E. Carter, I Stop Somewhere

“Here’s what I would never, ever admit out loud: a part of me always thought it was some kind of secret compliment when someone got called a slut. It meant you were having sex. Which meant people wanted to have sex with you. Being a slut just meant you were normal. But I think maybe I’m wrong about that.”
― Becky Albertalli, The Upside of Unrequited

“The sexier the other woman is, the more jealous your wife gets. And that's where slut shaming comes from. When a woman is too sexually attractive, when she's too good at attracting the attention of the opposite sex, other women will shame her for it, because they are afraid she will steal their men.”
― Oliver Markus, Why Men And Women Can't Be Friends

“Maybe that was the root of my dislike for her: she had what I wanted, which earned her my jealousy, and since I was ashamed of myself for wanting it, my scorn, as well.”
― Nenia Campbell, Bleeds My Desire

“Does that new man in your life call his ex "a slut", "a whore", "a bitch", "psycho" , "crazy", "a nutter" etc etc. Chances are, whatever he's calling his ex right now, he'll be calling you when things don't go his way. Be warned.”
― Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women

“...maybe she's a slut because she's lonely, she's sad, she's hoping someone or something will make the lonely and sad go away.

It won't, of course. It never does. But nonetheless, there's not a girl who's more hopeful than a slut, more optimistic. She may give in but she doesn't give up. She keeps looking, she keeps hoping, she's always waiting for that someone who will say it: I love you, too.”
― Diana Joseph, I'm Sorry You Feel That Way: The Astonishing But True Story of a Daughter, Sister, Slut, Wife, Mother, and Friend to Man and Dog

“You know, I went out on a normal amount of dates in my early 20s, and I got absolutely slaughtered for it. And it took a lot of hard work and altering my decision-making. I didn’t date for two and a half years. Should I have had to do that? No.”
― Taylor Swift

“She likes boys, and she can get them. You were hurt by that, but it wasn’t Branley who hurt you. It was Adam.”
― Mindy McGinnis, The Female of the Species

“Don't look at me like that. This is a book about a sex scandal: did you really expect me to be a nun and/or the Virgin Mary?”
― Laura Steven, The Exact Opposite of Okay

“I hear they're givin' you a bad reputation
just because you've never been denied.
You try to say you've done it all before,
baby, you know that you just get tired.
Yet everybody loves you so much, girl,
I just don't know how you stand the strain.
Oh, I, I'm the one who's here tonight,
and I don't wanna do it all in vain.”
― Elvis Costello

“If the school population discovers I banged two dudes in one night, the girls will call me a bitch and a slut, and the guys will high five and call me easy while flinging their own feces at each other.”
― Laura Steven, The Exact Opposite of Okay

“No, it’s because you’re fucking pathetic. You’re no better than a human and to top it off you’re nothing but a whore.”
― R.L. Mathewson, Without Regret

“I am that careless girl, hands sunk haphazardly into the dough, bedroom a sty, pen stilled against her hand, eyes cast out the window, humming a song, thinking of something else. I am that outspoken witch; I will disagree with any man. I am a firework gone off in the dark, a spectacle of disobedience, a grand finale of orgasms anytime I want.”
― Melissa Febos, Girlhood

“Did wanting a man she was pissed at make her a slut?”
― R.L. Mathewson, Without Regret

“A lot of performers, if they go to bed with a woman on the road, they think of her as a slut. As a person and a man, what does that make them then? Lowlife or high living, you give as good as you get, and I don't think women's sex lives have a thing to do with the kinds of human beings they are.”
― Waylon Jennings, Waylon: An Autobiography

“It was worth it," Faye says after school while she walks me to my car. "It's not fair that you take all the shit for this while the guys get to walk around like nothing happened. They're just as much to blame."
"I'm the one who started it," I say, kicking a beer cap across the parking lot with my shoe. "If I hadn't started it, nothing would have happened.
"Don't let them off the hook so easily," Faye snaps. "They were coming to you. It takes two to have sex. So don't defend them.”
― Laurie Elizabeth Flynn, Firsts

“In the anonymous dark, the air was heavy with thoughts, the blond girl sitting next to me fighting to breathe normally when a boy suggested she'd be the one raped of the five of us who were called out.”
― Mindy McGinnis, The Female of the Species

“I go both ways", I say, "You know that whole thing about there being a misconception about bisexuals being sluts. Like everyone thinks that just because we're into both we're into everybody?" ... "Well I'm actually kind of a slut. I'm awesome for the community, obviously”
― Hannah Moskowitz, Not Otherwise Specified

“The goddamn bullshit of all this, I swear. The world makes you think God forbid you actually enjoy sex”
― Hannah Moskowitz, Not Otherwise Specified

“I stopped slut-shaming a long time ago, so don't give me shit for living with my mother. It's basically the same thing if you think about it. If you can't grow the fuck up, don't expect me to do a helluva lot of work either.”
― Dmitry Dyatlov

“Unfortunately the wife he got was weak and a slut, something he would never allow himself to have.”
― R.L. Mathewson, Without Regret

“The goddamn bullshit of all this, I swear. The world makes you think God forbid, you actually enjoy sex, but at least you've got all your friends to tell you all the right stuff about how a woman's sexual energy is no one's business but her own and should be respected.”
― Hannah Moskowitz, Not Otherwise Specified

“We are ALL sexually abused by virtue of the fact that we live in a sex-negative society.”
― Annie Sprinkle, Hardcore from the Heart: The Pleasures, Profits and Politics of Sex in Performance

“You said you weren't sleeping with anyone else. You said that to me the night I arrived. The implication of that is pretty clear as day, and you used that ambiguity to your advantage."
"To my advantage?" I was incredulous now.
"You knew this wasn't casual for me. You knew I didn't want to sleep with you if you weren't my girlfriend. You knew that."
"And you deliberately didn't ask. If that was your red line, then surely that was on you to articulate it."
"I did."
"A long time ago," I said, knowing that I sounded like a whiny child who had run out of excuses.
"So you're ready to sleep with anyone that wants to, but God forbid you actually have an emotion about it.”
― Ali Rosen, Recipe for Second Chances