Interviewed Before and After Our First Date - Chris & Emilie

[soft chill music]

My type of guy has dep emotional wounds.

I haven't had a girlfriend in three years.

A little awkward, but you know

nothing out of the ordinary.

I thought he was pretty cute.

My name is Emilie and I'm 32 years old.

My name is Chris and I'm 35.

I'm a teacher, a math teacher in a high school.

I'm an actor and a server.

I grew up in Queens, New York.

I grew up in Fairfield, Connecticut.

I do have a New York accent when I say coffee or water.

I haven't had a girlfriend in over three years

and I've casually dated since.

That's actually a complicated question.

I'd prefer not to answer it.

[Both] Once a month.

Glamour set us up and we had to arrange our date via text.

I was sent her phone number in a group text.

The typical person I go for is someone into art.

Outgoing.

They have to be good looking.

Independent.

95% of the time they're usually Latino,

but you know I switch it up sometimes.

Really sure of themself but also kina weird and nerdy.

My type of guy has deep emotional wounds.

[laughing]

They know themselves pretty well.

Funny, I have a weird sense of humor

so I feel like that needs to line up pretty quickly,

outside of that.

Other than that they're good at something,

either their job or a hobby.

I don't think I have a type,

but I think my roommate would disagree with that.

She would probably say physically someone with big eyes

who's a little bit shorter than me.

Any guy that looks good.

[laughing]

On first dates I'm pretty forward

and I like to share a lot about myself.

Open and funny, curious,

maybe too much energy sometimes.

I don't know, I get nervous

about meeting someone the first time.

Tina Fey.

Unfortunately people say I look like

a poor man's version of Johnny Depp.

Yeah, I like tattoos.

I do like tattoos, I have three of them.

I have eight tattoos.

I'm a Leo.

An Aquarius.

I've had two relationships, one in college,

the love of my life for two years

and then more recently for eight years

on and off with a codependent relationship.

Four or five girlfriends, like serious relationships,

all of them lasted under two years.

I think that my exes would say that I'm a little too

go with the flow.

I'm friendly, kindhearted,

I'd say I'm the life of the party.

And then sometimes a bit too

opinionated about things and stubborn.

I've probably said I love you to maybe six people.

I think I've said I love you to all of my five exes.

Probably not.

Yeah, I did.

I broke up with him.

I think we realized over the course of a few months

that it wasn't working out anymore

and even though I definitely had a lot,

I personally pushed back a lot to try and save it

ultimately it was the right decision and we're cool now.

The worst thing that could happen on this date

is he leaves early or he farts, one of the two.

Either of us get food thrown in our face.

If I fart that would be terrible too.

Trump supporter.

If he told me he was a sociopath,

that would be a red flag.

I have.

I wouldn't define it as cheating

because we had an understanding,

so I guess to phrase that again, no.

Not that I'm aware of.

I think so.

I've been in friends with benefits,

but that's not an open relationship.

Yeah, I have.

I think I would be interested in an open relationship.

I would prefer to start off in a monogamous relationship

and then see what happens.

[laughing]

I'm not sexy.

Uh-uh-uh-uh.

I don't have a move.

[laughing]

Maybe sunglasses and a suit.

I don't think it's a move,

it's more like a look.

That was the most uncomfortable question of all.

Beach.

Mountains.

More money.

More time.

Either.

Marvel.

Neither. [buzzer sounding]

Kylie?

Phone call.

Text.

Warm weather.

Cold weather.

Dogs.

Dogs.

Salty.

Salty.

[Both] Over easy.

Wish me luck.

All right, here we go.

[upbeat music]

Pretty sure it was like, Hey I'm Chris,

and she was like, I'm Emilie,

and I went in for a handshake

and she went in for a hug

and I think we kissed each other on the cheeks.

I think he just like wanted to shake my hand,

but I'm like really aggressive so I was like, Oh hi,

kiss on the cheek type thing.

Little awkward but you know,

nothing out of the ordinary.

I thought he was pretty cute.

Yeah, cute.

Immediately I mean she had a great smile,

really big eyes, she had framed glasses.

Framed glasses, all glasses have frames on them.

What is wrong with me?

The first thing I noticed about him was his energy.

He was very vibrant.

I don't know she was just like very warm and engaging,

ready to like hang out.

Yeah, I liked what he was wearing.

He was waring a button down with sharks on it.

I like sharks.

Maybe someone from those movies with the werewolves.

Kinda like Tina Fey maybe.

[bell dinging]

Cause she was very funny too.

A little, I was a little bit attracted to him.

I was definitely attracted to her,

but I would say that she's not my type normally.

I don't know if I would say anything

was really sexy about him.

I think the sexiest thing about Emilie

was her sense of humor,

like she really made me laugh a lot.

I picked the spot we went to.

It was a Japanese restaurant.

It was a little romantic.

The lights were a little dim.

I think on a quieter night it definitely

could be a romantic spot.

We sat next to like the loudest people

[laughing]

in the restaurant.

Bros next to us who were able

to fit five people in a four top.

We definitely were both a little hungry,

like not dinner size hungry.

And we decided to do two appetizers.

I chose the yellowtail sashimi

and he thought that was a good choice

and then he chose some kind of beef.

I think it was panko breaded beef patty or wagyu beef,

like a beef cake, almost like a crab cake but with beef.

I said beef a lot.

I think choosing to go to another place

just like came up because we were having fun together.

We decided to migrate to another bar.

I said, Hey why don't we head to Brooklyn

since we both live in Brooklyn,

where like I drove my car across to Brooklyn.

We put the radio on and the song High Hopes came on

and we decided to sing along to it.

I don't know, it was just like a really fun, playful energy

and we just like had a great time

on the quick drive over the bridge.

I had to move my car to a place so I could leave it

since I didn't want to drink and drive

so I parked my car to leave it overnight.

Then we get to this second bar

which was more of like a cocktail bar

and stuck with mezcal.

We had a good time and then ended around midnight.

I took an Uber and I think he took the L train.

The date ended by he called me an Uber.

We did a hug and as we were going in for the hug

I was like, Wait let's do this the French style,

and it was like

[kissing sounds]

yeah, that's how it ended.

The date ended with a hug, like a kiss on the cheek

and put her in the Lyft.

No there wasn't.

There was a moment when we were at the second bar

when I did want to [mumbling]

shit, kiss Chris, kiss Chris.

Okay, there was a moment when I did want to kiss Chris.

I had a few drinks in me and I was like

I could just lean over and kiss him real quick,

but I don't know.

I don't know if I was feeling that connection

enough from both of us so I didn't do it.

Pretty early on I felt a stronger platonic vibe with her,

like she was someone I'd been friends with for awhile,

but we were having such a good time

I wanted to continue hanging out.

I'd say he might be a good kisser.

I honestly could not tell you.

[laughing]

I think the best part of the date

was when we went to the second place.

Singing along to Panic at the Disco in the car

and getting it on video.

It was just a really fun, silly, organic moment.

No words, just smile.

Outgoing.

I might have laughed, but maybe at my own jokes.

[laughing]

I did laugh a lot on the date.

The thing that made me laugh the most

was when he was talking about that drunken night in college.

I think that we laughed the most

after recording the video of us singing along

to Panic at the Disco's song High Hopes.

It's not, I wouldn't say it's least attractive in him,

but I like guys that have broader shoulders

and he just wasn't that guy so.

There wasn't really anything

that I was least attracted to.

I would go on a second date if he wanted

to go on a second date with me as well, you never know.

I would if she knows that I just want to hang out

as friends but not as like a romantic date.

But can I add this though when I showed a photo of him

to one of my friends I think she said something like,

Yeah, he's not really your type.

I agreed with her that he's not really my type,

just cause he doesn't have that broad shoulders

you know like.

Yeah, I can totally see ourselves being friends.

Oh we're definitely gonna be friends.

We both talked about, he was like if you ever do improv

or anything like that like let me know,

so I wouldn't mind grabbing more tequila with him.

We chatted a little bit the day after the date.

She was on her way to pick up her car.

She was letting me know.

I was going to go pick up the car

and he was kind of like Good luck with that,

and I was like Yeah, I have to commute

an hour just to get it,

and then he said, he said Woof, instead of oof.

I don't know if he knows how to say oof via text

so he said, woof.

So I don't know what that was about.

I used the word woof and to me that's like

ugh, like that sucks.

I use it often.

I wasn't going to mention that, but it's kind of funny.

Sorry Chris.

[laughing]

I'm glad I went on the date, he's a cool dude.

Yeah.

I like Chris, he's a great guy.

I just think that there was a little spark

that might have been missing.

I don't think so.

[Interviewer] On a scale of one to five

with five being the highest

how was the conversation?

I'd give the conversation a five.

Five.

[Interviewer] How much did you have in common?

I'd say we had a lot in common so a five.

Four.

[Interviewer] Rate your physical attraction to Chris.

I'd give him a 3.5 in attraction level.

Four.

[Interviewer] How compatible do you think

that you and Chris are?

Romantically I think we are about a three compatibility.

Three to four.

[Interviewer] How much did you enjoy your date?

I'd give him a five.

Five.

[Interviewer] How likely would you say yes

to a second date?

I'd say a four.

One.

Hey Chris now that you're watching this,

shit let me do that again.

I don't even know what to say.

Emilie if you're seeing this

I just want you to know I had such an awesome time

hanging out with you.

I feel like we got on super, super well with each other.

I think that we'd make awesome friends.

Text me later.

Now that you're watching this let's hang out.

I hope you said good things about me.

And if you're ever hanging out around the magnet

or doing comedy or pursuing the artistic stuff

that you said that you wanted to pursue

like I'd be totally down catching one of your shows,

meeting up and seeing how it's going for you.

I think just be open to conversation.

She's great to talk to just match the engagement

and interest.

Advice, I would say my advice would be

just be as friendly as I am and you'll be all right.