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Control freak

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The colloquialism control freak usually describes a person obsessed with performing tasks in a way they perceive as correct. A control freak can become distressed when someone causes a deviation in the way they prefer to perform tasks.[1] Someone who tries control how other people perform tasks, even with no good reason for interfering, can also be considered a control freak.[2]

This expression was introduced around the 1960s.[3]

Characteristics[edit]

Control freaks tend to have a psychological need to be in charge of things and people - even circumstances that cannot be controlled. The need for control, in extreme cases, stems from deeper psychological issues such as obsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), anxiety disorders or personality disorders.[2]

Control freaks are often insecure and perfectionists.[4] Additionally, they may even manipulate or pressure others to change to avoid having to change themselves. They may have had an overbearing mother or father.[5] Furthermore, control freaks sometimes have similarities to codependents, in the sense that the latter's fear of abandonment leads to attempts to control those they are dependent on.[6]

Examples[edit]

  • Steve Jobs — Steve Jobs was a perfectionist who favored the closed system of control over all aspects of a product from start to finish — what he termed the integrated over the fragmented approach.[7] As Steve Wozniak, his long-term collaborator and occasional critic, put it: "Apple gets you into their playpen and keeps you there".[8]
  • Queen Victoria — A series of three documentary programs on BBC2 in the UK in January 2013 called Queen Victoria's Children argued that Queen Victoria was a pathological control freak by the way she controlled the welfare of all her children.[9]

See also[edit]

References[edit]

  1. ^ "Control freak Definition & Meaning". Dictionary.com. Retrieved 2022-05-13.
  2. ^ a b "How to Deal with a Control Freak". Health Essentials. Cleveland Clinic. 5 May 2020. Retrieved 5 May 2020.
  3. ^ Kristin Glaser, in The Radical Therapist (Penguin 1974) p. 246
  4. ^ Michelle N. Lafrance, Women and Depression (2009) p. 89
  5. ^ Robin Skynner/John Cleese, Families and how to survive them (London 1994) p. 208
  6. ^ David Stafford & Liz Hodgkinson, Codependency (London 1995) p. 131
  7. ^ Walter Isaacson, Steve Jobs (2011) p. 564 and p. 513
  8. ^ Quoted in Isaacson, p. 497
  9. ^ Queen Victoria's Children BBC2 January 2013