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You may have finally located The One — in the age of Hinge and 'breadcrumbing', that's a remarkable achievement — but being in a long-term relationship doesn't come without its challenges.
A common one: keeping that fire and excitement alive. Having spent many hours horizontal, you may have slipped into the habit of ticking a few key boxes before settling for the same old positions.
However, if you are looking to mix it up and try something new, sex games are a great way to bring a spot of spontaneity to the bedroom.
You've got a host of options, though, including dice which dictate your next sexual stance, coupons to focus your foreplay, and board games totally unlike Monopoly.
Thankfully, our sex writer has tried and tested a host of them to make sure you're not on the losing team, left feeling frustrated and unsatisfied.
So, keep reading for a rundown of our favourites, plus some top tips from pros in the industry on how to keep that sexual spark alive.
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What are sex games?
In short, sex games are anything which brings fun and friendly laughter to your next round of partnered play — whether that be a kinky set of cards or a not-so-innocent take on classic pastimes like Connect 4 and Jenga (spoiler: we’ve found both).
But why would/should you consider using sex games?
'Sex games can help you learn and enjoy what you like and dislike during sex — they make it fun and allow you to be fully in the moment’ explains Sex and Relationship Coach, Gemma Nice.
Bayu Prihandito, psychologist and life coach at Life Architekture agrees: ‘Sex games can introduce a sense of playfulness into the bedroom. They bring adventure and curiosity, essential elements for keeping the spark alive.
‘In a way, they can serve as a tool for couples to keep discovering each other, maintaining a sense of novelty and excitement.’
The best sex games at a glance
- Best for beginners: Lovehoney Position of the Week Cards, £9.99
- Best on a budget: Sexy 6 Foreplay Dice Game, £9.99
- Best speedy sex game: Bondara Sex! Scratch Cards, £7.99
- Best sex board game: Lovehoney Oh! The Big Oh! Board Game, £24.99
- Best edible sex game: For Play Couples Chocolate (Hers & Hers), £28
- Best for BDSM fans: Ann Summers Blow Job Set, £25
How we test the best sex games
Let’s say ‘working from home’ took on a new meaning for the WH writers and editors who offered to help.
We selected a variety of sex games, including sex dice, booty-themed board games and accessory bumper packs to trial. These came from numerous retailers, including Lovehoney, Bondara, Ann Summers and Amazon, with options to suit all budgets.
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Our volunteers were asked to examine the games, their packaging, any additional extras and instructions before playing a minimum of two rounds. Plus, because everyone’s tastes differ, we also scoured the online reviews for high praise and constructive criticism from paying customers.
The members of our team, and their willing partners, identify as either female, male or gender-neutral and have varying levels of sexual experience. They also sit at different points on the sexuality spectrum.
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From sexy dice to Clone-A-Willy kits, here are some of our favourite sex games under £40.
For Play Couples Chocolate (Hers & Hers)
Pros
- 100% vegan and designed by an artesian chocolatier
- Official testers say they experienced a drop in inhibition, a greater desire to experiment and a sense of being more present
- Best paired with one of For Play’s tailor-made Spotify playlists
Cons
- Not for coeliacs or the gluten-intolerant
There’s literal science to suggest dark chocolate can boost your mood, the fatty acid N-acylethanolamines praised by some for having euphoric effects and relieving feelings of anxiety.
But For Play went the extra mile by infusing its bite-sized cocoa treats, best paired with its Truth or Dare-style card game, with botanicals and adaptogens. While the ‘her’ variety contains fenugreek, Korean ginseng extract and ashwagandha, ‘his’ swaps out the latter for maca, which may help boost your libidos and enhance date night.
FYI, this two-player game requires prior planning; it’s recommended you give the ingredients 60 minutes to get to work. And while every pack comes with six chocolates (one each for three rounds), you can continue to call on the cards afterwards. Yep, this set is anything but a useless novelty.
For Play Couples Chocolate (His & Hers)
For Play Couples Chocolate (His & His)
Lovehoney Position of the Week Cards
Pros
- Wipe clean
- Travel-friendly
- No prior planning or extras (toys, bondage, body chocolate) required
Cons
- Heterosexual heavy — although most will work with a strap-on dildo
There’s a reason we regularly return to missionary and doggy — they’re old classics because they, figuratively and literally, hit the spot.
But if you’re ready to reposition, this pack of cards offers 52 sultry suggestions — plus a handy diagram and detailed description of how each move should work. There's also an optional star-rating system so you can easily keep track of your top-rated.
Be reassured that they cover all bases, including lazy favourites (The Dancer) to the more athletic (The See-Saw). But our sex writer Sophie’s top tip: ‘Ditch the 75 Hard Challenge and try the 52 Tactile. AKA work through the entire pack, not skipping over the scary or complex. Cue multiple orgasms and a strong sense of accomplishment.'
Sexy 6 Foreplay Dice Game
Pros
- You’ve got options — ditch the dice that don’t suit your sexual tastes or to simplify
- Made for matches of all ages (18+ obviously), genders and with varying levels of sexual experience
Cons
- Exclusively for those with 20/20 vision
You may agree with Amanda Woods (AKA Cameron Diaz in The Holiday) and think foreplay is ‘significantly overrated.’ However, for those who don’t, these sex dice will have you hitting every base in an unpredictable order.
This six-pack delivers clear instructions, with each roll offering up a person (you or me), role (giving or receiving), sex act, body part, direction (AKA slowly, sensually...) and location. All you have to do is consent and comply.
Thankfully, each die has been numbered for easy reading, while the black and pink colourway ensures they won’t get lost among your sheets. Plus, the fact that you need only one hand to play, nothing else, means they can be called on in the heat of the moment.
Nice commented: ‘If you are looking to spice up your intimacy during foreplay, these dice give you over 720 sex combinations to explore — and at a great price to add a bit of surprise into the mix.’
Bondara Sex! Scratch Cards
Pros
- Made for those seeking spontaneity and surprise
- For the eco-conscious, they’re 100% recyclable
- Pocket-sized and travel-friendly
Cons
- Regular references to he/she pairings
If your luck is anything like ours, your lifetime scratch card winnings total about £20. But that doesn’t stop us from chasing the dopamine hit. Thankfully, Bondara’s lottery guarantees a win every time.
Scratch and match three symbols to find out whether you’re heading for a rollover or a fiery bit of foreplay. Prizes include positions like ‘doggy style’, ‘sideways straddle’ and ‘woman on top’. Yeehaw!
There are only eight variations, so this might be more of a one-hit wonder than a regular date night activity, but as a quick non-verbal indicator that you’re in the mood, these are just the ticket.
Ann Summers Blow Job Set
Pros
- Works out at just £6.25 a sex-ssory — all of which can be used separately
- Velcro fastenings aid an easy, unassisted exit
- One review raved: ‘The kit has everything you need for a banging BJ!’
Cons
- Not particularly hard-wearing
Strictly speaking, this isn’t a sex game, but rather a beginner-friendly BDSM kit that will have you channelling Christian/Cristina Grey. With a set of plush-lined handcuffs, a body strap and a satin eyemask in every pack, you’ve got all the essentials needed for a night of experimenting with playful punishment.
But also included is a stretchy silicone cock ring, designed to boost his staying power by limiting blood flow back down the penis. Of course, this can also be used on its own. Simply slather in lube before sliding on a semi-erect dong and stick to sessions of under 20 minutes to limit his chances of chaffing or bruising.
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Bondara Choc On Choc Milk Chocolate Body Pen
Pros
- Suitable for vegans and vegetarians
- The perfect novelty gift or stocking stuffer
Cons
- Shoppers say it’s a tad sticky
Yet another chocolate offering for the sweet-toothed — or budding artists looking for a creative outlet. This chocolate body pen, the contents of which have been (lovingly) crafted by award-winning UK-based chocolatiers, offers endless possibilities with limited cleanup.
So, challenge your partner to a game of naked Noughts and Crosses, the winner dictating the next sequence of events. Or write instructions for your other half so they remember not to skip your favourite spots.
Again, we wouldn’t technically class this one as a sex game but more of an edible extra. However, it’s a great choice if you’re looking to bring some jovial energy and laughter into the bedroom.
Lovehoney Weekend in Bed Bondage Kit and Game
Pros
- Works out at under £4 per bondage accessory — despite the fact the paddle alone would set you back £16.99
- If you’re intrigued by sexual domination and discipline, this offers a decent introduction, thanks to that mini flogger, paddle and tickler
Cons
- We don’t love the old porn-style design of the cards
With 10% of Brits claiming one of their sexual fantasies is to experiment with light BDSM (handcuffs, ties and blindfolds), we sought out a suitable game.
As part of this eight-piece set, you’ll get a pint-sized paddle, feather tickler, miniature flogger, a sex die, massage candle, faux leather blindfold and a satin storage pouch to store it all in. Plus, so you’re not left wondering what to do with all that equipment, the designers have added two sets of cards, one detailing possible sexual scenarios and the other role-play ideas.
Then, once you’re well acquainted with your kit, use the 10 fill-in-the-blank cards to tailor your next sessions of teasing and touching to your tastes. Our suggestion: make one of those a ‘switch’ card so you can swap the roles of dom and sub.
Lovehoney Oh! Talk Dirty Playing Cards
Pros
- Built for novices and pros
- 52 cards & phrases to keep you busy
Cons
- One shopper said the suggested games are a little confusing, so make up your own
Asking your partner to talk dirty might seem like a fairly simple request, but even working out which term to use for vagina — flower, lady garden, food (?!) — can be enough to induce anxiety. Luckily, that’s where this pack of playing cards comes in rather handy.
Split into four suits, the 52 cards offer everything from considerate compliments to daring demands. Players can either use them to build a script — perfect if you’re planning a long-distance phone date — or to play one of the three suggested on the back of the pack.
There are also ‘blank’ Joker cards, allowing you to throw in a few of your own phrases. Although, we do recommend skipping all garden references if you don’t want to soil the mood (sorry).
Nice added: ‘If you’ve thought about dirty talk but are a little reluctant, this card-playing game is a great add-on to build confidence. Having fun and staying relaxed will get the juices flowing.’
Clone-A-Willy Glow In The Dark Vibrator Moulding Kit Pink
Pros
- Ideal for C, G or P-spot stimulation
- Use it manually or add the vibrating unit for added gusto
Cons
- No instant gratification with this one
- That motor has just one vibration setting
Are arts and crafts more your thing? This DIY moulding kit allows you to create a perfect replica of any penis — obviously ask first — before turning it into a multi-speed vibrating dildo. Simply add water to the moulding powder and start sculpting.
So, if you’re in long-distance love, or want to gift your partner something really personal, we’d consider using this to complete your ménage à trois.
You will need to stock up on AA batteries before you test out your creation. Oh, and all three vibrant hues (neon pink, green and blue) glow in the dark.
Also considering the entire kit comes in at under £40, the 130 five-star ratings don't surprise us, with one fan penning this review: ‘I was a bit sceptical but I’m pleased to say it worked a treat. The detail is amazing and extremely lifelike.’
Lovehoney Foreplay in a Row
Pros
- Get those competitive juices flowing
- Takes seconds to assemble / dismantle
- One fan commented: ‘It’s great to be led by game… I just wish I was any good at it. Although, even when you lose, you still win.’
Cons
- You’ll have to supply the sex toys and bondage accessories referenced throughout
Yep, Lovehoney has taken that family-friendly game and put a frisky spin on it. The main difference: this one’s best played with your kit off.
Use four (or more) counters to very clearly tell your partner what you want, with each dictating instructions like ‘nibble ear’, ‘talk dirty’, ‘massage back’ and ‘tie up.’
If we’re honest, there were some instructions our team were keener on than others — ‘trim her hair’ raised some eyebrows — but you can quickly tailor each round by removing the pieces that don’t align with your sexual preferences.
And as this effortlessly dismantles into two, it’s ideal for taking away on your next staycation. The hardest part is trying to score a row without getting distracted...
Ann Summers Couples Role Play Card Game
Pros
- Feel out your fantasies
- Best suited to role-play beginners
Cons
- No revolutionary ideas — but there are all your favourites like the sexy plumber and the sought-after sporting star
Some experts argue role play can boost your connection outside the bedroom, due to the fact it requires a reasonable amount of vulnerability and trust. Plus, as a bonus, it provides a safe and controlled environment to live out your fantasies.
So, if you’ve been keen to try a bit of acting but aren’t sure how to bring the subject up to your partner or where to start, employ the help of this pack of cards.
Each comes with a persona and a scenario, so all you have to do is get into character. Again, this is tailorable to your tastes, just ditch the ideas that don’t do it for you.
Shoppers suggest this one might be best suited to established couples, but we’re all for it if you want to try this on your next no-strings sesh too.
And you may need some reinforcements, like lingerie — luckily the Elated Padded Plunge Bra and matching thong come in at under £30.
Ann Summers Sex Vouchers
Pros
- Suitable for adults of all ages, genders and sexual orientations
- Ideal if you struggle with communication
Cons
- Try not to fight over who gets which cheques
If you know exactly what you want but find verbalising it a little tricky — no judgement, it’s extremely common — these sex cards do the talking for you.
Decorated with 26 prompts like ‘sex in your favourite position’, it’ll be pretty clear how you want your night next date night to play out. Or get creative and fill in the blank cards with some of your own suggestions. Just hang on to each cheque as we’re pretty sure you’ll want to cash them again.
Coming in at just £5, these are one of the cheapest options in our edit. But we certainly wouldn’t label them a useless novelty when they allow you to improve your communication skills.
One fan shared her tactic, commenting: ‘These sex vouchers are a great way of initiating sex or hinting at the subject. They make it easy to write out IOUs for your partner to look forward to later.’
Ann Summers Never Have I Ever Card Game
Pros
- Works for twos, threes and more
- Pocket-sized and travel-friendly
Cons
- May spark a little jealousy
Never Have I Ever is notorious for breaking the ice — although here's hoping you won’t need that with your significant other. So, instead, we’d suggest sliding this naughty version of the group game into your next hen weekend — because nothing will bond a group of strangers more than confessions about their best and worst sexual experiences.
The 55 cards cover it all, from positions to role play and sex toys, with prompts like ‘never have I ever... used a butt plug during foreplay’ and ‘...had a complaint from my neighbours for having sex too loud.’
However, we’d also suggest using this to inspire your booty bucket list — because it’s always good to have goals and aspirations, right?
Holla Banana O-ing Tower Stacking Wooden Blocks Game
Pros
- Multi player-friendly
- Foreplay-focused
Cons
- Not The One if you're in the mood for a quicky
- It’s not the highest quality game with a couple of mispellings and grammar errors littered throughout
Who doesn’t love a game that means you still win even when you lose?
This one’s just like Jenga, except each of the 54 wooden stackable blocks has been printed with 27 Truth or Dare questions and another 17 cheeky challenges to help you get to know each other’s sexual desires and limits better.
Our testers did say some instructions were a little tame — the adjective 'soppy’ was also thrown about — particularly examples like ‘give three adorable things about your partner’ and ‘say I love you while looking into your partner’s eyes.’ But if you prefer romance over raunchy requests, you’ll be satisfied.
While it’s not the quietest or most discreet game in our line-up, it will get you talking (and touching), so we suggest saving this one for your next cosy night in.
What are the benefits of incorporating sex games?
This is kind of like asking what the benefits of sex are (there are loads, FYI), but aside from the general boost to your mental well-being, great sex can facilitate deeper connection and communication with your partner.
‘Sex games can build trust, communication and intimacy,’ explains Nice.
‘They can also help reduce stress and anxiety, kick-starting the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest), rather than fight or flight response.’
Prihandito agrees, adding: ‘Sex games can improve a couple's intimate dynamics by creating an environment of open and honest communication.’
‘They allow open conversations about one's desires, fantasies, and comfort zones, developing mutual understanding and respect. They add variety and intrigue to intimate moments.’
Even better news — they can bring about a host of physical benefits too.
‘By stimulating different areas or introducing new sensations, they can heighten physical pleasure, leading to a more fulfilling intimate experience.’
How to bring up using sex games with your partner
Suggesting you try something new in the bedroom can be a little daunting, so Prihandito has three tips to make that conversation a little easier:
Pick the right moment
‘Approach the topic of sex games with care and respect. Try to choose a relaxed, non-sexual moment to introduce the idea,’ suggests Prihandito.
‘This will ensure that there's no pressure on either party and you both can discuss the topic comfortably.’
Nice adds: ‘Journal what you would like to say so you have an idea and then say it. Let your partner listen and take in what their response is.’
Be 100% honest
As difficult as laying all your cards on the table can be, Prihandito admits that being upfront and honest will make it easier in the long run.
‘Be transparent and honest in communicating your interests and desires, explaining why you think sex games could enhance your relationship.
‘Ensure the conversation is two-sided, inviting your partner to share their feelings and concerns.’
Make sure you're empathetic
‘Empathy is essential. Understand that your partner's initial reactions may be of surprise or discomfort.
‘Be patient by providing them the space and time to process the idea. If they seem unsure, encourage them to research and even offer to explore the subject together.’
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Sophie Donovan is the Sex and Relationships Senior Ecommerce Writer for Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and Men’s Health. Sophie is passionate about everything sexual wellness, offering her readers honest reviews on vibrators, BDSM for beginners, sex essentials like lube and condoms, plus feminine hygiene products such as period pants. She also spends her working week quizzing sexperts on their top tips for a satisfying sex life.
Sophie’s journalism career began in 2019 when she completed News Associates’ 22-week NCTJ fast-track Multimedia Journalism course and was awarded a Gold Standard Diploma. Accepting a place on The Sun’s Trainee Scheme, she gained experience on the newspaper’s print Showbiz, Production and Fabulous Magazine teams. After completing the graduate programme, she worked for Dear Deidre, where her role included publishing a weekly advice column offering sex, financial and mental health support, plus assisting with the launch of the brand’s Instagram page and first podcast series.
Outside of work, Sophie can either be found working on her love/hate relationship with running or dragging her friends to yet another F45 class. You can follow Sophie on Instagram @soph_don / @sextingthecity.
