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Jenny Russell, from Northallerton, is troubled by a “gentleman” who shakes her hand like a vice and will not let go.

What an oaf — or a lascivious rotter. Some idiots try to demonstrate their virility by the force of their handshake. I should have belted him round the ear with the handbag in my free hand. In future, I should salute him with a smile and a little bob or bow. But I would not offer my hand again.

PH

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Lyndall Barbour, Warminster: “Some people are convinced that ladies like a firm handshake that goes on for ever, as it shows masterfulness. I think one could say, ‘I think you need deep psychotherapy,’ very quietly to him.”

David Agress, Newport Beach, California: “Extend your hand, but fix him with a stern glance. Advise him in friendly tones, but no uncertain terms, that you are not one to tolerate a vice-like grip twice. Even a brute will get the message when delivered with the full force of your personality.”

Elizabeth Ambler, Exeter: “Next time, rest your right hand oh-so-lightly on his left shoulder, give him a peck on the cheek and say how lovely it is to see him again. Surely no one shakes hands on a second social encounter?”

Readers are invited to send their responses to this week’s question by June 23. A selection will be printed in a fortnight.

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I have neighbours who, when driving away, toot their car horn as a farewell, irrespective of the hour (even at 2am). This of course wakes everyone in the street. Should I confront them or just keep quiet?

Sean McLeod, London

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