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Changing from gay to straight: what you think

Patrick Muirhead described switching from a gay lifestyle to his heterosexual quest to find a wife and have a family

Patrick Muirhead came out for the second time, only this time in reverse; in his article for the Times he described his decision to turn straight after being gay for 20 years. His explanation met with an interesting response from Times readers. The reaction ranged from encouraging to hostile to, at times, philosophical. Here’s what you had to say.

U K wrote:

So you are having a mid life crisis. Get a Porsche; cheaper and more fun than a marriage

Karen Calloway wrote:

I enjoyed your story and hope you continue (with success!) on your journey to discovery. I commend you for your desire to find that emotional commitment you have missed out on apparently and that you find a truly special lady.

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Ewan Oosami wrote:

As we are often told you are gay because you are born that way, how come you can suddenly change? Sounds like that excuse is wearing a bit thin now

David Murphy wrote:

Congratulations on this. I have to agree with pretty much all you say. Well done for recognising that it’s not normal and that you can decide to be happy in a straight relationship.

Chris Davies wrote:

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Sorry, but it seems that you’ve decided to be a gay man with a wife and a child. A bit different to deciding not to be gay. You might not be homosexual. But you certainly don’t sound hetero to me. Best of luck navigating your confusion

David Braham wrote:

Bisexual and homosexual people have no control and lead undisciplined lives

pop parvey wrote:

At your age I think you just need to find a nice hobby

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Olde Jannner wrote:

I think (well I am hetero) you will enjoy yourself a whole lot more putting it where it was designed to go.

dddd bbbb wrote:

This article reads, to me, more like a yearning for fatherhood rather than women. I am sure you will find a very kind and very understanding woman who will not be as dismissive of your life up to now as you appear to be. Good luck.

George Vanheusen wrote:

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Tolerance is just another word for accepting decadence. Our society should foster healthy and natural relationships, so that our children are not born into a confused world, which promotes things which no one (except for gays of course) REALLY wants to tolerate.

Tezza Fish wrote:

You’ve discovered that you’re bisexual, nothing wrong with that and I wish you well on your journey to rediscovering yourself.

Al Fresco wrote:

It’s so refreshing to hear someone admit that actually they realise it was wrong for them. I suspect this is the tip of the iceberg!

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Gil Goodman wrote:

Well done for being so brave and open about changing teams!

Josh Williams wrote:

Human propensity to change and evolve with one’s soul is quite astonishing.