CRUEL CURSE
I’m too handsome – women always believe I’m going to cheat on them
I tell them that fidelity has got nothing to do with looks, but they don’t believe me
DEAR DEIDRE: BEING too handsome is ruining my relationships.
Women think I’m so good-looking that I’m bound to cheat, but all I want is to settle down.
I’m 38 but look 25. I’m 6ft 2in, with a full head of hair, blue eyes, a square jaw and a naturally good physique.
If I sound conceited, I’m really not. I know nature has blessed me but looks aren’t that important to me.
I’m not vain and I don’t even go to the gym. Yet every woman I date says I’m far too fit to consider having a serious relationship with.
They all think I’ll cheat because they believe I can have any woman I want, and they’re not good enough.
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I tell them that fidelity has got nothing to do with looks, but they don’t believe me.
Recently, I met a woman who I fell madly in love with.
She became so insecure when people said she was “reaching” that she ended our relationship.
What can I do? I’d love to get married and have kids.
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DEIDRE SAYS: The problem isn’t your good looks, but the insecurity of the women you date, and the fact society places so much value on appearance.
Be patient. The right woman won’t be frightened away, and she will trust you not to cheat.
Focus on friendship first, so romance comes naturally.
Perhaps next time you date, make a point of saying how beautiful you think your girlfriend is.
And point out that studies show most couples are of similar levels of attractiveness, regardless of their own perceptions.
My support pack, Finding The Love Of Your Life should help.
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