Loyalty in relationships is a key foundational value, and one woman's loyalty appears to stretch far and wide—even to single women flirting with her boyfriend.
A video posted to TikTok by Emily (@emilykrogsboel) has gone viral after revealing the surprising opinion she had on single women flirting with her boyfriend: He should give them his social media handle and encourage their confidence. Since the video was posted on July 1, it has received 1.3 million views and over 119,000 likes.
"Unpopular opinion: I want my boyfriend to talk to the girls that walk up to him because they find him attractive," she captioned the video. "I want him to be kind and respectful and give him [sic] his Instagram if they ask."
Emily continued: "I am not saying I want him to follow them back and start talking to them more, but if a girl has the courage to walk up to a guy, I never want my boyfriend to be the reason they don't have the courage to do it again. You go, girl!"
In the caption, she asked viewers if they agreed with her sentiment. While many did, they said they may not go as far as encouraging him to give out his Instagram handle.
"I also want him to be nice but that doesn't mean he has to give his Instagram out," @nunezzaida wrote. "He can nicely say he has a girlfriend."
"I'm not sure about the Instagram part, because that feels like leading them on, but yes to all the rest," @devynbrowne wrote. "I would be embarrassed if I found out my boyfriend was rude to a girl who was just being nice!"
One person gave a scripted alternative to the offer of an Instagram handle: "'You seem so sweet, but I actually have a girlfriend. But I really appreciate you coming up to me and complimenting me, and commend your confidence,'" @trraveldiaries wrote.
Emily's video prompted many in the comments to reflect on their perspectives about relationships, especially as they relate to trust. A 2020 study found that the development of trust in romantic partners proved uniquely important for stability in relationships.
One person spoke about possessiveness as a barrier to this trust: "This," @jcprv2 wrote. "I don't own him; he doesn't own me. I don't like possessive/obsessive relationships, which apparently is super weird in this generation...if my friend is cold, I want him to give her his jumper (if he's not cold)...I want him to be nice and respectful."
"It takes courage and it's such a compliment!" @jrrh26 wrote, agreeing with Emily. "Every time I tell my boyfriend someone asked me out, he says, 'No wonder, because you're so amazing.'"
Newsweek has reached out to @emilykrogsboel for comment via TikTok.
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