A man who admitted he was suspicious of his fianceé shared how he decided to hire a private investigator to follow her on her girl's holiday. As she goes away every year with her friends, he had a gut feeling she may have been up to no good.
Stating he was "deeply ashamed" for resorting to the extreme measures, his suspicions were affirmed by the investigator, and now he's wondering how he should approach the subject, as he regrets "snooping and not trusting her enough", but he doesn't know if it's best to confess or just leave her with no explanation.
Sharing his ordeal on Reddit, he asked the advice of others on how he should confront his fiancée as he "no longer wants to be with her". He wrote: "My fiancée and I have been together for five years. Every year, she goes on this girls-only trip with her close friends. Something in my gut had been bothering me about these trips. Maybe it was the slight changes in her behaviour afterwards or the cryptic conversations I'd overhear.
"Instead of directly confronting her, I did something I'm deeply ashamed of. I hired a private investigator to watch her during her recent trip. I got back the results a few days ago, and as much as I regret violating her privacy, my suspicions were not unfounded. The PI presented evidence of her being unfaithful. It shattered my heart.
"Now, I'm caught in this storm of emotions. On one hand, I deeply regret snooping and not trusting her enough to talk about it. On the other, the betrayal from her side feels even more significant. I love her, but I can't see a future together anymore.
How do I even approach this situation? Do I confess my snooping? Or just end things without revealing the reason? Any advice is welcome."
He then later shared an update on his situation as numerous people told him to confess to her. He updated Redditors and said that he tried to "handle things maturely" and he gave her a chance to come clean and asked "if there was anything she wanted to share about her trip" to which he claimed he was gaslit, making him question his "own perceptions and reality."
He further detailed: "Having the evidence I had, I confronted her about the affair. She was taken aback and immediately asked how I knew. I told her the truth, that I hired a PI. I didn't want to falsely accuse any of her friends as some of you suggested, even though, honestly, part of me was tempted.
"She was furious. I've never seen her that angry in all our years together. Additionally, feeling it was the right thing to do, I shared the evidence with one of her friends' boyfriends so he could be informed and consider getting tested, if necessary. It was clear to both of us that our relationship had reached a breaking point. We broke up right then. Despite it being my house that I've financially covered for us, I left and checked into a hotel, giving her space and asking her to pack her things and move out."
Many people were quick to praise the actions the heartbroken man took, as one user commented: "Well handled man, better than mine I'd of strongly considered the mysterious not tell her how I know, just come on I just know lol, soo juicy. But kudos for telling other spouses, you're the real one," and another said: "She revealed her character all around, thankfully you didn't marry this trash. F**k her, sorry you had to deal with her."
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