When you get married, it's not unusual to set up a registry for the items you'd like your guests to bring as their wedding gifts, so that people don't all buy the same thing and leave you with 10 different toasters.
But one bride has been left fuming with the gift her cousin's family decided to buy her, as although it is a gift from her registry, they've all grouped together to buy her one of the cheaper items between the five of them - which she doesn't think is fair.
The bride, from the US, explained that issues with her cousin first started when she asked if her teenage daughter could bring her boyfriend as a plus one to the wedding. The bride denied the request at first but she eventually gave in after realising she didn't want to start a "family feud" over it.
However, because the teenager and her boyfriend are in college in another part of the country, the bride's cousin is paying for both of them to fly back home and stay in a hotel for the wedding.
And when the whole family grouped together to buy one of the cheapest items on the registry, the bride couldn't help but get annoyed. She believed it was because they'd stretched their budget bringing the plus one, whom the bride didn't really want to invite in the first place.
In a post on Reddit, she said: "My fiancé and I are having a child-free wedding, but for relatives with grown/grown-ish children, we included the kids.
"As soon as we sent out our save the dates, my cousin texts me to ask for a plus one for her daughter in college. I explained that we aren't doing plus ones especially if we have never met the 'significant other' and she pushed back. This went back and forth frostily for a few days until my cousin started trying to involve other people in the argument and I gave in and decided it wasn't worth starting a family feud over.
"Fast forward to now, we have sent our invitations and registry info. My cousin immediately bought one of the cheaper things on the registry and put it down as being from the whole family (now five people). I know my cousin and her husband are paying for the kids to come the wedding since the kids are young without a lot of disposable income.
"If their daughter's boyfriend coming hadn't been such an issue, I wouldn't have thought twice about a smaller family gift, but it feels like if they're able to help pay for him to come (flight and hotel needed since they're out of town), they could have just spent that on a nicer gift instead of bringing someone I don't know or care to have at my wedding."
The bride said she isn't one to care about gifts normally, as she knows a wedding isn't about "getting stuff", but she still believes the gift the family bought doesn't show any "actual gratitude" for the extra invite she allowed them to have.
She added: "Although it seems like they're very comfortable money-wise, I understand that you can really never know anyone's finances, and ultimately, we're inviting everyone to celebrate not to get stuff!
"However, having given her daughter a plus one, I expected that they'd do a nicer gift as a family, or the daughter and her boyfriend would do a smaller gift on their own as a gesture. It's less about the money and more that it doesn't feel like there is any actual gratitude or the extra invite.
"For added context: the wedding is [around] 160 people, and the total cost of their group gift is about what we are paying per plate. I feel like a brat even writing this post, but something about all this is rubbing me the wrong way."
Commenters on the post were split, as although some slammed the bride as "entitled", others said her cousin was also in the wrong for demanding another invite.
One person said: "You are being entitled. Sure, you can have rules as to who comes to your wedding, but you can't expect certain gifts from guests."
While another added: "It's rude to insist upon a plus one and even ruder to bring another family into it to get your way but expecting a bigger gift as well as a separate gift from the plus one makes you the entitled a**hole."
And a third wrote: "You should never expect a gift or expect it to be of a certain value, nobody is obligated to get you anything. However, they overstepped their bounds by asking for a plus one and then made it worse by not accepting no for an answer."
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