A 'bridezilla' has been slammed for ordering her guest to follow 29 strict rules on her three-hour wedding day - or else. The 23-year-old wants her wedding day to go off without a hitch so she came up with a plan to make sure everyone behaved 'correctly' throughout the day.
Within this, she and her fiancé, 25, agreed on 29 "very strict" rules for their guests to follow from start to finish - covering everything from what they'd be eating, their clothing, and how they could enjoy themselves.
She said on Reddit: "The reason for that is because although the wedding is very short, it's very important. Me and my fiancé told all our families and friends we would be having a lot of rules and they all assured us they were fine with it.
"At that time we hadn't discussed the rules yet, we just knew it would be very strict. Me and my fiancé carefully chose the rules and in total there was about 30 rules." However, she was taken aback when her guests started to complain about her rules and requirements - confused as to why they couldn't get behind her vision.
The couple's full list of rules:
- Women wear pale yellow and men wear black suits
- No children below the age of 12/11
- Only seafood & vegan food (They can bring in their own food btw)
- No cameras
- No wine, alcohol or stuff like that
- Don't cut the cake
- No drama
- No proposals or announcements
- No plus 1s (unless I know them)
- No blue jeans
- Don't ask the bride anything
- Keep speeches/vows short
- No inappropriate outfits
- No inappropriate things
- Do not come looking for the bride/groom
- No crying (if you do, it's fine, just wipe them with tissue)
- No throwing the bouquet
- No screaming/shouting/yelling
- No talking during the important bits
- No surprises
- No calling ( if you do get a call, go somewhere private)
- Do not play loud music
- No inappropriate or crazy dancing
- No holding or touching the bride's dress/veil
- Don't be rude/inappropriate etc.
- You can't leave the wedding unless necessary
- Do not give your invitation to someone else who might want to go
- RSVP
- Do not RSVP if you are not sure if you are coming
She added: "Me and my fiancé also decided we would only invite the closest of closest family and friends (which would be around 70 relatives and friends at the wedding). My fiancé worked on finding a nice beach to have our wedding in and I worked on making every invitation by hand. The invitation cards included every rule.
"We expected our families to be happy and excited about our wedding but instead we got a lot of backlash." She went on to explain how her mother-in-law was "very angry" about having to wear yellow - and her brother-in-law wouldn't be able to eat anything as he's' allergic to vegan food and doesn't like seafood'.
She said: "My uncle said his children will be very upset that they can't come so on and so on. Basically almost every family member wanted to go against most of the rules and I didn't know what to do because I didn't want to change the rules nor did my fiancé. Time was running out so we postponed the wedding going from one week to two months.
"Our families were again upset saying they already waited long enough for the wedding and said I was in the wrong for causing a 'mess' when I could have just reduced the rules and/or made them less strict and stupid and that they never even knew it would be that strict.
With that, many of her guests said they'd turn down her invitation unless she revoked her strict rules - but she wasn't having any of it. She added: "I tried explaining to them that we are working on it but they don't stop talking about it even sometimes behind my back. They always make harmful jokes about it and the one time I stand up for myself they call me pathetic and that it was all me and my fiancé's fault."
Commenting on her post, one user said: "30 rules for a three-hour wedding, one of which I have to buy and wear a pale yellow dress? I'm not going. I don't wear yellow in any shade well, I'm far too pale for it, and unless I found something in that colour dirt cheap, I wouldn't buy it.
"I can't also cry or leave unless it's deemed an emergency by the bride and groom? The food thing is true. Vegan food does have allergens in, and not everyone likes sea food. The only thing I think is reasonable is no under 12s, especially at a beach wedding."
Another user added: "It's not even a wedding if it has 30 rules. Literally feels like they're holding you hostage to hear vows and then be forced to eat food you either don't like or are allergic to (or have an intolerance to).
"Not to mention you can't even go without the permission of the bride and groom unless they think it's mandatory. This sucks more because someone could be neurodivergent and they would need to go away because of sensory stuff."