Respect

Mutual respect is a key ingredient to a trusting relationship. A lack of respect can make your relationship feel unsafe and scary. It may be difficult to be open and vulnerable with someone by whom you feel disrespected.

What are some examples of disrespect?

1.      Insulting or calling your partner names

2.      Demeaning your partner

3.      Ignoring or avoiding your partner

4.      Sarcastic comments directed at your partner

5.      Any form of abuse (if you are in an abusive relationship seek help immediately!)

What are examples of respect in a relationship?

1.      Treat your partner in a courteous and thoughtful way

2.      View the values, wishes, and beliefs of your partner of your partner as worthy of sincere consideration

3.      Consult with your partner before making decisions that affect your partner

4.      Compromise and negotiate with your partner on prominent issues

5.      Protect your partner (if your temper is out of control get help immediately!)

What can I do to make sure I am respected?

1.      Know your worth

2.      Act honorably

3.      Set and uphold boundaries

4.      Be honest

5.      Be respectful yourself

How to establish/re-establish respect in your relationship

It is important to recognize that you cannot change another person. You can only change your own behavior. If you find yourself in a relationship in which you do not respect each other, start making changes on your end. Try not to criticize or police your partner’s behavior and treat them the way you would like to be treated. You may find that by changing your behavior, this will eventually impact your partner as well. However, if you are truly in a relationship in which your partner does not respect you, you may need to remind yourself of your worth and enforce your boundaries.

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