Embrace your Adversary

“There is no tool for development more effective than the empowerment of women”

In business it’s hard enough being taken seriously as a woman. I have never understood why women knowing this, still choose to attack or begrudge other women. Growing up, I always felt like I had to fight for other women to accept me into their circle or as a friend. This was so hard on my self esteem because I never intentionally meant to be a threat or an enemy to anyone. I don’t feel that way any longer as an adult though at times I know the second I walk away there are women who probably talk negatively about me when I turn my back. I like to stay blissfully unaware

Now as a grown woman, I still see it happening to so many of us, myself included. It’s a shame, unbecoming and pointless in my opinion. I have to admit I have fallen to the point at times where I have been kind of a jerk about women who were former friends of mine and who hurt me. The more I prayed about it and the more I gave positive thought to the matter, I realized I needed to make a mental change in direction. Instead of feeling envious or angry, I started giving more admiration to those no longer in my life or who hurt me.

The status quo of what divides so many women would lessen in negative outcome, if we gave more admiration to one another. Instead of belittling someone you think has acquired something you want, or embodies a quality you wish you had- embrace it and start working toward sharpening your own talents and goals. Give praise to her and credit for what she has accomplished. It might hurt your teeth coming out at times, but I promise you will feel better and be better as a person.

There will always be someone you “think” is more attractive, more successful, more intelligent, or more sought after. The truth is, that is all in your head, and you need to change lanes with that way of thinking. The secret to the law of attraction is what you put out into the universe with  your thoughts, you will attract and get back in return. So stay positive and confident in your OWN skin.

When hard times press, sometimes our confidence takes a stab. It happens to me a lot. I just want to remind you all to keep a strong hold onto what gives you a sense of self worth. As women we have a variation of ways we thought battle would be like in life, and much to my surprise, it doesn’t get any easier with …age LOL. Having said that, we each have something beautiful about us, that no one else can claim. While you may be feeling one day like you wish you could be walking in someone else’s shoes, you never know how difficult or painful their shoes may be to wear themselves- or how great your backyard looks through their eyes. Do what makes you happy, embrace what is calling you to challenge in life, and focus on enhancing what makes YOU feel and be successful.

Above all else, I think it is so important to embrace and empower each other as women especially in the business world. The sky is the limit when you decide to build other women up and help them grow, and what that will attract for you personally will be amazing!