Please listen to Dushka. I celebrate my - both - small and big victories. It’s a game-changer.
I’ll share personal anecdotes. It might be a bit distorted and hyperbolic but that’s something my brain does on autopilot so try to ignore those elements and really just focus on the message.
I celebrate my every tiny victory vehemently. How would some examples look like?
-I celebrated my Stoa exams victories indefinitely for a week and still in the zone to be honest, it’s been a week since results are out - yes, I’m bragging but I have “earned” it partially - and I’m not gonna lie I’ve been extremely lucky too.
-I celeberated my successful transition to being a little bit socially competent than level zero. For years, I’ve fantasied my lone genius personality arch type - rest assured it wasn’t worth it.
Celebrating it made me took even greater risks like trying to share dumb humour and writing openly about it on LinkedIn lmao - I’m so proud of myself - It’s cringe-work.
-I celebrated how good I got at making tea, doing dishes, and even washing my clothes. It maybe meh to you but who cares. You have to pretend not to care unless you reach a point when you don’t have to pretend. It’s really fluid: sometimes you can’t help yourself and other times you don’t give a f.
What exactly changes once you start doing this though? Is this another self-love woo-woo to make you even dumber?
To be honest, as I have said, there’s an element of delusion to this method. In fact, being delusional is the most essential part of this method. That means you truly need to give yourself credit for it but in fact it’s never you alone - countless people help you in the process - whether they are dead or alive - haha, just kidding. xD
Anyways the bottom line is if you become an honest cheerleader to yourself, you will start to enjoy it and you’ll seek more of it. Simple as that.
I am a big, big celebrator of my small victories. Do you know why?
Because every day I accomplish things that are super easy for you and super difficult for me. You simply cannot know the effort I put behind something that you do without thinking, and as such cannot appreciate what I just overcame.
The same holds true for you: you fight a thousand secret battles that are incredibly challenging for you and that are second nature to others. Others cannot commend you for what they can't see.
Make sure you celebrate those invisible acts of courage, that gigantic yet imperceptible effort that only you know about. The only person in the whole world who knows what is indiscernible to us but a gigantic leap for you is you. Brave, triumphant you. Hurrah for you!
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