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Hello! I am Fatin. This is the first time I share a post because I want to share my experience of working in an orphanage for children with disabilities in Indonesia. disclaimer: I have a bachelor's degree in philosophy, but I am a social worker and love children with disabilities let's start with what's in an orphanage for children with disabilities? Of course you know the answer. But, what kind of disabilities? Is there staff? how are the children doing? What about education and health? Hold on... 🙌 I'll explain this step by step. I think it's better to tell you about staff first because not every orphanage has the same organizational structure, especially in Indonesia. This orphanage (sorry I can't tell you the name, but maybe you'll know it later 🙌 ) already has a good organizational structure. There are Administrator Staff, HRD, Child Services Manager, Child Services Leader or Coordinator, Child Services Staff, and Educational Staff (teacher and headmaster). I'll skip Administrator Staff and HRD because I want to focus on the disability area. You must be already familiar with what Administrator Staff and HRD doing on their job, right? ✌ Child Services staff and Educational staff is the most important for taking care of children. Even the Child Services staff is the largest number of staff because we work almost 24 hours per day. We work not only in the school dormitory as a nurse assistant (caregiver) but also in school as a teacher assistant. 24 hours? Yeah, sometimes. There is a shift system too, don't worry. 👍 What do we do? There are general jobs for Child Services staff like playing with them and teaching. The point is We have to take care of them in every single thing. It's easier to call it babysitting, I think. You know what, every child has different treatment and I'm gonna tell you this in the next post. How about the Educational staff? Teachers have tasks to make children can improve their abilities. For example, they have cooking class, art class, and entrepreneurship class. Class is divided by what kind of disabilities that children have. I forgot about what Child Services Leader or Coordinator is. There are 6 Coordinators. Before I become Coordinator, I was in Child Services Staff too. The job is still the same, as a teacher assistant and a nurse assistant as well with more jobs because we are Manager Assistant. Thank you, see ya.... ☘ 💜💎

I am so fortunate God made Adam and Eve and told them to populate the earth even though some think they can be fathers/him and others think they can be mothers/her. Genesis tells me that and the Bible is an absolute in times of “anything goes.” BREAKING: Biden Health Dept Moves to Erase ‘Father’ and ‘Mother’ From Childcare Law Listen to this article 0:00 / 3:38 1X BeyondWords CV NEWS FEED // CatholicVote has learned that the Biden administration’s Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) has filed an as-yet unpublished regulatory proposal that would eliminate the words “mother,” “father,” “paternity,” and “his” and “her” from childcare-related laws. “This proposed regulation aligns with President Biden’s Executive orders” addressing “how the Federal Government should pursue a comprehensive approach to advancing equity for all, including members of the LGBTQI+ communities,” the unpublished document states. “This regulation is also consistent with the recently enacted ‘Respect for Marriage Act,’” the document adds, which requires recognition of any marriage between two individuals that is valid where created “for the purposes of any federal law, rule, or regulation in which marital status is a factor” and requires States to provide full faith and credit to marriages entered into in another State. Like the Respect for Marriage Act, this proposed rule recognizes the existence of and legal needs of diverse family structures. The proposal was filed by the Office of Child Support Services (OCSS), the Administration for Children and Families (ACF), and the HHS. The document “proposes to make changes to replace the gender-specific terms ‘mother’ and ‘father’ with the gender-neutral term ‘parent’ where such terms appear” in relevant law. “Additionally … we propose to remove the words, ‘his or her’ and replace it with ‘their.’” Finally, the regulation “proposes to replace the gender-specific term ‘paternity’ with the gender neutral term ‘parentage,’” in order “to be inclusive of all family structures served by the child support services program.” OCSS further proposes to define “parentage” to mean the establishment of the legal parent-child relationship in accordance with the laws of the State or Tribe. LGBTQ apologists have always assured us that their policy positions will only lead to more inclusion and more kindness toward persecuted minorities. But moments like this should serve as a wake-up call for Catholics. Our leaders have warned since before the redefinition of marriage in Obergefell that these piecemeal Democratic moves against the family would lead to an assault on our most basic beliefs – and even on our children. The Biden administration is proving they were right all along.

Lack of parental monitoring and supervision have long been correlated with increased youth and gang violence. “It’s 10 PM. Do you know where your children are?” This phrase, coined in the 1960s during race riots reminded parents to make sure their children were off the street and out of harm’s way at night. Nearly 50 years later this expression is still painfully relevant for parents living in areas such as Toronto’s Jane and Finch neighbourhood. It’s no surprise that an area marked with such great diversity is also pocked by violence. Youth gangs arise out of a desperate effort to exercise human rights among groups which are not properly supported by mainstream society. Child monitoring becomes critical in areas with pervasive violence as access to negative coping mechanisms run rampant. While poorer neighbourhoods are ecologically disadvantaged in protecting their children, the socio-economic status of parents in these neighbourhoods further contribute to the inability to properly monitor children and youth. Single parents, especially those with who are under the age of 25, often have had less access to education, resulting in being forced to work jobs that require night shifts and difficult hours. Studies show that there is a negative correlation between behavioural problems in children and parents who are required to work non-day shifts. Parents are forced to leave children alone in high-risk neighbourhoods to put food on the table. Increasing child monitoring can result in a 68% reduction of youth gang membership, but these services are not accessible to those who need them most. What is the solution? While many have championed the introduction of $10/day childcare centres, an admirable feat, this still does not solve the issue of childcare for many shift-workers in troubled neighbourhoods. Childcare charges by the minute after 6 PM, leaving many parents without options. Would 24 HR childcare, affordable supervision for today’s at-risk youth, result in crime reduction? How could 24 HR supervision support single parents and shift-workers in providing for their families without sacrificing knowing where their children are? The Inclusive Condo, one of #Canada’s largest proposed affordable housing series believes in #24HRchildcare and is aiming to provide this service at each of our project sites. These childcare centres, which will be run in partnership with a non-for-profit partner, will fill a much-needed gap in the ability for shift-workers to access proper childcare supports. Do you support the idea of 24 HR childcare? Let us know your thoughts in the comments. #24HRchildcare #shiftworkers #communitysupport #affordablehousing Habitat for Humanity GTA, Habitat for Humanity Waterloo Region, WoodGreen Community Services Trillium Housing, BlackNorth Initiative, Good Shepherd Services, BRANDS FOR CANADA

Balancing Act: The Struggle of the Woman between Mothering and Work Over the last 100 years, there has been significant progress in raising awareness about gender equality and women's rights, leading to a surge in professional aspirations amongst women. However, despite these advancements, many women employed or entrepreneurs continue to face formidable challenges in balancing their responsibilities of childcare with the demands of their careers. On the surface, it may appear that the burden of caregiving falls disproportionately on women, with husbands often perceived as less involved in these responsibilities. Women allocate much more time than their husbands for attending PTAs, taking leave from their jobs when the child is ill, supervising the child's school work and coordinating daily routines, including supervising hired caregivers or creche-care facilities. If the husband's earning is more, then this disproportion may lead to a perceived hierarchy of responsibilities, with childcare and elderly care viewed as secondary to financial provision for the man. While it is a lot more common to find men in kitchens or sharing domestic work at home, there is still a certain level of comfort and familiarity associated with the nature of labour performed by each spouse. Women feel a greater sense of duty towards caregiving roles, viewing it as an extension of their innate nurturing qualities if they associate their being women with nurture and care, more than men. Conversely, men may feel less confident and competent in their 'mothering' roles if they have not been groomed and trained into it by their mothers. If men do not take out more time for PTAs, nursing of children (as well the elderly) in illness, then it impacts women's mobility (their ability to travel on work). Conversely, many women also accept a skew in responsibility sharing because it is a practical choice, given their context. So, if that means that inability to travel or refusing opportunities is a price to be paid, they do take it. No wonder then, in so many companies and organisations, the representation of women in leadership roles is sparse. The solution does not lie with women alone. Organisations who invest in women's leadership to evoke and inspire ambition and aspiration do so, with the assumption that a motivated and determined woman will negotiate and demand harder in their families to balance out parenting and family responsibilities. There has certainly been an increase in men's comfort with parenting and childcare. On the one hand, its social acceptance and encouragement has grown. Many men today are involved fathers. They negotiate with their wives that their style of caregiving and doing things with children may be different from their wives, and that the women must appreciate it as being different, and not inferior. But a lot more needs to be done to encourage men to find their joy in childcare. #mothersday #gender #DEI #leadership #management

Fathers 4 Justice South Africa: Parental alienation syndrome (PAS) can have profound and distressing effects on the relationships between children and their alienated parents. When one parent manipulates a child's perception of the other, it can lead to estrangement and even severe emotional trauma. Alienated parents often experience profound grief and frustration, as their children grow distant, sometimes even rejecting them entirely. These strained relationships can lead to long-lasting emotional scars, creating barriers to healthy family dynamics and leaving children without the emotional support they need from both parents. Negative effects of PAS include psychological harm to the child, who may suffer from low self-esteem, depression, and difficulties forming healthy relationships in the future. Alienated parents experience a sense of loss, isolation, and despair, which can harm their mental well-being. Father's rights organizations, such as Fathers 4 Justice South Africa, are typically against PAS for several reasons. Firstly, they advocate for equal parenting rights, and PAS often results in a skewed custody arrangement where one parent has undue influence. Secondly, they believe PAS harms children by denying them the love and guidance of both parents, which is seen as a basic right for children. Lastly, these organizations perceive PAS as a form of abuse, as it can lead to psychological and emotional damage, not just to the alienated parent but also to the children involved. In summary, the effects of parental alienation syndrome on parent-child relationships can be devastating, and father's rights organizations oppose it due to concerns about unequal custody arrangements, the welfare of children, and the well-being of alienated parents. 8 October 2023 by Gary Da Silva Chairman of the Official Fathers 4 Justice South Africa https://www.f4j.co.za/ #guardianship #divorcemediation #divorcemediationnearme #Maintenance #Maintenanceissues #fathers4justice #familylawsouthafrica #parentsrights #unmarriedfathersrightsinsouthafrica #visitationrightsforfathersinsouthafrica #whendoesafatherloseparentalrightssouthafrica #legalguardianshipdocument #familylawyersnearme #custodyofchildtofather #unmarriedfathersrights #parentingplan #parentingplanexample #parentingplanssouthafrica #Parentalalienation #Parentalalienationsyndrome #PAS #DSM5 #DSM5TR

"Resolution calls for more rights for unmarried couples" New research from family justice body Resolution has found most people back a change in the law to give cohabiting people more rights. Currently couples have few or no rights in the event of a relationship breakdown meaning that unlike married couples there is no mechanism for splitting assets and no ability to claim help for childcare costs from an ex-partner in order to be able to work. This is despite a huge growth in the number of couples and families that cohabit rather than marry. A nationwide poll carried out by Whitestone Insight on behalf of Resolution found around half (47%) of cohabitees are unaware that they lack rights should they split up. - 59% of people polled back better legal protections for cohabiting people. - 74% of cohabitees agree that ‘the current laws surrounding cohabitation are unfit for today’s modern society’ - 75% of Resolution members surveyed said they support a change in the law to provide basic rights to cohabiting couples Asked about their concerns in the event of a relationship ending, 35% said they feared having nowhere to live – if a property is in one partner’s name the other partner has no automatic claim on it in the event of a break up. One in three said they feared significant financial hardship. Fifty per cent of cohabitees said they had no plans to get married while 34% of those expressing an opinion said they don’t believe in marriage. Over a third said they chose to spend money on a deposit for a house or flat instead of a wedding, while 28% said they started a family instead. It’s 40 years since Resolution was set up to support separating families, by reducing conflict and creating more amicable, long-lasting solutions that would benefit them and any children they may have. To mark the anniversary the organisation has published its Vision for Family Justice, setting out the changes that now need to be made to address the current issues facing the family justice system. Chief among its recommendations is to improve the rights of cohabitees. According to House of Commons Library research 1.5 million couples cohabited in 1996 but that figure increased by 144% over the following 25 years to 3.6 million in 2021. According to the recent Resolution polling 83% of respondents believe that cohabiting will become even more popular in future. Resolution will officially launch its Vision for Family Justice at a reception in parliament this afternoon (Monday November 27).

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Call for Pro Bono Experts: Review Best Practices for Child Helplines’ Quality Standards One of the core pillars of Child Helpline International is supporting our members in providing high-quality responses to children and youth. Since 2005, we have conducted multiple consultations with our members, resulting in the development of Core Quality Standards that describe nine essential aspects of a child helpline. As part of this process, we are currently undertaking an additional project to delve into best practices related to each core quality standard. We are seeking PRO BONO EXPERTS (child rights experts, child helpline employees, NGO workers, academics) to assist us in reviewing lists of best practices. The creation of the list for each standard has been a meticulous process involving insights from extensive discussions with child helplines and a thorough review of existing literature in the field. We warmly invite you to review this compiled list of best practices and assess their real-world applicability. Currently, we are looking for experts in one of the following thematic areas: CQS 9 Child helpline is responsibly operated in emergencies. Standard CQS9 covers preparation and responding to emergencies such as natural disasters, conflicts, or public health threats. or CQS1 Child helpline adopts a rights-based approach. Standard CQS1 emphasizes promoting and safeguarding children's rights, conducting comprehensive situational analyses, integrating child rights principles in staff training, and actively engaging in monitoring and reporting efforts at various levels to ensure children's rights are upheld and protected. Experts Review Process: • We will send you instructions with questions and the list of best practices for the standard you have expertise in. • You will have up to 2 weeks to thoroughly review the best practices list and send a written response via email. We estimate that this activity could take around 2-3 hours. • Subsequently, your input will be taken into account when creating materials for our member child helplines that they can apply in order to work towards increasing their compliance under the CQS Framework. Additionally, your involvement in this research positions you as part of a network of CQS experts, offering opportunities for future initiatives such as workshops, training, and research projects. Your name will also be acknowledged in the materials resulting from this research. We believe that involving experts enhances the assessment by introducing diverse perspectives. Your participation will help validate these standards and also ensure impartial evaluation, preserving credibility and relevance. https://loom.ly/C1jadYI Contact us: Send an email to Magda Zimnowoda at data@childhelplineinternational.org to express your interest in participating. Please attach your CV confirming your expertise and add “CQS1 expert” or “CQS9 expert” to the email title. #ChildProtection #VolunteerExperts

Breaking Down Barriers: Addressing the Social Condemnation of Single Parents in Africa In many parts of Africa, the role of the family is deeply ingrained in the culture and social fabric. Traditionally, the nuclear family unit is highly valued, with societal norms emphasizing the importance of marriage and parenting within the confines of a stable partnership. However, the social condemnation of single parents in Africa remains a significant issue that deserves attention and understanding. This article explores the complex dynamics behind this condemnation and the need for a more compassionate and inclusive perspective. Understanding the Social Condemnation The condemnation of single parents in Africa is deeply rooted in cultural, religious, and traditional beliefs that often view marriage as a cornerstone of society. In many African communities, single parenthood is seen as a deviation from these traditional values and norms, and single parents can face stigma, discrimination, and exclusion as a result. This social condemnation is often exacerbated by a lack of comprehensive social safety nets and support systems for single parents, leaving them vulnerable and marginalized. Causes of Single Parenthood Single parenthood in Africa can result from various circumstances, including divorce, separation, death of a spouse, or even personal choice. Yet, regardless of the reason, single parents often find themselves subjected to judgment and ostracism. This social condemnation can be particularly harsh for single mothers, who bear the brunt of societal scrutiny and discrimination. Challenging Gender Stereotypes A significant factor contributing to the social condemnation of single parents in Africa is deeply ingrained gender stereotypes. In many societies, women are expected to take on the primary caregiving role within the family, and when they become single parents, they may be perceived as failing in their duty. This is a deeply unfair and unrealistic expectation that perpetuates the gender inequalities prevalent in many African communities. Economic Challenges Economic challenges faced by single parents in Africa further compound the issue. Single parents often struggle to provide for their families on a single income, and they may lack access to job opportunities or support structures that can help them improve their financial situation. The lack of financial independence can make them more vulnerable to societal criticism and exclusion. Social Support Systems Addressing the social condemnation of single parents in Africa requires the development and strengthening of comprehensive social support systems. These systems should include accessible childcare services, affordable healthcare, education, and vocational training opportunities, as well as legal protections against discrimination.

The only reason we won't go back in time is because women won't allow it 💪🏼 But I'm increasingly wondering if James Brown was correct and we are indeed in a man's world. More than ever, people everywhere are talking about equality for women and creating a future where women have a seat at the table and access to equal opportunities in the workplace. That's great, but diversity in the workplace is only possible if we actually have women going to work! I've been hearing a lot of noise lately about a major external blocker for women when it comes to their career aspirations. 👉🏼 Rising childcare costs. Nursery fees are increasing faster than our salaries. To put this into context, our nursery rate will have close to a 21% increase this April 😱 I believe that rising childcare costs for children under 5 years old poses a significant risk to diversity in the workplace. Too many parents right now are having a conversation about whether one of them should give up work whilst they have little people to care for. Many parents are having to weigh up the financial benefits of pursuing a career whilst paying childcare costs (and when I say parents, let's face it, I mean women) and unless you seek out new roles and chase the cash just to keep up with inflation, the answer for many parents is that it's not financially viable. Are we going back in time? Are we going to see a time where fathers go to work while mothers raise the children? Being off on maternity leave is one thing, but having a significant gap on the CV until your child goes to school... Well that's not going to help diversity levels is it? 🤔 I'm curious, are there any organisations out there that support parents with childcare costs? I'd love to hear the details so please do share with me if you can. Oh and the 30 hour free childcare scheme that is coming sounds great but it's riddled with flaws when you learn more and it's as if someone who didn't know what they were doing came up with it without talking to anyone else first 🤦🏼♀️ --- #edandi #diversity #equality #equalopportunities #equalityforwomen #childcare #childcarecosts #motherhood #mumlife #parenting #thestruggleisreal #nursery #workingmum #workingparents #maternityleave #career #careerprogression