I have - what's professionally considered - a ton of kids. Eight total. Four are grown, four are still young, one grandchild on the way, plus a dog I sometimes get along with - we tolerate each other. Having a large family wasn’t something I planned for, nor has it ever deterred my professional pursuits. My first child was born when I was 21, and still in college. I welcomed the new role, and continued on with my plans. Didn’t stop me from graduating, joining the workforce, or founding my own company at the age of 24. In fact, my family is what motivates me daily - everything I do is for them. Also, because they’re expensive. Saving for college tuition x 8 has made me the most highly motivated sales executive you could possibly have. One challenge I have faced over the years is finding balance - giving equal time and focus to both parts of my life. What works for me is integration, not feeling the need to shut one off to turn the other on, but establishing a symbiosis between them. What does that look like in practice? Booking calendar times for work priorities and family priorities. On a given afternoon, I may have a meeting with a client, or I may be at my kid’s soccer game. I may be traveling for an offsite, or I’m home answering emails while taking care of a sick fifth grader. If I have to miss important moments in my children’s lives for work, sometimes I’m going to miss important work things for them. That’s how you make both a priority. Work comes up, kids come up. Put it all on the schedule. It takes a while to achieve. I’ve only started to find my rhythm more recently.
Something that is key critical in every executive I’ve ever met’s ability to take on challenging and time consuming careers is either a partner that takes on almost all of the load or enough income to offset the load with employees who do it for you. Would love to hear about that component as this is the part that I think most working parents struggle through and expectations about HOW “doing it all” happens are critical.
It's an art to blend work and personal. A lot of times it feels like neither is getting the attention they deserve, and I want to give. Thank you for the share. I love this - If I have to miss important moments in my children’s lives for work, sometimes I’m going to miss important work things for them.
☝️ This! All this!!! That is how life needs to be handled. Not all or nothing. No regrets. No "sacrificies". Balance and discipline paired with love. Love for what you do, love for your important elements, love for life! This needs to be read by the ones going through it and the ones planning on it!
OMG LOVE LOVE LOVE this Shane!!!!
Love the call out on the driving force behind what you do and why you do it! Explains quite a lot 😂 also glad to hear the balance struck is a recent success, striving for that at present ourselves and combined calendars is helping a lot!
I love this so much and deeply resonate. Thank you for the reminder and sharing.
octodad! Honestly, you live an impressive life personally and professionally. #goals
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3moGreat post! I especially admire your dedication to your family while achieving so much professionally. One thing resonated with me - finding balance. You mentioned scheduling for both work and family, which is fantastic. In my experience, raising a family truly is a collective effort (WE). This WE could look like supportive partners, involved grandparents, reliable childcare, or even a network of fellow parents. Many working parents today struggle to define their WE, and sometimes, the concept of "fairness" within that WE can be a challenge. Finding a work-life balance that aligns with both your needs and what the current work world rewards can be particularly difficult. Perhaps we can open a conversation - what are some ways we can create a more supportive WE for working parents?