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You’ve been lied to: Happiness is not a byproduct of ease. Happiness is a byproduct of struggle. Happiness is a byproduct of delayed gratification—of doing hard things, of embracing the suck, and coming out on the other side. - The hard conversations you don’t avoid - The focus work blocks you lock in for - The workouts you attack with energy - The healthy meals you consume - The present stillness you create The happiest people I know are those who engage in voluntary struggle—who test their limits, who fall in love with the hard. When you embrace delayed gratification, when you embrace hard things, you’ll find your happiness in the journey. P.S. For more insights like this, join 800,000+ other subscribers to my newsletter here: https://lnkd.in/esGsF85Q
I LOVED THIS POST, YOU WILL LOVE THESE IDEAS ON HARD THINGS: Idea Number One: How to transcend hard things! The challenge is when we tell people to do the hard things, We actually find reasons not to do them! We are deeply hard wired to try avoid difficult things. Does that mean we are doomed, to always choose ease? Actually it means we are free. What we need to remember is: 1. Who defined hard? 2. Who defined easy? Are you willing to challenge the things you have labeled: 1. Hard: are they really hard? 2. Easy: are they really easy? Cause when we think deeply about it, It was never us who defined hard or easy. It was someone entirely different. When you control your meaning, You control your vocabulary, When you control your vocabulary, You control your lanaguage. When you control your language, You control your life. 📌 What is Idea Number 2? : How to reframe tough experiences.
No it’s not. This is a simplistic, self-centered philosophy on happiness which will more likely make you a narcissist than it will make you happy. Notice everything in the bullets has the word “ you” in it. If all you are concerned about is yourself and your accomplishments, you probably won’t achieve happiness. All you’ll have are moments of being proud of yourself, which will fade, until you burn yourself out a little more to make your next accomplishment, which has to be bigger than your last one…and if you can’t do that, then such a philosophy will make you feel like a failure…which it shouldn’t.
You're right, and it's because discipline is the greatest form of self-love. To sacrifice the pleasures available to you right now in exchange for fulfillment in the future, is a trait that can't be found in everyone.
I completely disagree. Happiness, my friend is a choice. Its how your perceive things. Ease could be taken as happiness and struggle’s perception could be bad and hence lead to unhappiness. Happiness is a byproduct of perception of the events occured in my opinion.
I was so focused on making everything easy NOW, that I did not spend the time building the systems that could allow me to be happy in the future... Now, I am focusing on who I want to be in the next 10 years, and take actions according to it.
Happiness is a thought. An outcome in a particular situation make you happy and an exact outcome under a different situation can make you unhappy. So happiness does not come out struggle or anything like it. Happiness is our default state and we think that we will get it if we achieve something which results in more and more unhappiness as the goal post keeps on changing. Happiness is to live in the "now", neither in the past which is already gone nor in the future which is just a prediction and not a reality.
Life is supposed to be an overwhelming struggle. You’re supposed to feel like your boss hates you. You’re supposed to hate applying for 100s of jobs and never hearing back. You’re supposed to hate that the cost of living is out of control. You’re supposed to find marriage hard. You’re supposed to struggle to raise kids. Everything you love in life will get lost multiple times. The things you love will die…but they’ll be reborn. The stuff we value in life is the stuff we struggled for. Life is worth nothing without struggles. Life has to break your heart for it to mean something. Let life break you.
There's no shortcut to true happiness. Its usually earned through effort and facing challenges. You just need to find joy in the journey, not just the destination.
Sahil, you say sometimes interesting things. However, making firm statements like "this is x" is quite misleading. Your statement is a generalization based on your experience. And that, by the way, is a very Western mindset. You shouldn't confuse your own perspective, emotions, and experience with what something "really means". Nothing is really 100% as we think it is. Think about it: You just suggested that people have no other way to be happy than to struggle throughout their whole life. This means you created a pretty limiting belief for people who trust and listen to you. Sure, it can be one way. But it doesn't have to be the only way. You should remember that your words have power and can shape the beliefs and actions of others. Especially when so many people really listen to you and follow your advice. I know you focus on copywriting, followers, building a business, etc. But in your position, you should rather focus on different things.
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2wI get the idea behind this, but it does seem binary and overly simplistic. Surely happiness *can* be a byproduct of ease? I can sometimes be doing deliberate, hard work, but I feel ease in the sense that i'm genuinely enjoying it, because it aligns with who I am. In this scenario, I feel happiness. Conversely, pushing my happiness into the future and embracing the suck now seems like it will be a never-ending cycle of suck, in search of delayed gratification that can never actually arrive (because i'm constantly down-paying it by embracing more suck). I guess it depends on your own definition of happiness, but I like the thought that it can be easy OR hard. For me, it involves feeling alive - fully present in a moment, even if it's uncomfortable. It's not a result or a target to strive for.