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Just read an enlightening article in The New York Times that suggests procrastination - a major scourge of those struggling with low self-confidence - isn't about laziness or lack of self-control, but rather about managing emotions. This resonates deeply with my experiences. I've seen clients struggle to start or complete tasks because they're wrestling with fears, worries, or negative scripts from their past. One of my past clients, Luisa, was held back by childhood fears of judgment and punishment, causing her to procrastinate on starting her business and getting serious about her marketing. But guess what? She overcame it! How? By breaking large tasks into smaller chunks, making a plan with specific times and dates for key tasks, putting extra effort into finishing tasks that were nearly done, dealing with distractions, and most importantly, being kind to herself. Remember, no one ever gets to the end of their to-do list! Do your best, celebrate your successes, and be realistic. You'll always have more to do than there are hours in the day. So, let's stop labeling ourselves as lazy or lacking self-control when we procrastinate. It's time to dig deeper, confront our emotions, and rewrite those negative scripts. Leave a comment below with your thoughts... ==== ⭐I’m #CoachAndreaLorraine. ⭐I coach new Leaders to become more confident in pitching themselves and their businesses to clients. ⭐Want some help with that? DM me now, or visit https://lnkd.in/e5mBJ6PK ⭐Like this post? Find more here: #coachandrealorraine 💥There's a FREE eBOOK in the first comment below. "Learn How To Demonstrate Total Self-Confidence In The Workplace" #businesscoaching #howtobuildselfconfidence #confidencebuilding #leadershipdevelopment #selfimprovement

...the mind loves a dramatic zoom... In the heat of the moment, problems often seem bigger than they actually are. The immediate consequences can feel overwhelming, but sometimes they turn out to be new opportunities in disguise. Here are 3 hints to avoid drama: 1 | Manage your ego. Do not let your triggers get in the way and make the problem bigger than it is. Avoid taking it personally if the other person behaves inappropriately. Why: Our ego can amplify problems by making us feel personally attacked or embarrassed. By managing our ego, we can approach situations more rationally and collaboratively, leading to better outcomes and stronger relationships. 2 | Let the smoke clear and focus on the outcome. Allow time for initial emotions to settle before addressing the issue. Once you're calmer, break the problem down into smaller, manageable parts and create a step-by-step plan. Why: A structured approach prevents us from feeling overwhelmed and ensures we tackle the problem logically. By focusing on actionable steps, we can reduce stress and increase our chances of finding an effective solution. 3 | Concentrate on your values. Reflect on your core values and long-term goals. Stay true to yourself and your principles, ensuring you don't compromise what you stand for. Why: Keeping the bigger picture in mind helps to put things into perspective. When we remember what truly matters, we can prioritize effectively and avoid getting bogged down by minor setbacks. Do not let your mind play tricks on you- we have the power to see things as they truly are. Stay calm, stay focused, and keep moving forward. Transform your challenges into opportunities – if you want to see problems for what they truly are, I'm here to help! Love, Carina Hellmich Int. Certified Professional Coach | Keynote Speaker | Mentor | Trainer #MentalHealth #Personaldevelopment #coaching #leadership #topvoice #linkedinnewseurope #workplaceculture #EmotionalIntelligence #professionalWellness Video credit: (unknown) pm me for credit or removal Writing credit:©Me

🌟 Client Spotlight: Overcoming Internal Doubt 🌟 This client journey is one of courage and growth! 💫 Although they exuded confidence outwardly, they grappled with self-doubt and anxiety when faced with unexpected questions. 🤔 Through coaching, they discovered that their mind played tricks on them (I'm sure this has happened to you too), spinning false stories about their abilities. 🎭 But here's the inspiring twist: they learned to challenge those thoughts and found a strategy to stay calm and collected in any situation. 💪 By turning inward for answers, they found a profound sense of inner safety and security. 🏔️ They proved to themselves that confidence blooms when we embrace our authentic selves. 🌱 🔥 Take Action: 🔥 Notice patterns of negative emotions and self-doubt. Tune in and uncover the root causes. Empower yourself with a plan to rise above doubt and lead with authenticity! 🚀 3 questions to get you thinking: 1️⃣. What are the real risks of not taking action or holding back due to self-doubt? 2️⃣. How can I challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations or evidence-based beliefs? 3️⃣. What steps can I take to build my confidence and competence as a leader? With grit & gratitude, Cynthia PS: Join my email list for exciting news coming August 1st and get your complimentary Self-Discovery Workbook at https://lnkd.in/ehPPm7j or send me a DM and I'll send it to you directly. #ClientSuccess #LeadershipGrowth #ConfidenceJourney #MindsetShift #CoachingWorks

You dove right in, determined to make change. You identified your disserving habits & limiting beliefs and went to work banishing them. But our brains are clever. Sensing discomfort in the change, it tries to steer us back to the known. To the comfortable. No matter if the change is for our good. Unfortunately, many of us succumb. Slipping back into the old ways of thinking. Into the old ways of doing things. Don't beat yourself up. You're with the majority! But you have the gift of self-awareness. You just need to flex the muscles of self-leadership by recorrecting your course. However - warning - course correction is continuous. I myself still regularly use mindshift tools. Mostly, the inputs & outputs differ each occasion; however, I am human, & sometimes I need to relearn a lesson for it to sink. But here you'll find the value of premium mentorship. Where you seek 1:1 guidance & support from another that's already travelled the path before you. From their eagle eye view, they can determine exactly what lays ahead of you and prepare & support you through these challenges. If you're a consultant or coach looking for some help, DM me for a chat or feel free to join the party at my complimentary "Your Path to $10k in 10 Days" virtual event. Link in the comments. Megan Savill The Business Confidante #TheBusinessConfidante #LifestyleBusiness #FreedomBusiness #BusinessSuccess #10kIn10Days #MindsetMatters

I'm so disappointed with myself. I reacted to the situation. Akhil entered the coaching session feeling low. I should have been more empathic and more clear in my communication with my partner. I could've done better. I don't know why I always do this? After all, I know better than this. Have you ever beaten yourself for not being the ideal version of you? I certainly have done this, especially after a reaction. We all have an idealised version, an image of ourselves in our head where we are perfectly the way we want to be, or we should be. What happens when we do this? Nothing. We feel really bad, guilty, keep thinking about it and yes, we repeat the same patterns again. Versus when we start to accept ourselves that yes, I sometimes don't know what to say in a certain situation. Yes, I am uncomfortable during conflicts. Yes, I do feel uneasy in certain situations. We can then dive deeper into these discomforts, understand ourselves, our reactions and limiting beliefs better. Here's the most amusing part: When you drop your shoulds, when you stop beating yourself for being 'you' and accept yourselves wholeheartedly, the magic of Change Begins. How do I know this? I've seen it over and over in my own and my client's lives. All Transformation begins with Radical self-acceptance of who you are right now (with all your flaws and and limitations). And knowing who you truly are at your core (an infinite, limitless being) When you let go of The "SHOULDs" and "NEED TOs" you begin to close the gap between who you think you are and who you truly are. Here lies your true hidden power! To Deep Transformations, Saloni xoxo . . #leadershipdevelopment #Ledaershipcoaching #response #Calm #CEOcoach #Lifecoach

Coaching theme of the week – FEAR! Specifically, letting fear get in the way of saying what you need to say. 😱 Interestingly, quite often there is a theme across the various coaching conversations that take place in a week. People grappling with similar challenges or roadblocks, or making similar breakthroughs. And not just people I coach, so I'm not the confound! This week on review seems to be fear of saying what needs to be said. Which makes sense. Historically we needed the tribe or community for survival, so saying something that would upset them and see us expelled had dire consequences. Fear wants to keep you safe. But these days, if someone doesn’t like what you say, you can generally still feed yourself and have a dry place to sleep. 🏡 A few thoughts that seems to help: 📣 We all want to know where we stand. Feedback is essential to that.  📣 If you don't say it today, you will most likely have to say something harder later. Get in early, before that little thing gets big 📣 Your assumptions will be adding to the fear. One example from this week – not wanting to manage performance for fear of putting someone’s livelihood at risk. After a few conversations that team member resigned to take a career break. Which they can comfortably fund.  📣 You have thousands of negative and fearful thoughts a day. Other people are honestly not thinking about you nearly as much! The more you can normalise day to day conversations that create clarity, the more open people will tend to be with you and more empowered to do great work. Future you will also be really happy about not having that awkward conversation that goes 'I know I've let this go for a while, and the latte you bring me in the morning is wonderful, but in all honesty I actually have my coffee black'. Or something much more serious. Happy Friday everyone. #fear #leadership #coach #executivecoaching #womeninbusiness #growthmindset #courageousconversations #coachingtips

DAY 29 After reading a passionate post this morning, I changed my message for day 29. Leaders are challenged to keep growing, lead the way when the way isn't clear, hold their ground on what they feel is right, while being open to what others have to offer with an open mind that can be changed. It can feel overwhelming at times, and it can also lead to a profound awakening that changes everything, in the best ways, as you move forward. You can learn a lot by reading a plethora of different content, different authors, and exploring different mediums. As I browsed LinkedIn today, I came across a post by a friend; Ann Brennan. I was a part of a discussion yesterday that Ann wrote about this morning. She and I heard the same conversation and we both (along with many others) heard that conversation turn into something a little less productive. As Ann replayed what occurred, she brought the concept of judgment into her lessons of what we watched and listened to. She bravely wrote about how she sometimes judges others when she feels she is right - they must be wrong. I loved reading that she, as a business owner AND HUMAN, wants to work on reducing and/or eliminating judgment of others and herself. A lesson that is beneficial for everyone to walk away with. As a coach, I can help you understand the roots of the judgement that you feel, and can assist you in accessing the doors that you'll want to walk through to leave the judgment on the other side of those doors. Tomorrow will contain day 30's message and will be the final installment of what working with a coach can help you with. I hope you'll enjoy and benefit from the summation! Take the Step ~ Create the Ripple ~ Change your Life! #coach #coaching #leadershipcoach #lifecoach #leadershipcoaching #lifecoaching #balance #youcanchangeit #personaldevelopment #thepapaperspective #transitioncoach #trajectorycoach #mindsetcoach #mindsetcoaching #TaketheStepCreatetheRippleChangeyourLife! #judgment #closethedoor

Most of us seem to walk around with this idea that we need to be perfect. Strong and 'together', as opposed to weak, and vulnerable 💪🏼 But if you cover up your scars, how will we know the wisdom and experience you carry? Despite all the work I’ve done, and how deep in my bones I know the value of vulnerability, the need to hide my 'flaws' still sneaks up on me now and then 🩹 I still sometimes worry that I’ll be judged, if I show up as I truly am. This hot mess of human emotion 🥴🥵🤯 And then I remind myself that this hot mess is actually the very best version of me. That the reason I know how to build confidence is because of all of the time I spent feeling insure. That the reason I know how to create self-trust is because of the years I spent doubting myself. That the reason I know how to heal is because I’ve been hurt. And that if I had never been vulnerable, I would not know my own strength. I remind myself, that all of my compassion and all of my empathy comes from being honest about the fact that I (too) have felt scared, lost, and alone. And that if I hadn’t had to hold my own hand as I fell down, and got back up, and started over yet again, I wouldn’t know half of what I know. I wouldn’t be able to teach. I would not have set up this business. And I would not have helped a single one of my clients. I wouldn’t be who I am. And can I be honest with you? I actually quite like who I am 😌 So here’s to the mess. May it continue to teach me 🙏🏼 - - - Fancy doing some of this work with me? We still have a few coaching slots left for a June start date. Email athena@cn8.co.uk to book your consultation today. #leadershipcoaching #perfectionism

You dove right in, determined to make change. You identified your disserving habits & limiting beliefs and went to work banishing them. But our brains are clever. Sensing discomfort in the change, it tries to steer us back to the known. To the comfortable. No matter if the change is for our good. Unfortunately, many of us succumb. Slipping back into the old ways of thinking. Into the old ways of doing things. Don't beat yourself up. You're with the majority! But you have the gift of self-awareness. You just need to flex the muscles of self-leadership by recorrecting your course. However - warning - course correction is continuous. I myself still regularly use mindshift tools. Mostly, the inputs & outputs differ each occasion; however, I am human, & sometimes I need to relearn a lesson for it to sink. But here you'll find the value of premium mentorship. Where you seek 1:1 guidance & support from another that's already travelled the path before you. From their eagle eye view, they can determine exactly what lays ahead of you and prepare & support you through these challenges. If you're a consultant or coach looking for some help, DM me for a chat or feel free to join the party at my complimentary "Your Path to $10k in 10 Days" virtual event. Link in the comments. Megan Savill The Business Confidante #TheBusinessConfidante #LifestyleBusiness #FreedomBusiness #BusinessSuccess #10kIn10Days #MindsetMatters

When you face your reflection each morning, who greets you? As you navigate your day, what conversations unfold within? For years, my self-perception was shaped by a mosaic of influences, molding my self-image and self-talk. Unfortunately, much of this narrative wasn't uplifting. However, enlightenment came. I've discovered the power to reshape how I perceive myself, altering the story I tell myself. It all started with a simple phrase... Whenever self-doubt or negative inner dialogue crept in, I'd inquire: "Is this accurate? Is it rooted in reality?" More often than not, the response was, "Not quite." I'd follow up with another question: "What is the truth?" You are not defined by self-imposed limitations. Challenge those beliefs each time they surface, and replace them with what is real and valid! If you also suffer through self-limiting beliefs, feel free to connect. I am Sneha, your Growth Mindset & Peak Performance Coach. I can help you overcome your or your team members self-limiting beliefs. #transformationalcoach #selflimitingbelief #peakperformancecoach #businesscoach