"When it comes to our emotions, most of us have more power than we think."
A must read from The Wall Street Journal written by Arthur C. Brooks and Oprah Winfrey on the power of metacognition-the act of experiencing your emotions consciously, separating them from your behavior, and refusing to be controlled by them.
A highlight from the article, these four ways to start to include metacognition in your life.
𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐨𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬.
Sit quietly and think about the feelings you are experiencing. Observe them as if they were happening to someone else. Then say to yourself, “I am not this emotion. It will not manage me or make my decisions for me.” This will leave you calmer and more empowered.
𝐉𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. You may have noticed that when you are upset, if you write about what you are feeling, you immediately feel better. Journaling is in fact one of the best ways to achieve metacognition, because it forces you to translate feelings into specific thoughts. regulate their feelings about school.
𝐊𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐚 𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬, 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬. Mood and memory exist in a feedback loop: bad memories lead to bad feelings, which lead you to reconstruct bad memories. However, if you purposely conjure up happier memories, you can interrupt this doom loop.
𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. Try methodically to see how such painful memories help you learn and grow. In your journal, reserve a section for painful experiences, writing them down right afterward. Leave two lines below each entry. After one month, return to the journal and write in the first blank line what you learned from that bad experience in the intervening period. After six months, fill in the second line with the positives that ultimately came from it.
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