Why me?
How often do we find ourselves asking this usually in response to something bad that has happened to us individually. My wife likes to refer to this as my ‘pity potty’.
Well, “Why me?” In this post carries a different meaning. It is asking why my life was spared and not someone else’s.
I watched the 60 Minutes program focused on the 343 firefighters that lost their lives on 9/11 and the remaining firefighters who survived this tragic day in American history. Why was their lives spared and not the other 343’s? And although this segment didn’t focus on the other 2,000+ office workers who perished the same question might be asked by everyone who did escape the fiery inferno and eventual collapse.
With my wife and I’s wedding anniversary on 9/11 (1999) and the fact that I experienced my own personal loss when my older sister Linda was killed by a drunk driver, I too have confronted this question “why me?” Instead of her. How would her life had played out over all these years I’ve had to live?
Casualties of war, cancer patients, automobile accidents, natural disasters, terrorist bombings, violent acts, Covid, suicide … and the list goes on. Why them and not us?
I’m not trying to be morbid here in this post but rather recognize that like the surviving firefighters of 9/11, we too may struggle with this very important question.
Like death, this question does not need to squeeze the joy out of our lives but rather help us to appreciate it even more along with all of the other ‘why me’ers?’
Unfortunately, losing others is a part of life. It’s what you do with the life you continue to live that ultimately matters.
Back to the 60 Minute segment, the NYCFD had to rebuild itself and in many cases family and friends stepped up and into the roles left behind. Of course they will always mourn their loved ones but they also will jump down off the pity potty to live a life well lived.
Fact: no one fire fighter refused to follow their orders that day of the attack.
I personally want to thank all of our public servants who had and have answered the call to keep us safe.
Begs to ask another question … would I be brave enough to answer the call?
Sending heartfelt condolences to Larry Wallin's loved ones and the Plateau community.