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Empathy is a superpower. Reading is a superpower as well. This topic is worthy of several books and course but here is a short version based on a convo I had today. If politics ruin your conversations then 95% of the time it is due to either a lack of empathy on your part and/or a total lack of knowledge on the topic...from both sides. Most peoples views are at least partially valid. They got there based on their environment, their experiences, and the info they digest. And yet 50% of people always want to totally invalidate the other 50% of peoples views. This is such a painfully flawed view. There is the fringe on the far left and right that is legit nuts, but they are the exception and not the rule. Most peoples views are far more nuanced, and usually more moderate, than you would think from watching the news. So when something comes up in a conversation with someone who might have different views from you, make sure you don't dismiss them out of hand. Usually they are not dumb, and they are also not totally wrong on their view, even if you don't agree with them. idk, I just felt the need to use a long winded way to say "hug it out." Most people are just trying to live their life and take care of their family.

Dive into a candid conversation about the challenges of modern friendship with Fawn and Matt on this week's episode of "Questioning Conversation." As they reflect on the ongoing loneliness epidemic and their own journey in addressing it, Fawn and Matt explore the intricacies of human connection amidst pain and change. Rejecting superficiality, they share personal anecdotes and insights into fostering genuine relationships based on empathy, vulnerability, and compassionate communication. Join them as they navigate through thought-provoking questions, from the impact of loneliness to the essence of successful interpersonal connections. Discover how embracing authenticity and understanding can lead to meaningful friendships in an ever-changing world. Tune in for a refreshing perspective on friendship and connection, filled with humor, honesty, and heartfelt wisdom. Fawn and Matt navigate through a spectrum of topics, demonstrating how simple yet profound conversations can deepen bonds and enrich lives. Tune in for insightful conversations and practical tips on nurturing authentic connections in an increasingly disconnected world. Because, as they say, every question holds the potential to spark a meaningful connection. #CandidConversation, #ChallengesOfModernFriendship, #LonelinessEpidemic, #HumanConnection, #RejectingSuperficiality, #Empathy, #Vulnerability, #CompassionateCommunication, #Thought-provokingQuestions, #MeaningfulFriendships, #Authenticity, #Understanding, #NurturingConnections, #Ever-changingWorld, #RefreshingPerspective, #Humor, #Honesty, #HeartfeltWisdom, #DeepeningBonds, #EnrichingLives

https://lnkd.in/gfneZqBc Now it's been my hope to shed light on the way I understand my self as a Character, in whole, to aid myself during my developments and to support another in their drawing opinions or perceptive view of myself. And one of those ways happens to be one that includes this list of "Entertainment" productions that in light of Hindsight, puts me at my particular stance that debates the whole "you can't learn nothing from TV" general statement/perception opinion...in a sense ... This list does not include ALL I have seen, just of the ones I feel has made most of an impact and influence on my personal psychological and intuitive development. I know it was through Movies, Television, and Music as to where I gained the opportunities to learn myself on an emotional psychological level where counsel/conversations recieved/had along my upbringing through my early adult years stunted and confused me. That understanding was a challenging aspect I had tailored to my communication abilities, and made it difficult to properly or effectively express/explain myself. I am working effortly on "Herstory | B.S. Memoir" in a way that I'm hoping can be a tool that will assist me in my communications concerning myself or personalized topics tailored to me, my youth, or adulthood, with Myself and others, and /or for others communications with themselves or another. And as well as a tool, one analyzing the mental, emotional, and Spiritual aspects of a individual, would allow themselves to use to help develop a more affective and accurate concises as opposed to a conclude based off of stereotypical values/variables. Either way. #EachOneReachOneTeachOne if you haven't seen any of the items listed, then take some time and check them out....and as a whole work of Art, allow your self to give a thought out opinion of it, and what you may gained or negated. And correlate it to your life and how you interact with Life. #AtLeast. #CertifiedLifeCoach 🫡 #CarryOn. #BrittanyTamikaShade

#NYTimes columnist, #davidbrooks writes a compelling opinion piece on the essential skills for being human. These skills seem basic and doable, although easy to forget in a fast-paced world. At times, we all build ‘walls’ around us when we feel vulnerable, less confident, or judged. We are all a work-in-progress. Mr. Brooks’ blueprint includes: * be a loud listener, pay attention * share information by telling stories; Brooks calls it ‘storify’ • loop others into a conversation • ask probing questions; stay away from questions that require a simple yes or no response • do not try to top others; it’s not a competition • stand in other people’s shoes, metaphorically speaking #beinghuman #essentialskills #bettertogether #loudlistening

Asking for advice can be really hard and vulnerable. This is because a lot of people interpret receiving advice as admitting they are wrong or stupid, or that they don’t know the answers. But this isn’t true. Everyone needs help sometimes. What makes that help easier to receive is if it’s preceded with validation.⁠ ⁠ Instead of just jumping right into the advice, see if you can start by giving them some words of affirmation that help them feel heard and understood. Don’t come from a place of talking down to them, but approach it as two equals helping each other out. This can help both of you lower your defenses, which can lead to a productive, safe and vulnerable conversation.⁠ ⁠ If you often find yourself in the position of giving advice, be aware that the person who is asking for your help may be feeling vulnerable, emotional or scared. The best thing you can do is come from a place of love and understanding, and comfort them through the process.⁠

It's National Listening Day, and it makes me stop to ask myself and others, "Are we listening to our clients, or are we simply hearing them, and then doing what we think is best for them?" I always try, deeply and empathetically try, to listen to my clients, as their needs & wants are what drive my heart, decisions and business. But, we're ALL far from perfect, and we should always look Inward to better ourselves, so we may treat others better Outwardly. To quote my mother, "We are all works in progress, until the day we die." That being said, say less, listen more and be the best servant to others that you can. #nationallisteningday #listening #talkless #listenmore #servant #servantsheart #realtor #clientservice #listentoothers #bebetter

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How a Trusting Person is Perceived Trust attracts, distrust repels. Here's what trust communicates to others, whether we realize it or not. 1. “If you have a good reputation then people can trust you and they can trust you to engage in reciprocally productive interactions with them,” says Jordan B. Peterson, a clinical psychologist, professor, author and strong social media presence. “They can trust you to take into account their interests as well as your own and to play stable, voluntary, desirable, medium-to-long term games.” 2. Peterson warns that certain people know exactly how valuable and persuasive trust building can be and they, as he says, “try to game the reputation system, and that’s what narcissists do and Machiavellians and psychopaths.” 3. “Every firm in our industry has seen an incredibly successful person reduced to uncontrollable tears knowing that they made a mistake that will cost them everything they worked so hard to achieve,” says Rich Handler, CEO at Jeffries Group, a bank and financial services company. “Everything in life is fragile,” he points out, “especially trust. Never forget that.” https://lnkd.in/gs5aDxZN #jordanpeterson #richhandler #trustandreputation #reputationandtrust #newsletter #publisher #editor #editorinchief #podcaster #reporter #writer #radiohost #podcasthost

Have you ever encountered someone who is excessively afraid of causing harm to others due to their belief in karma? They navigate every decision with extreme caution, akin to walking on eggshells. Basically, THEY CAN'T CHILL! For instance, individuals who intentionally avoid any possibility of stealing someone's money because they've witnessed the detrimental impact of such actions on others' lives. While the concept of "what goes around comes around" is a commendable philosophy, the underlying intentions may be flawed. Merely refraining from hurting others out of fear of repercussions is a misguided motive. It fails to recognize that true compassion is the essence of this philosophy. Acting right should not be driven solely by the fear of karma; instead, it should emanate from a genuine concern for people and humanity. That should be the primary intention guiding ethical behavior. Intentions carry significant weight as they represent a form of energy. For instance, if you remain faithful to your spouse because you genuinely care about their well-being and wouldn't want to inflict the same pain you'd feel if the situation were reversed, that reflects a positive intention. On the contrary, some individuals refrain from engaging in harmful actions solely to avoid attracting "bad juju." This approach, rooted in selfishness, contradicts the essence of karma. . . . I've just completed writing 'THE CHOSEN ONE,' a fiction novella with self-help themes regarding love. I'm on the lookout for a traditional publisher or literary agent to collaborate with! If you're into self-help fiction, let's connect. Follow for updates, and don't hesitate to reach out. Excited about potential collaborations! Brief Synopsis of 'THE CHOSEN ONE': The flawed protagonist undergoes a significant transformation in the story, evolving from a shy and introverted individual into someone who engages in promiscuous behaviour. A series of experiences, including sexual assault, involvement in prostitution, and the development of casual and unconventional sexual relationships, all influence her transformation and leave her struggling to grasp her true identity. Towards the story's conclusion, she ultimately comes to terms with the consequences of her actions and the lessons learned as she navigates her life with chaos and confusion. #WritersCollaborate #AuthorCollaboration #WritingCommunity #CollaborativeWriting #AuthorCollab #Publisher #Literaryagent #publishingindustry #readingcommunity

Story versus history. Do you ever confuse these two terms in English? History is: - an official or formal record of something that happened - an academic subject - characterized by facts and dates - usually more collective than personal - usually covers a longer period of time than a story A story, on the other hand: - is a narrative with a beginning, middle, and end - can be either true or fictional - is usually more personal than collective - is less formal than history  - is often only told from person to person and never written down In clinical settings, a client will share their family history during the intake process. A client will share stories about their childhood during sessions. As human beings, we make sense of the world through stories. Researcher and clinician Brené Brown coined the phrase “the story I’m making up” as a tool for acknowledging our tendency to impose meaning on events through the stories we tell ourselves about what happened. What do you think? How do the stories we believe about ourselves and others impact our feelings and actions? Let me know in the comments. https://lnkd.in/gjRvax4b