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#emotionalwellbeing#, Have you ever pondered how you can be of help to others? Especially in a world consumed by the relentless pursuit of targets, increments, bonuses, and the elusive notion of success, it's a tough question, isn't it? But amidst this frenzied race, there are individuals – or I'd say, "strong individuals" – who possess empathy, compassion, and a willingness to support others, even in their own moments of challenge. Their ability to prioritize the well-being of others entails not just their inner strength but also their selflessness and resilience. Their focus shifts from what they can gain for themselves to what they can contribute to society – the very "society" that has shaped them, not necessarily Mr. X, Y, or Z, but any person in need! The support they offer might be personal, professional, emotional – anything that's needed. In fact, they've been blessed with an abundance of love, wealth, influence, and emotional strength by some higher power - generally we call "God". Though God directly does not come and give you, HE finds a mechanism to support through a conduit. Think about how extending similar support in times of need can bring about: 1. Contributing to others can evoke a profound sense of purpose and satisfaction, elevating one's mental and emotional well-being. 2. Bonding: Helping others fosters bondings and builds a sense of community. It reinforces the idea that we're interwoven and can rely on each other in times of need. 3. Perspective: Engaging with others' challenges provides fresh and completely new perspectives on one's own problems, leading to better problem-solving and coping strategies. 4. Self-Esteem: Making a positive impact on someone else's life, even amid challenges, boosts self-esteem and empowerment. 5. Resilience: Assisting others despite personal struggles enhances emotional resilience, demonstrating the ability to conquer challenges. 6. Positive Influence: Setting an example in helping and supporting others inspires a ripple effect of kindness and empathy. Juggling support for others with self-care is essential; it ensures enduring assistance and overall well-being. A moment of support in a time of need, a quiet word of encouragement, a helping hand to carry a heavy load, or just a smile that says see you' can make a world of difference. In essence, supporting others during your own battles reveals a unique strength – combining inner resilience with empathy for others. If you anticipate / expect reciprocation from the very same individual, then pause for a moment! It is advisable not to offer such support - reason is simple. You are not supporting the needy, you are doing a deal. Hence, whether or not it comes from that person is uncertain. Yet, your share—granted by God thus far—will be delivered by His divine transmission. Even you do not get anything out of it, you come up as a better indiviudal! And that makes your character further strong....

Life often presents us with challenges, and dealing with individuals who intentionally try to bring us together down can be one of the most difficult ones. However, it's important to remember that you have the power to rise above their negativity and protect your well-being. Here are some therapeutic strategies to help you cope with such individuals and maintain your inner peace. 1. Recognize and Understand Their Motives: The first step in dealing with people who try to bring you down intentionally is to recognize that their behavior is a reflection of their own unhappiness and insecurities. Remember that their actions are not about you; it's about their own struggles. Understanding this can help you develop empathy and not take their words or actions personally. 2. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Fostering a positive environment is crucial when dealing with negativity. Surround yourself with supportive and uplifting individuals who value you for who you are. Seek out friends, family, or support groups that understand your worth and can provide encouragement during challenging times. 3. Practice Self-Compassion: When faced with intentional negativity, practicing self-compassion is essential. Remind yourself that you deserve kindness, respect, and love. Treat yourself with care and understanding, just as you would a dear friend. Engage in self-care activities that bring you joy, such as hobbies, exercise, or spending time in nature. 4. Set Healthy Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries is vital when dealing with individuals who consistently bring you down. Recognize that it's okay to distance yourself from toxic people and protect your mental and emotional well-being. Learn to say no when necessary, and prioritize your own needs and happiness. 5. Focus on Personal Growth: Instead of allowing negative individuals to hinder your progress, channel your energy into personal growth and self-improvement. Invest time in activities that boost your self-esteem and confidence. Engage in learning new skills, pursuing your passions, or setting achievable goals. By focusing on your own growth, you shift the focus away from those trying to bring you down. 6. Seek Professional Support: If the intentional negativity becomes overwhelming or affects your mental health, don't hesitate to seek professional help. Dealing with people who intentionally try to bring you down can be emotionally draining, but remember that you have the power to rise above their negativity. By understanding their motives, surrounding yourself with positivity, practicing self-compassion, setting boundaries, focusing on personal growth, and seeking professional support if needed, you can protect your well-being and thrive. Stay strong, believe in yourself, and embrace the positive aspects of life that await you.

𝗨𝗡𝗗𝗘𝗥𝗦𝗧𝗔𝗡𝗗𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗔𝗗𝗗𝗥𝗘𝗦𝗦𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗜𝗡��𝗘𝗖𝗨𝗥𝗜𝗧𝗜𝗘𝗦 𝗜𝗡 𝗔 𝗣𝗔𝗥𝗧𝗡𝗘𝗥 Insecurities can cast shadows over even the most loving relationships, affecting the well-being and happiness of both partners. Addressing and understanding these insecurities is crucial for fostering a healthy and supportive connection. Here's a comprehensive guide on how to navigate and address insecurities in a partner: 1. Open Communication: The foundation of addressing insecurities lies in open and honest communication. Create a safe space where your partner feels comfortable expressing their fears and concerns without judgment. Encourage a dialogue that fosters understanding. 2. Active Listening: Listening is a powerful tool in addressing insecurities. Actively listen to your partner's feelings and thoughts without interrupting or dismissing them. Validating their emotions helps create a sense of understanding and support. 3. Identify Root Causes: Work together to identify the root causes of insecurities. Understanding the origin of these feelings provides insights into personal histories, past experiences, or triggers that contribute to insecurities. 4. Validate Emotions: Validating your partner's emotions is essential. Acknowledge that their feelings are real and have a legitimate impact on their well-being. 5. Reassurance and Affirmation: Reassure your partner of your love and commitment. Regularly express your affection and appreciation to reinforce the emotional bond. 6. Encourage Self-Reflection: Encourage your partner to engage in self-reflection. Help them explore the roots of their insecurities and consider seeking personal development opportunities. 7. Set Healthy Boundaries: Establishing and respecting healthy boundaries is crucial in addressing insecurities. 8. Collaborative Problem-Solving: Collaborative problem-solving promotes a sense of unity and strengthens the partnership in overcoming challenges. 9. Celebrate Achievements: Recognizing and celebrating successes helps build confidence and self-esteem, contributing to the overall reduction of insecurities. 10. Seek Professional Support: In cases where insecurities persist or significantly impact the relationship, consider seeking professional support. 11. Encourage Self-Love and Self-Care: Promote self-love and self-care practices. Encourage your partner to engage in activities that boost their self-esteem and overall well-being. 12. Patience and Empathy: Be patient with your partner's journey of self-discovery and growth. Show understanding and compassion as they work towards overcoming their insecurities. Understanding and addressing insecurities in a partner is a joint effort that involves communication, empathy, and commitment. By fostering an environment of trust, providing support, and encouraging personal growth, couples can navigate insecurities together, creating a stronger and more resilient relationship. #theloveandrelationshipalchemist

𝗧𝗼 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀, 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗯𝘆 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 Most of us are not on the frontline of the health battle, but all of us can be the first responders to the need for #emotional #support by others. In personal life or building relationships as managers and leaders, extending emotional support and well-being is building connection beyond being "just professional". When Kim Scott, author of Radical Candor complained to his coach, Ledlie Koch in his initial years of building a company, "My job is to build a great company, or am I just some sort of emotional babysitter?" She replied this is not babysitting, it's #called #management and #it's #your #job. Almost everyone needs a #connection to others and the opportunity to give and get support. So, how can you shore up your mental health and deepen your own emotional reservoir? Dr Paul T.P. Wong talks about the levels of #responsibility #based #wellbeing. He integrated Western positive psychology with the evidence-based ancient wisdom of Taoism and Buddhism to develop #9 #levels of well-being for self and others. While they are self-explanatory, the essence is to #start with #self. 1. #Start with self-care. We can’t share with others a resource that we lack ourselves. The critical starting point is to take our own mental and physical health temperature. 2. #Ask for help when you need it. Caregivers, parents, coaches, therapists, managers and you need help. We all do, so don’t hesitate to seek and ask for it. If you don’t ask for that support, the need for it will be revealed in ways that don’t serve you. 3. #Ask #others “How are you?” like really.   Most mornings, when we get to work or hop on a call, we dive into the most pressing issues of the day. It is easy to jump straight to the to-dos and brush off the “How are you?” with a casual “I’m fine.” This question can help us take the mental health temperature of others, which means we really listen to the answer, even though that might not be our habit. 4. #Look for the positive and say it aloud. Often people think those who criticize are smarter, or praising others feel like are inferior, so we demur. Instead, express appreciation, give compliments, and call out triumphs, no matter how small. If you see something good, speak up. 5. #Wellbeing is an experience, not just an activity. Make it part of the atmosphere and not just a periodic reminder to check in. Are you practising responsibility-based well-being? #HR & #LnD Leaders, are you enabling a culture of responsibility-based wellbeing or just doing a series of initiatives hoping employee wellbeing is taken care of? #responsibleresponse #wellbeingatwork #selfcare #effectivelistening #cultureofcareandexcellence #understandingothers  #leadershipcoaching #hrconsulting #training #ceos #chros Follow Shivaani Talesra and hit 🔔 for more insightful and inspiring posts. #Repost if you find it useful.

“ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏꜱᴛ ᴘʀᴏꜰᴏᴜɴᴅ ᴊᴏʏ ʜᴀꜱ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴏꜰ ɢʀᴀᴠɪᴛʏ ᴛʜᴀɴ ᴏꜰ ɢᴀɪᴇᴛʏ ɪɴ ɪᴛ” ~ ᴍɪᴄʜᴇᴀʟ ᴅᴇ ᴍᴏɴᴛᴀɪɢɴᴇ!   𝓐 𝓼𝓶𝓪𝓵𝓵 𝓟𝓸𝓮𝓶 𝓸𝓷 🅹🅾🆈 and 🆆🅴🅻🅻-🅱🅴🅸🅽🅶 𝓯𝓻𝓸𝓶 𝓶𝔂 𝓱𝓮𝓪𝓻𝓽 𝓽𝓸 𝔂𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓼:- "Joy" feeding the “ Soul” - ignored, unexplored, least understood emotion, Equals “well-being” in my innocent heart - so like a child I explore it in colors, in smiles, amongst tears; Post COVID-19 well-being and mental health focus I see emerge a “winner at workplaces as not a "nice-to-have, but a must-have”, Measuring the “hedonic” pleasures and satisfactions and the “Eudaimonic”  life of virtue and human excellence pursuit; Functioning as a barometer of our “attunement with the world”, “What we do” and “What happens to us” - a mixture of us as ‘agents’ and of our ‘environment’!   So yes….𝓘 𝓯𝓮𝓮𝓵 𝓼𝓽𝓻𝓸𝓷𝓰𝓵𝔂 𝓪𝓫𝓸𝓾𝓽 𝓙𝓸𝔂 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝔀𝓮𝓵𝓵-𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓱𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓲𝓷 𝓰𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮. 𝓦𝓗𝓨? 🔻 It lends interpretation, perception, and response to the goodness of a situation...and this good is what we might have longed and hoped for. 🔺 First, it’s accompanied by a sense of excess that feels like a blessing.   🔺 Second, it’s experienced when there is a “turning of fortune” or “redemptive twist” – when something good feeds the “ Soul”, on the heels of something bad. 🔺 It leads an intriguing upward spiral of goodness to “Increased Gratitude” recognition, and appreciation for the relationship between the work environment, culture, community, health, and life satisfaction. 𝓢𝓸, 𝓶𝔂 𝓺𝓾𝓮𝓼𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓽𝓸 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓪𝓵𝓵 𝓲𝓼: ❓  How focused are you on pursuing the “choices” for your best interests? (voluntary exchange vs process of adaptation). ❓ How easily are you affected by how other people behave?  (What economists call pervasive ‘externality’). ❓ Are you re-calibrating what brings life satisfaction and how “you show up in this world”?   🔰 𝓘 𝓲𝓷𝓿𝓲𝓽𝓮 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓶𝔂 𝓭𝓮𝓪𝓻 𝓯𝓻𝓲𝓮𝓷𝓭𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓱𝓪𝓿𝓮 𝓶𝓸𝓻𝓮 𝓬𝓸𝓷𝓿𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷𝓼 𝓪𝓻𝓸𝓾𝓷𝓭 𝔀𝓸𝓻𝓴𝓹𝓵𝓪𝓬𝓮’𝓼 𝓶𝓮𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓵 𝓱𝓮𝓪𝓵𝓽𝓱 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝔀𝓮𝓵𝓵-𝓫𝓮𝓲𝓷𝓰, 𝓪𝓷𝓭 “𝓙𝓞𝓨”! 🔰 𝓢𝓱𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓪 𝓙𝓸𝔂𝓯𝓾𝓵 𝓼𝓷𝓲𝓹𝓹𝓮𝓽 𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓾𝓼 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓲𝓷𝓼𝓹𝓲𝓻𝓮 𝓼𝓸𝓶𝓮𝓸𝓷𝓮 𝔀𝓱𝓸 𝓷𝓮𝓮𝓭𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓱𝓮𝓪𝓻 𝓲𝓽!! Meanwhile, my wonderful wizard 🔆 Dennis Pitocco has created JOYFEST 360° as an EVENT (see link below), which can now be shared across LinkedIn/included in direct invites to your connections. Event Link: https://lnkd.in/gHa-B3WF

Can you have too much confidence? Here's what I think... This comes up a lot in our discussions with clients; an underlying fear of having 'too much confidence' and potentially coming across as arrogant. This fear really highlights the many misconceptions we have about confidence. Firstly, we may see someone who is loud, vivacious, opinionated and often inconsiderate and are quick to label them as 'confident'. Similarly, we may see someone who is quiet and reflective, and the last to speak and are equally quick to label them as unconfident. While it is true that confident people can be loud, and unconfident people can be quiet, the opposite is also true. In fact, research has shown we are likely to fall into one of two personality categories when we experience bouts of low self-confidence. 1. Those that make themselves bigger as a way to overcompensate. They become loud, opinionated, controlling and steam roller over everyone else. 2. Those that shrink into perfectionist, people pleasing, anxiety-ridden states to avoid confrontation or 'being seen', often becoming quiet and withdrawn. (and yes, it is possible to straddle somewhere in the middle!) I am sure you can name a few people in your networks that fall into these categories! Confidence isn't loud or overpowering. Confidence is simply an enabler to be the person you naturally are without conditions or comparisons. If you process internally and thrive on having healthy boundaries, then having greater self-confidence will enable you to gently, powerfully and unapologetically be that person. If you are naturally gregarious and an external processor, having greater self-confidence will enable you to spread your wings and be a more authentic version of yourself. Confidence is about being deeply comfortable with who you are and respecting and prioritising what you need for your own health and wellbeing. When you feel confident, you have no need to feel superior to feel good about yourself. This is why true self-confidence can never be arrogant and you can never have too much of it! -------------------------------------------------------- I work with individuals all over the world to help them find their self-confidence, enabling them to be more productive, more creative, more present and importantly, more content. I offer a free 30 minute call to anyone who would like to see if I could help them. Click this link and book in a time that suits if you are curious. https://lnkd.in/eNxidJcf

😤 Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of someone’s hurtful behavior, questioning what you might have done to deserve it? It’s a common reaction to internalize negative experiences, but it’s vital to recognize that how others treat you is often a reflection of their own internal struggles and insecurities, rather than a commentary on your worth as a person. Self-Reflection vs. Blame: When faced with mistreatment, it’s natural to engage in self-reflection and wonder if we somehow provoked it. However, it’s crucial to differentiate between constructive self-reflection and unwarranted self-blame. While it’s healthy to consider how our actions may impact others, it’s equally important to acknowledge when someone’s behavior is unjustified and does not reflect our character. Understanding the Root Cause: People who lash out or treat others poorly often do so as a result of their own unresolved issues, whether it be past traumas, deep-seated insecurities, or unresolved conflicts. Their behavior is often a manifestation of their internal struggles, rather than a direct reflection of your worth or actions. Setting Boundaries: Recognizing that someone else’s behavior is not a reflection of your worth does not mean tolerating mistreatment. It’s crucial to establish and maintain healthy boundaries to protect your well-being. Whether it involves confronting the individual, seeking support from friends or professionals, or distancing yourself from toxic relationships, prioritizing your mental and emotional health is essential. Empathy and Compassion: While it’s natural to feel hurt by someone’s negative behavior, practicing empathy can help cultivate understanding and compassion. Recognizing that hurt people often hurt others allows us to approach situations with empathy rather than resentment, fostering a more compassionate outlook. Focus on Self-Care: Instead of dwelling on the actions of others, redirect your energy towards self-care and personal growth. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift and validate you. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, nurturing your self-esteem and resilience. Conclusion: It’s essential to remember that if someone treats you poorly, it’s more indicative of their internal struggles than your worth as a person. By understanding this distinction, setting boundaries, practicing empathy, and prioritizing self-care, you can navigate challenging interactions with grace and resilience. Ultimately, your value is not determined by the actions of others but by the strength and integrity with which you navigate the world.

I'd like to talk about expectations...or the unmet and uncommunicated as well as unrealistic expectations that we all carry. If I could. I would change the headline of this article to .. The uncommunicated and unrealistic expectations in our environment, is the root of all evil. When expectations are not communicated due to fear of being shamed or unrealistic expectations are not challenged or allowed to be challenged..or negotiated into considerate and respectful and honouring outcomes; It causes an unnecessary evil of absolute resentment, anger and dishonouring slander. When spouses, partners or employers and employees do not clarify or set 🤔 🙄 😐 clear expectations and stick to the expectations and healthy boundaries that were discussed. It becomes a disgraceful rotten and degenerative pit to behold. It is a sign and lack of proper education, mental wellness, as well as a lack of social health and boundaries and there needs to be an educated councilling and accountability done to ensure improvement and growth. Therapy and regular check ins with professionals, employees and employers are definately an answer to that. Hence the emphasis on eliminating hostile and toxic environments, by examining the unrealistic expectations vs realistic expectations. Ratio of educated and qualified vs uneducated and unqualified inexperienced. But..heres the crux. To understand and work through these issues. You need to be mindfully present and invested as well as educated in these principles and communicative ways to establish the difference between your personal triggers and immature issues, and what is good for the family or company. Remember this. Business is business. Yet it can still be honouring, compassionate, professional and respectful. No matter the behaviour of others. Look into improving the anti-social or unhealthy and unprofessional approaches. People are dynamic and they deserve investment and a circle of council and accountability, not to shame them, but to improve them. Family is family. Family is personal, intimate, compassionate, honouring, and respectful, family is where education starts. Some pregnant moms are used to being called the proverbial oven with a bun. Personally, me not so much. To me that is a reference of removal from a beautiful intimate and personal miracle. It's cold and comparing a wonderful beautiful blessing, to an inanimate consumerist bakery. It feels wrong to me. It feels misogynistic. That is my expectation. What is yours? https://lnkd.in/dYBJr8Zw "Trying to control or manipulate people to your wishes is a sure-fire way of making the relationship worse. Instead of expecting them to be different and getting angry when they aren’t, you could expect them to be exactly like they always have been and be okay with that. They would feel more accepted by you and want to do things that might make you happy. Then they might start acting more the way you want."

🌟 Be a Friend to Yourself 🌟 In my life, I’ve often been my harshest critic, repeatedly beating myself up over the same mistakes and shortcomings. I realized that I wasn’t being a friend to myself, and it took a toll on my mental health and overall well-being. I know from experience that it’s hard to change this mindset, and I’m not there yet, but I’m trying to be kinder to myself every day.Its part of THE REAL Mental Health Foundation Being a friend to yourself is transformative. Here’s how I’m making that change and how you can too: • Practicing Self-Compassion: I started treating myself with the same kindness and care that I would offer a dear friend. I reminded myself that it’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them. This shift in mindset was crucial in reducing self-criticism. • Prioritizing Self-Care: I began to take time for activities that nourish my mind, body, and soul. Whether it was a quiet walk in nature, reading a good book, or simply taking a moment to breathe, I made self-care a non-negotiable part of my routine. • Setting Boundaries: Understanding my limits and respecting them was a game-changer. I learned that it’s okay to say no and protect my own well-being. Setting boundaries helped me avoid burnout and maintain a healthier balance. • Celebrating Wins: No matter how small, I started acknowledging my achievements. Giving myself credit where it was due and celebrating my progress boosted my self-esteem and motivation. • Being Patient: Growth takes time. I learned to be patient with myself during the process, recognizing that personal development is a journey, not a destination. Remember, the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life. By being a friend to yourself, you cultivate a foundation of self-love and resilience that empowers you to be your best self in all aspects of life. Take a moment today to be kind to yourself. You deserve it. 💙 Heather Kelly John Mannix Jen Libby, MSW, LCSW Rachel (Duncan) Ochinegro Gabriela Ramirez (Gras) Nathan Romano Richard Zimmerman Howard Fischer David Upson Nick Rancis Chris Maher Christian Elam Hunter Ziesing Brent Herd Audrey Selian Justine Mana (N.) Daniel Koppelkamm, CFA Kevin Collins Paul Greenberg Danielle Patterson Jon Tilli Kokoro Patricia Gall Dana Lanza Annemieke van der Werff Brendan Morrissey Chip Morel Heidi Roddenberry Paul Thanos