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If you're full of premenstrual anxiety and you’ve got a weekend ahead of drinking, family meals or lots of travel, first thing to do is look at what you can cancel. If you have severe PMS or PMDD drinking is a huge NO at this time in your cycle (and some would say at all) because it will trigger you while you’re out, likely to fall out with people, and feel worse than normal the days after. Next, limit the time you are with people, make sure you get some time to yourself before and after, listen to something soothing on the way, prepare yourself with answers to any uncomfortable questions. Travel-wise, any delays will be super triggering so allow extra time to get places. ALSO ask for any extra help, tell a friend or partner that you’re in your inner autumn and if you really have to, do everything in the morning as your energy will wane from about lunchtime. Good luck! Love, Lisa x

The holiday season is upon us again, and with it comes holiday sweaters, holiday sweets, and…holiday stress. Don’t get me wrong: I love the holidays. But I’ve had my share of holiday family drama, and I’ve coached clients through scenarios that would make Santa himself start drinking gin straight out of Rudolph’s trough. I’ve learned that the key to staying sane when you're spending time with your family is to tune in to the same magic that makes meditation so powerful. We need to keep ourselves from going into a fight/flight/freeze/fawn brain state, and we do that by accessing our inner observer—that part of our awareness that simply watches everything. Now, you may be able to simply stay in your witnessing self as your mother drops passive-aggressive comments about your kids (or lack thereof), or your brother decides to set up his new 10-person camping tent in the middle of the living room. I myself require stronger medicine: specifically, laughter. And thus it is that each year, I direct my clients and loved ones to Dysfunctional Family Bingo. You can learn how to play it and download your bingo card, https://lnkd.in/g26VkZPU.

CHRISTMAS STRESS: In the lead up to the busiest time of year, most people are still working and on top of that having to find time to organise what the festive season expects of them. For many, it's more than a little stressful and overwhelming, so here are a few tips to help you slow down and find the joy in Christmas time. From my #christmas article archives. #mentalhealth #stress #burnout

#tuesdaymotivation We all know how to be good friends - to others. 👯♂️ We often don’t apply it to ourselves. 😉 One simple way to be your own best friend is - to take care of your body and your body needs. ✅ You can become your best friend today if you: ✅ take a little break and a walk in the fresh air ✅ make your favorite meal for lunch or dinner ✅ go to bed early without your phone You can be your own best friend. Your body will love it! #bestfriend #selfcare #wellbeingatwork #wellbeingmatters

After another boozy weekend that you swore blind to yourself you wouldn't have, but hey ho here you are feeling like a squashed slug and counting down the hours till bedtime. You desperately want to get your drinking under control but you’re scared to try because you’ve tried before. Lots of times, and that didn't exactly work out… Every Monday like clockwork you promise yourself you won’t drink until the weekend but then something always happens… and there you are, midweek and grabbing a bottle on the way home. You passed on the Dry Jan’s and the Sober Octobers not because you don’t want to cut back but because you’re scared you’ll fail at it. Again. And you’re doubly scared of what that failing might mean about you. So scared that the only time the worry breaks out is during those early wakings. Scared that you might have a capital P problem for which the only solution is rehab. Scared that you are a hopeless case, a wine addled unicorn who is beyond help. You’ve tried to cut back so many times you’re convinced it’s YOU, that the problem is you. You see me on here posting and offering to help and it sounds great but the truth is you don’t believe in yourself enough to take the next step because your confidence has been battered by all the previous attempts so it’s understandable that you are reluctcant to try again but what if this time was nothing like those other times? What if this time you are supported by a weekly coaching call that's full of empathy, laughter & insight as well as easy to put into action tips? What if this time you are given tools and skills that make the process so much easier? What if this time you have someone to be accountable to in a firm but loving manner? What if in just a few weeks time your Monday mornings are no longer manic and you are in control of your drinking and your life in a way you can’t fully imagine right now? What if all it took was DMing me any emoji to start that process? Once you do that I’ll book you in for a free initial call. 💜

Yay, it’s another beautiful Friday morning. HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF (1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you. (2) Stop begging. (3) Stop saying more than is necessary. (4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately. (5) Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours. (6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate it. (7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy. (8) Stop entertaining gossip about other people. (9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth. (10) Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed. (11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals. (12) Respect your time. (13) Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away. (14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you. (15) Be scarce sometimes. (16) Be a giver more than a receiver. (17) Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome. (18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve. (19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back. (20) Be good at what you do. Be the best. Enjoy the weekend lovelies.

DO YOU PUT TOO MUCH PRESSURE ON YOURSELF? We’re in a really busy time of year at the moment. We’ve had hallowe’en and bonfire night in quick succession, and now everyone seems to be talking about Christmas! All these events can lead us to put lots of pressure on ourselves, particularly when it comes to making it magical for the children in our lives. When you’re busy juggling all your different commitments, it’s really easy to overcommit yourself and spread yourself too thin, so this is your call to take a look at this in your life, and see if you need to create, or firm up, some of your boundaries? Using my own life as an example, we’re a family who love to carve pumpkins at hallowe’en, which always then leads to making pumpkin soup/pie/muffins etc, and get involved by getting dressed up and trick-or-treating. Then, a few days later there’s always a mad rush to find a local fireworks display, which is often on a school night and needs to fit round the girls’ after school clubs, make sure they’re fed, get to the display and then try and calm the excitement for bedtime. There’s also sparklers in the back garden at some point. This year, absolutely zero happened for bonfire night: no bonfire tea (jackets, sausages, beans, cheese); no firework display; no sparklers. Also, no stress! I just knew that I physically couldn’t do it all, so I had to draw the line somewhere, and that meant no bonfire night. THE WORLD DID NOT CRASH AROUND ME!! Would the kids have loved going to bonfire night? Absolutely! But here’s the thing, you just can’t do it all!! I also still haven’t used the last of the pumpkin to make the pie and muffins, but that’s ok too. If we get time to do it this weekend then great, particularly as Cherub No2 loves baking, but if we don’t then that’s fine too. As Elsa said, "let it go!'. Let's be more Elsa! Sometimes you just need to let things go, for self-preservation! What can you do to reduce the pressure on yourself? #lifecoach #personaldevelopment #selfbelief #empowerment

#tuesdaymotivation We all know how to be good friends - to others. 👯♂️ We often don’t apply it to ourselves. 😉 One simple way to be your own best friend is - to take care of your body and your body needs. ✅ You can become your best friend today if you: ✅ take a little break and a walk in the fresh air ✅ make your favorite meal for lunch or dinner ✅ go to bed early without your phone You can be your own best friend. Your body will love it! #bestfriend #selfcare #wellbeingatwork #wellbeingmatters

I'm an overthinker. But really, it's rare to have a few moments when my mind is at peace and isn't flooded with worries and questions. 😶 What if I mess this up? 😣 What if I'm too annoying? 😔 What if they realise I'm really not that good? 😭 What on earth am I even doing with my life? Those are only a few of the lighter questions I often have on my mind. Messed up, I know. But the thing is - nearly all of us have moments when we question our talent, decisions, and sometimes even our sanity. And when your mind is loud, it can be difficult not to spiral. Luckily, autumn is here, and it's time for all the things warm and cosy. Seriously - my heart has been living in autumn since the start of August. So when you feel like your overthinking is getting out of control this season, try to: 🍂 Go for a walk 🍂 Talk to a friend 🍂 Stock up on autumn candles (duh!) 🍂 Get started with your Gilmore Girls rewatch 🍂 Browse through the shelves in your local bookstore 🍂 Treat yourself to a cup of coffee (Lorelai says it's okay) 🍂 Bake - nothing beats apple crumble and cinnamon rolls! 🍂 Start your Halloween movie nights early (snacks are compulsory) I also wouldn't judge anyone listening to a Christmas playlist already. 👀 (Might be me... Or not.) 💡 What's your favourite trick to deal with overthinking? #mentalhealth #overthinking #personalgrowth

Why this weekend could be your last… It’s a Sunday afternoon. The weather’s cool & pleasant. You’re out in the backyard with the whole family. It’s the weekly get together. Cousins, Uncles, Aunts, Nephews… The sounds of laughter, cheers, & cries fill the atmosphere. The kids going wild playing by the pool. Witnessing this puts a smile on your face. Your wife comes over & snugs for a hug. You lock eyes. “I love you” Both of you whisper to each other. A couple of months ago, you hated gatherings like these. They meant nothing to you. Want to know why? You were caught up in the chase: → Plans to visit Italy because John from work was there too → Working extra hours to get that promotion. → Put a down payment for that Mercedes. You’d get irritated when days never went to plan. Something always had to come up. → Go to kid's parent teacher meeting at school. → Pick up the wife’s family from the airport. → Take the dogs to the vet. Stress & anxiety took a toll on you. And you’d buy stuff or watch p0rn in secret to curb the pain. You dreaded where life was heading. But not anymore. You let the old you behind. And embraced the real you. The one who can’t wait what the future has in store for you. Because life is exciting & thrilling at the same time. You don’t let stress & anxiety take over. You no longer fear getting caught. You have all the time & freedom. Plus, those p0rn urges have disappeared for good. It’s an identity of the past. Today, you’re the man you’re meant to be. A man who’s found his true purpose. This could be your story. And I want to help you get there. Why? Because you bloody deserve it. You can book a free ‘Master Your Dopamine’ session (link in the comments section). And let’s get you to where you want to be.