As boomers age, more caregivers to aging parents will be needed. But it can be difficult for families to discuss strategies for seniors to age in place and manage estates. Laura Tamblyn Watts has some tips. The president and chief executive officer of CanAge, a national advocacy organization for seniors, wrote a book, Let’s Talk About Aging Parents, to help families address the difficult topics. “Those power dynamics you had when you were a kid are probably still there,” she says. “You’re going to have to acknowledge them and find ways around them.” She recently spoke with Deanne Gage about icebreakers for these important discussions and how advisors can help.
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Over a million seniors in America are "kinless," meaning they have no spouse, children, or siblings. The number of older individuals without traditional family support is expected to rise. This situation raises important questions about how we, as a society, can better support this growing segment of our population. Traditional caregiving models, often reliant on family members, may not be suitable for everyone. This scenario prompts a need for innovative and inclusive strategies in senior care. As leaders, policymakers, and empathetic members of society, it's important to recognize this shift and develop solutions that ensure no senior, regardless of their family situation, is left lacking support. These solutions should be inclusive, catering to the diverse needs of our aging population. https://lnkd.in/gEqiukUu
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According to AARP research (2023), 10% of all adults aged 50-plus live alone, are not married/partnered and do not have living children. A slightly larger proportion (11%) live alone, are not married or partnered in a long-term relationship, but have at least one child who is alive with their relationship characterized by estrangement. Fewer than 15% of adults aged 50-plus live alone and are not in a long-term relationship and have at least one child who is living. https://lnkd.in/emMtjm8M
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The Elder Care crisis will have an impact on individules earlier in life than many expect. This requires one to begin with a conversation, often times the young adult child needs to initiate it. Both parties are likely in denial, therefore avoid the desparately needed conversation. Frankly, it’s not an option. Otherwise, financial devistation could be imminent. Proactive planning is important, the sooner a solution is put in place the better, and likely less costly, not only financially, however emotionally, psycholocially, and career wise in some cases. Are you avoiding such conversations or what solutions have you considered initiationing? “According to a recent report from Caring.com, 72% of Gen Z expect to care for their aging parents, yet only 61% of Gen X and baby boomers imagine that their children will be involved in their future care.” https://lnkd.in/euhwJzwe #eldercare #genz #genx #babyboomer
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More grown kids are in near-constant contact with their family. Some call this a failure to launch—but there’s another way to look at it, Faith Hill writes. https://lnkd.in/ey9pfUfi The relationship between parents and children has changed considerably over the past century. “In a Pew Research Center survey conducted last year, more than 70 percent of respondents with children ages 18 to 34 said they talk with their kids on the phone at least a few times a week, and nearly 60 percent had helped their kids financially in the past year. A majority of adult children polled said they turn to their parents for career, money, and health advice,” Hill writes. “Some people find those numbers alarming, evidence of a quietly mushrooming overdependence among a generation of hapless grown babies, and of caregivers who can’t, for God’s sake, stop giving care. But that’s not necessarily right,” Hill writes. “Today’s average parent-child bond does seem to involve near-constant communication—yet it also comes with an intensified emotional closeness of the kind once reserved for friends and romantic partners.” The change has been driven by a confluence of social trends. People are marrying and having children at later ages. Multigenerational living has grown more common again, partly because of the high cost of housing. And now that people are living longer, on average, parents and children have more time to mesh as adults. But the closer dynamic between parents and adult children is “rarely free of friction,” Hill continues. A greater need from children could cause more strain on parents. But “the support doesn’t go only one way,” Hill writes. Many young adults are caring for older relatives while contributing toward household income and labor, and “having a close and present adult kid might be especially nice for single parents.” “Parents and kids who can count each other as family and friends are the luckiest of all,” Hill continues at the link in our bio. “If people could stop worrying about whether the new parent-child closeness is a ‘crisis,’ perhaps they’d come to see how beautiful it is for family members to ask—and receive—more from one another.” 🎨: Ben Hickey
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The New York Times' Jessica Grose spoke with our Director Philip Fisher about the RAPID Survey Project: "While there are bright spots, most parents say that the shutdown years took something of a toll on their families’ emotional and physical health. Philip Fisher, the director of the Stanford Center on Early Childhood, told me that emotionally, parents haven’t returned to their prepandemic levels of well-being. Fisher works on the RAPID survey project, which has been regularly polling households with children under 6 since the beginning of the pandemic. While loneliness has largely abated, parents are feeling elevated levels of anxiety, depression and, in particular, stress — going from 33.8 percent of parents reporting feeling stressed “in the past week” prepandemic to 42.6 percent of parents reporting feeling stressed in February 2024. That feeling may be exacerbated by the financial stressors RAPID’s respondents feel — in February, 37 percent reported having difficulty paying for at least one basic need."
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Whether by choice or due to circumstances such as divorce or the death of a partner, 27% of adults ages 60 and older live alone in the US. About half of women 65 and older do so. But those who fall within the solo aging category have yet another challenge that sets them apart. They have no children or close relatives upon whom they can depend to make critical legal, medical, or financial decisions should they be unable to do so themselves. Learn how you can plan for the future when you can't rely on family in our blog post, “How to Live Well While Aging Solo.” https://bit.ly/43gzmbf
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And where are — and what about — the baby’s PARENTS ?!? 👶 Even if the baby is a newborn human, in the U.S., many moms are back at work in as little as a couple of weeks. (As sole proprietor, I never stopped working; was calling clients during labor with both babies!) ‼️ We are the ONLY industrialized nation on the planet that doesn’t have a national program for PAID FAMILY LEAVE. (Let’s ask candidates where they stand on that if we want healthy kids instead of a nation with a massive mental health crisis. It’s ALL related.) ‼️ Forget about any leave for dad. Even if he is around. (We’re so NOT good at promoting family togetherness and peace.) 👎🏽Even though we SAY we’re about family values, we’re not. Because in many states SINGLE moms receive more support than those who’re married! Talk about a disincentive for a two-parent household! We are, on the whole, so short-sighted it could lead one to believe this country, that says it LOVES its children, doesn’t. 🤨 Because it seems we hate the parents. And making life hard for parents squeezes the heck out of them and their baby. Our babies. Because our corporations and politicians foster policies that make one of life’s MOST stressful times so much harder for the overwhelmed parents of a needy (by design) newborn! Chart below shows paid parental leave by nation. Why do other industrialized nations INVEST in new parents — and newborns — like this? 🦋 IT’S GOOD POLICY FOR KEEPING KIDS AND PARENTS HEALTHY, TOGETHER, AND OUT OF TROUBLE. It’s great policy for reducing child abuse and neglect, as giving parents time to bond with their newborn reduces stress, reducing the likelihood of child abuse and neglect, reducing toxic stress chemicals that change the function and structure of the developing brain from one that can trust, learn, and form relationships more easily — to one that is more likely to be isolated, fearful, and chaos seeking! 🧠 It’s in the brain science! #thefirst60days I https://lnkd.in/eNtQT5A2
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𝗪𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗛𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁, 𝗔𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝗣𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 Some people assume just because you have difficulties with some basic tasks of everyday life, commonly referred to as Activities of Daily Living (ADLs) that you can’t live at home any longer. They may have an aging parent or grandparent move in with them and their family. They might tell them to look at other home care options. However, with professional, experienced home care support, most commonly provided through an agency, it is more than just possible to age in place. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗼 ‘a𝗴𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲'? This essentially refers to staying in the same place you’ve lived for a while for the rest of your days. For many seniors, this might be a home they have been in for decades. They may have only lived here for a few years, but it is still “home” to them. It means a lot to people to be comfortable in their surroundings. Home care is the one elder care option that allows seniors to remain where they are most comfortable. They don’t have to be forced to choose between some facility, an adult child and his or her family, leaving their friends and everything they’ve known for many years, and being able to stay where they want. Aging in place also means they will be in a close community with neighbors they’ve known for a while, friends who live down the street, and others they love to spend time with. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗰𝗿𝗼𝘀𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗿𝘆? Many adult children who may be in their 40s or 50s by this time would prefer it if their senior parent lived closer to them. They even go out of their way to make room in their home for this aging parent. They convince them that they should move in with them. They convince them that they can be better supported in this environment, surrounded by family and those who love them. However, many of those same people, those loved ones, have several other responsibilities to take care of every day. This aging senior may not see their adult children, in-laws, grandchildren, or others except in passing moments most of the week. What kind of support is that? What is this elderly person going to do then? Will they sit around waiting for somebody to come home, somebody to say hello, or have a conversation with them? Will they know anybody in the area? #ClearPath #ClearPathHomeCare #AgeInPlace To continue reading https://lnkd.in/gkGXCgXX
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Maintaining A Relationship with Aging Parents A frustrated millennial seeks advice on how to bridge the growing gap between them and their elderly parents. Advice columnist Amy Dickinson shares insight on maintaining a relationship with aging parents. Dear Amy: I’m a grown millennial. My parents are aging. Unfortunately, I don’t have much in common with them. I live nearby and they want me to visit them every week. They’re disorganized and I like to be organized. They don’t plan for the future, and live day by day. They are always in debt, while I am frugal. The list goes on and on. It’s tough. They are over 70 and I’m dreading the caregiving years. I can’t be the only person in this situation. How should grown children deal with parents with whom they have little in common? Signed Anonymous Dear Anonymous: If you are a parent, I hope my insight will help you to reframe your reaction; if you’re not – my thoughts might help to inform the way you see this issue. The reason I raise this is because the experience of raising children can lend a useful perspective to the bookend experience of providing care to elders. Here’s how adult children do deal with aging parents: with some frustration. Prepare yourself for some anxious nights, trips to the ER, holding hands at the crosswalks, etc. It is vital that you take good care of yourself, too. This includes establishing boundaries, understanding that you will not be able to control or change them, and practicing the all-important level of compassionate detachment where you are able to enjoy some of your time with them, despite your differences in temperament and lifestyle. An article by Amy Dickinson In the tradition of the great personal advice columnists, Chicago Tribune’s Amy Dickinson is a plainspoken straight shooter who relates to readers of all ages. She answers personal questions by addressing issues from both her head and her heart – ranging from maintaining a relationship with aging parents to DNA surprises. A solid reporter, Dickinson researches her topics to provide readers with informed opinions and answers. Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068 #SupportingElderlyParents #SeniorCare #FamilyFirst #SupportingLovedOnes #NoblesvilleIndiana #fishersindiana #CarmelIndiana #IndianapolisIndiana #over55 #over65 #aging
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Here are the key points about widowed seniors in the USA: Widowhood is common among older adults in the United States, particularly for women: Over 1.2 million adults ages 60 and older lost a spouse in 2019. About 30% of women aged 60-74 are widowed, compared to only 13% of men aged 65 and older. Women typically live about 15 years after losing their spouse. Widowhood can have significant impacts on seniors' wellbeing: It often leads to financial challenges, with many widowed homeowners spending over 30% of income on housing costs. It increases risk of depression, isolation, and loneliness. It can negatively affect physical health, including weakening the immune system in those over 65. It accelerates cognitive decline over time in widowed older adults. However, the effects can vary based on factors like social support and coping strategies. While widowhood is a major life stressor, many seniors are able to adapt over time with proper support. Providing resources to help widowed seniors maintain social connections, financial stability, and physical/mental health is important for promoting their wellbeing.
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