Emotional intelligence is a superpower.
Article: Emotional intelligence helps you to see things differently from the rest of the world.
That's why, once you start to develop it, you know: Emotional intelligence is a superpower.
I've spent over a decade studying how emotional intelligence helps high-performers, leaders, and others achieve success. In doing so, I've seen firsthand how emotional intelligence gives these persons a powerful edge.
Failure
Most people are afraid of failure. But emotionally intelligent people see failure differently.
They know success isn't a single achievement; it's built on a series of steps and continuous improvement.
That means every fall is an opportunity to learn and grow--if you take advantage of it by analyzing what went wrong, and how what to do differently the next time.
If you do, failure isn't anything bad. It's another step on the way to success.
Criticism
When criticized, most people immediately get defensive, shift the blame, or fight back.
Emotional intelligence helps you to see criticism in a different light: It's simply another person's perspective. Usually, there's at least some truth to that perspective, and you can use it to improve.
And even when that perspective is completely off base, it can still help you to see things through the eyes of others--and that makes you better, too.
Silence
Silence can be scary. If things get too quiet, most people try to fill the moment with noise.
Emotionally intelligent people love silence. They use it as an opportunity to think before speaking, or to recharge. They also know how to leverage silence to their advantage--for example, to get another person to speak first in a negotiation or to help team members to give more thoughtful answers at a meeting.
For those with a high EQ, silence isn't awkward. It's golden.
Apologies
Emotionally intelligent people understand that "I'm sorry" are two of the most difficult words in any language--but they're also two of the most valuable.
So, they swallow their pride and apologize when needed.
Because when it comes to your dealings with others, what matters most is not who's right and who's wrong. It's about valuing your relationship more than your ego.
Forgiveness
When many people today get crossed, they adopt the attitutude: "Don't get mad, get even."
But emotionally intelligent people know that harboring resentment is like leaving a knife in a wound, never allowing it to heal. It's like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
In contrast, when you forgive and forget, you remove the power others hold over you--and free yourself to move forward with life.
Humility
Unfortunately, most people today see humility as a sign of weakness.
But emotional intelligence allows you to see humility as a strength. You recognize that everyone makes mistakes, so you aren't afraid to admit yours.
Emotional intelligence helps you to see things differently from the rest of the world. Here's how.
I've Studied Emotional Intelligence for Over a Decade. Here's Why It's a Super Power—in Just 7 Words
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