Brexton Bennett’s Post

Good morning...🙏🙏 'When you know yourself you are empowered. When you accept yourself you are invincible!!' 'Great if you can find your own faults. Greater if you correct by yourself but Greatest if you accept.' Two very similar messages on self acceptance that I received yesterday. Why is it so difficult for us to accept ourselves and therefore the others too? Self acceptance doesn't mean resigning to what we are. In fact, it’s hard to change things about ourselves when we don’t fully accept who we are. Self-acceptance comes down to embracing where you are. What are your fears? Where is your shame? What causes your biggest frustrations? When we feel these emotions, I think it’s important not to try to drown them out or try to numb our insecurities. When we sit with those insecurities, we can slowly start to accept them. When we do that they start to melt away!!! We’re willing to risk more because the outcome isn’t tied to our ego and self-worth. We’re willing to love more because we aren’t afraid of our worst parts ruining our best parts. In short, we become more free. We feel liberated!!!! From your thought processor... 🍁☘🌹☘🍁☘🌹☘🍁☘🌹

Shame can hold you back from your true potential. It fuses negative emotions with your sense of self. In just 3 minutes, I'll share a science-backed solution. When you experience fear or guilt, you might: → Attach that feeling to your identity → Confuse a temporary emotion with who you are → Label yourself as a "bad" or "anxious" person Here's an example of how shame takes hold: → You forget to wash the dishes as promised → You feel guilty about letting someone down → You identify as an irresponsible, unreliable person To break free from the shame trap, try this: 1. Acknowledge your emotions and take corrective action    ↳ Feeling guilty can motivate positive change  2. Get grounded in your physical sensations    ↳ Focus on your body to quiet your mind 3. Recognize the costs of living with shame    ↳ A negative self-image limits your potential Choose a different path. Experiment with a new approach. Your life matters. Don't let shame hold you back. Take action today to reclaim your true identity. P.S. Want personalized guidance to break free from shame?  Book a 1:1 clarity call and I’ll help you through it.

🤓😎The Importance of Letting Go for a Better Life😎🤓 To truly elevate your life, it's essential to give up certain things that hold you back. Here are some key areas to focus on: - The Need for Control: Letting go of the need to control everything allows you to embrace life's natural flow and find peace in uncertainty. - Fearing Change: Change is inevitable and often brings growth. Embrace it with an open heart and mind. - Gossip: Engaging in gossip drains your energy and fosters negativity. Choose kindness and lift others up instead. - Living in Shame: Shame can weigh heavily on your heart. Release it and recognize your worth. You deserve to live freely and joyfully. - Negative Self-Talk: The way you speak to yourself matters. Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations and watch your confidence soar. Remember, I'm here for you, and together, we can navigate these changes. Trust the process, and know that it will all work out. Signed, J. #SelfGrowth #PositiveChange #LetGoAndGrow #SelfLove

Shame is a heavy burden to carry. It's the voice in your head that tells you that you're not good enough. That you don't deserve love, success, or happiness. But here's the thing about shame - it thrives in silence and secrecy. The more you keep it to yourself, the more power it has over you. The antidote to shame is vulnerability. It's about opening up and sharing your story with someone you trust. When you do that, you realize that you're not alone. We all have our struggles and insecurities. As an Internal Family Systems Practitioner, I help people work through their shame and learn to be kinder to themselves. I encourage them to have compassion for their wounded parts and to challenge the negative beliefs that shame creates. It's not an easy process, but it's incredibly freeing. When you let go of shame, you make room for joy, connection, and fulfillment in your life. So if shame is weighing you down, I want you to know that there is hope. You can break free from the grip of shame and step into a life of greater self-compassion and confidence.

What are the unspoken truths about people? Everyone Struggles: We all face challenges and difficulties, even if they're not always visible. We Seek Connection: Deep down, we all crave meaningful connections and relationships. Insecurities Exist: Everyone has insecurities, regardless of their outward confidence. Change Is Constant: People evolve and change over time, adapting to new circumstances. Kindness Matters: Small acts of kindness can have a profound impact on someone's day. Life Is Uncertain: No one has all the answers, and life is full of uncertainties. We Judge and Are Judged: We form judgments about others, and others judge us, often without knowing the full story. Mistakes Are Inevitable: Everyone makes mistakes; it's a part of being human. Dreams and Fears: People have dreams and aspirations, as well as fears and doubts. Life Is Fleeting: Time passes quickly, and it's important to make the most of the present.

Empty The Buckets 🪣 It's the last day of August and a great day to empty your buckets of 💩. Before you start take 3 key 🪣 🪣 🪣 and label them. Not my s**t Never was my s**t End of day s**t What else do you want to release in order to avoid carrying old unhelpful beliefs into your future? You may want to release old hurts, fears, guilt, limiting beliefs absorbed from childhood. Releasing past hurts and beliefs is true self-love and compassion. You are not meant to carry the weights of these limiting beliefs with you through all time. #letitgo #Buckets #success

You need to let your ego away. How do you do that, you ask? Start accepting help from others. Ask someone to help you with something. As small as it may be. It starts limiting your ego. It starts making you accept that you are perfectly imperfect. I struggled most of my life because I wasn't asking for help. I was embracing the victimhood mentality. My advice: Start small. If your sibling invited you to lunch, say yes for once. If your colleague at work gave you a compliment, say thank you and don't compliment back. You may ask why you haven't been so accepting of having others to help you. Well, it's mainly a self-worth issue. You feel you don't deserve help or other people's attention. And your ego is too high for you to accept that you are an incomplete creature. So, make it your goal to go out there, be vulnerable, and live your life with no fear! PS How's your ego treating you these days? #PersonalGrowth #Mindset

How do we deal with being criticized so that we can go about our happy lives? 1. Ask yourself, is it true? No one knows you better than you. Ask for examples. If they can't give examples and you determine it's not true, then dismiss what they said as a reflection of them, not what's actually true for you. If it's constructive and there is truth to it, ask yourself what can you learn from it? How is this happening for you? Be thankful someone was honest with you and for the opportunity to grow from it. 2. Recognize that usually when someone puts you down in a non-constructive way, it is not about you. It's about them projecting what they don't like about themselves onto you. 3. Have compassion for the criticizer. If you squeeze an orange you get orange juice. Someone who is filled with negative feelings towards themself will inevitably squeeze their negativity onto you. Note they have been conditioned this way and likely have no awareness. Have compassion or consider what I do, and say a prayer for them. If you’re struggling overcoming criticism from others, I can help! Life can be happier and it begins with one conversation. Book your complimentary session here: https://lnkd.in/dfn38-cM. #riseabovecriticism #howtodealwithcriticism #usecriticismtogrow #expandyourpossibilities

There is a general consensus that deceptive people could be dealing with a lot of shame. Deceptive people are people full of shame. The more shame we carry, the better we get at hiding what we do. Most people think shame is a way to create change in someone. It's the opposite. The shame cycle brings people back to dysfunctional behaviours over and over again. You might recognize this in yourself (we all do this) when you feel shameful about emotional eating, then eat more. You say you're "doing x" then fall back into the pattern even deeper. You promise you'll exercise and beat yourself up the first time you miss. Then, you spiral for the rest of the day. This is what shame does: it keeps our mind and body stuck in old patterns. True change comes internally. When we realize we're living out our childhood conditioning- our programming. And that we can wake up (become conscious) and choose a new way of living. True change comes when we make changes not to please someone else, or not out of fear of losing something (or someone.) It comes when we deeply want to be the best version of who we are. When we finally take a deep breath and remember who we are- and that we have a connection to spirit and all forms of life around us. That was meant for the better. And that we can end the dysfunctional relationship we have with Self by making difficult choices even when no one is watching. That's how we restore self-trust, dignity, and integrity. That's how we free ourselves from the shackles of shame

Have you explored the concept of loving shame? Unlike negative shame, loving shame serves as a guide to realign with our values and highest self, encouraging growth and self-correction. Have you experienced loving shame in your life? How has it influenced your growth journey? Share your thoughts below! #SelfReflection #PersonalGrowth #ShameAwareness🤔💖🌱