THE CONFUSION BETWEEN INTERNATIONAL CHILD RIGHTS AND AFRICAN TEACHINGS
There is a real thin line between child rights and African teachings. The practice and requirements of what is branded as violation of children's rights is often seen as education by Africans.
If one was to ask any indigenous African to reminisce about their youthful days – around age 15 or 14 – when they were carrying hoes, heading catle on their way to or from the farm, the beatings they received from their parents for sometimes over laughing, over crying, not crying enough when beaten, moving about aimlessly when you have visitors at home, failure to great visitors with a smile, eating before adults and the list goes on. Crazy I must say. The typical answers you will get are “I miss those years and that all the happenings was not child abuse at all”. Strangely enough, all the reactions that one would gather, and that refute the blanket definition of child abuse come from highly educated people, professors and human rights activists.
One ought to understand that our parents were not rich, they were very poor to average level employees/farmers or traders, and we joyously assisted them in any way we could to have our daily bread. So, the notion of child abuse is relative”.
In communities where agriculture practices such as working at the backyard gardens or tilting at the farm or cattle breeding is the main activity, the duty of a young boy who reaches age 11 is to help the family with manual work while a girl above 7 is to help with house chores. This taught us how to ensure control over family land, where the best pastures and water points are, when to take the animals to the pastures, and so on. Often than not, the land and cattle are the sole and main property and source of livelihood for the households.
Raising a child in Africa is an activity that is based on pragmatism, ensuring the acquisition of skills required by the community. Girls are taught very early how to carry out chores required from them. Sexism has been eradicated in most societies today so a task like cooking is taught to both young males and females. Boys are told that learning about culinary activities makes them independent in life.
Many children as young as seven years, especially girls begin to learn how to wash their own clothing, starting from the lightest ones and their parents (mothers most of the time) wash the slightly heavier ones. That guarantees that the young girl will grow into a woman who can launder for her family. This is such an important education because in an average African city, washing machines are not common and a woman who cannot launder brings embarrassment onto herself. Marriage is very important in an African community. It is a wish of an average African to get married and for parents to marry off their children.
Now the question, how do we balance African culture, children's rights and pragmatism?