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People underestimate the power of being willing to be disliked. Not because you want to be disagreeable. But because you disagree.
Until you're unexpectedly given the boot. I've noticed that some workplace cultures prioritize "being a happy family" over achieving successful outcomes and completing projects. Even in the happiest families, disagreements are bound to occur. 😂 I firmly believe that respectful conflict and disagreements are just as crucial as reaching a consensus and fostering acceptance. However, my thoughts and opinions, regardless of their validity, don't pay the bills. It's essential to leverage our experience to identify pitfalls and assess risks. It's challenging to achieve success when others perceive questions and disagreements as challenges to their authority and intelligence, despite how you present them. It's quite an experience to encounter this firsthand.
Serxhio Guri
1w
In Psychology Those who have read psychology books There is something called "Unconditional Acceptance " which means you accept when other people who dislike like you say or do something bad to you even when they cross the red line ,You accept that as part of the world we live in and such things might happen to anyone... That doesn't mean you agree with that but sometimes you have to accept things and make peace in order to protect your mind and yourself from anxiety or even worse depression....
Trying to please everyone will surely leave you unloved.
It’s a hammer blow to the soul when folks dislike you. Generally though, they actually don’t know you well enough to make an accurate assessment. We probably overestimate our value in others’ eyes. They just don’t think about us that often.
Ophir Tal
1w
I admit, it’s not easy for me. I love being loved, and I’ve always been called a nice guy. But I realize that to make a difference, and to attract, I must repel. So with all the heartache, I accept that I won’t be loved by everyone, and that’s ok. I’d rather have a small tribe (that grows) of people who love and appreciate me than to try to please everyone and have no tribe at all.
Agree .. people pleasers are rarely happy or fulfilled because they are too busy living up to others expectations. You cannot please everyone; it is an unrealistic goal. Be yourself .. you will find your people.
Being known, not being liked, is the result of decision making and living up to the full potential of your decision.
Excellent distinction! I would add that for certain professions, it's a job requirement. For high-level consultants, being good at politely but clearly disagreeing with a client is a core skill. Why? Because executives are typically surrounded by synchophants and "yes men", so having someone who will be honest with them is scarce and valuable. It's amazing how much powerful people will pay for a trusted advisor who will give it to them straight. My bread and butter for many years was non-hours based advisory retainers. I generally had two or three retainer clients at a time paying me ~$10k/mo to pick up the phone once in a while to act as a sounding board. Some would churn out after a few months, but most stayed with me for years. It's good work if you can get it 😎👍
Beth Kahan
1w
It’s the hardest and most uncomfortable but it’s what gets you the results… but most people are willing to do anything but that
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