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Confession #31 : In my 26 years, I've navigated through numerous challenges. Losing my father early on, coupled with my mother's role as a teacher to sustain our family, has presented significant hurdles. Now, as I embark on a career in a multinational corporation, I find myself contrasting with a friend who is preparing to marry into wealth and status. She's always been accustomed to abundance—lavish attire, extravagant timepieces, even luxury vehicles. Her romantic life seems effortless, while I've grappled with financial constraints, meticulously weighing every expenditure over 1000 rupees. I can't help but question why fortune hasn't smiled on me in the same way. Never having experienced a romantic relationship, compounded by financial limitations, finding a partner who can provide a modest living seems daunting. Comparing my journey to hers leaves me feeling disheartened and lacking motivation. Response from our Counsellor : It's evident that you've faced considerable challenges and setbacks throughout your life, especially with the loss of your father and your mother's dedication to supporting your family through her teaching career. Transitioning into a career in a multinational corporation reflects your resilience and determination to overcome these obstacles. However, comparing your journey to that of your friend, who appears to effortlessly enjoy a life of abundance and privilege, can evoke feelings of inadequacy and frustration. It's essential to recognize that everyone's path is unique, and external markers of success, such as wealth and status, don't define your worth or trajectory. Your experience of financial constraints and the absence of romantic relationships can understandably contribute to feelings of demotivation and doubt about your future prospects. It's crucial to acknowledge these emotions and explore strategies to cultivate self-compassion and resilience. Building a supportive network of friends and seeking professional guidance, whether through therapy or career counseling, can provide valuable perspective and help you navigate through these challenging times. Remember, your worth is not determined by external circumstances or comparisons to others, but by your resilience, inner strength, and capacity to grow from adversity. #MentalHealth #Wellness #SupportPlatform #MentalWellness #SelfCare #Therapy #Counseling #CommunitySupport #MentalHealthSupport #EmotionalWellBeing #Mindfulness #SelfHelp #HealthyMind #PositiveMindset #WellBeingJourney #SupportiveCommunity #MHSLife #MentalHealthAwareness Fly Fare Technologies MHS Life MHS Life

Today, I'm feeling unsettled. I could not sleep properly last night as I grappled with the news of a 25-year-old's tragic suicide. I've always been the one advocating "Work Hard, Crush it every day," but yesterday shattered that belief for me. He did work hard. He crushed it everyday, every moment. But why did it happen? I won't attribute it solely to the pressures of academia or corporate life. Stress wears many faces, affecting each of us differently. Who do I hold accountable? Is it the unforgiving nature of exams, the relentless demands of the corporate world, or the unyielding spirit within us that whispers, "Never give up"? I DO NOT have an answer. A friend and I had a heated discussion. He insisted, "No matter what, suicide is never the answer." He emphasized the importance of time management, a sentiment I agree with. But where do we find the time? how can we manage it if it is sometime humanly not possible ? My heart goes out to the families and friends grappling with this unbearable loss. Feeling overwhelmed, I wanted to share how we can cope: A. Diversifying My Life: Engaging in activities outside of work is crucial. Hobbies offer a much-needed balance. B. Finding My Support System: I'm fortunate to have a supportive family. Having a safe space to share my feelings and vent out has been invaluable. C. Seeking Help Without Shame: Whether from loved ones or professionals, asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. And if someone makes fun of it, probably they need it too. D. Questioning the Rat Race: The competitive environment can be suffocating. Remember, my worth isn't solely defined by career success. E. Embracing Self-Worth: Accepting constructive criticism while maintaining self-belief is key. My value isn't dictated by others' opinions. F. Knowing When to Walk Away: If the process or job no longer brings me joy, it's okay to move on. My well-being matters most. Remember, it's okay to quit a job. My job doesn't define my identity. If anyone needs someone to talk to, I'm here to listen. Please Let's support each other through these challenges. #MentalHealthMatters #SupportEachOther #ItsOkayToQuitYourJob

Confession #31 : In my 26 years, I've navigated through numerous challenges. Losing my father early on, coupled with my mother's role as a teacher to sustain our family, has presented significant hurdles. Now, as I embark on a career in a multinational corporation, I find myself contrasting with a friend who is preparing to marry into wealth and status. She's always been accustomed to abundance—lavish attire, extravagant timepieces, even luxury vehicles. Her romantic life seems effortless, while I've grappled with financial constraints, meticulously weighing every expenditure over 1000 rupees. I can't help but question why fortune hasn't smiled on me in the same way. Never having experienced a romantic relationship, compounded by financial limitations, finding a partner who can provide a modest living seems daunting. Comparing my journey to hers leaves me feeling disheartened and lacking motivation. Response from our Counsellor : It's evident that you've faced considerable challenges and setbacks throughout your life, especially with the loss of your father and your mother's dedication to supporting your family through her teaching career. Transitioning into a career in a multinational corporation reflects your resilience and determination to overcome these obstacles. However, comparing your journey to that of your friend, who appears to effortlessly enjoy a life of abundance and privilege, can evoke feelings of inadequacy and frustration. It's essential to recognize that everyone's path is unique, and external markers of success, such as wealth and status, don't define your worth or trajectory. Your experience of financial constraints and the absence of romantic relationships can understandably contribute to feelings of demotivation and doubt about your future prospects. It's crucial to acknowledge these emotions and explore strategies to cultivate self-compassion and resilience. Building a supportive network of friends and seeking professional guidance, whether through therapy or career counseling, can provide valuable perspective and help you navigate through these challenging times. Remember, your worth is not determined by external circumstances or comparisons to others, but by your resilience, inner strength, and capacity to grow from adversity. #MentalHealth #Wellness #SupportPlatform #MentalWellness #SelfCare #Therapy #Counseling #CommunitySupport #MentalHealthSupport #EmotionalWellBeing #Mindfulness #SelfHelp #HealthyMind #PositiveMindset #WellBeingJourney #SupportiveCommunity #MHSLife #MentalHealthAwareness Fly Fare Technologies MHS Life MHS Life

Tie me up and burn me at the stake, but we are not our jobs. We are much, much more. Work is an important part of our lives and assists to provide us with food, shelter, clothing and a sense of security, yet it is only part of our lives. You may have a title, you may have legitimate authority in your work domain, it may fill you with pride and importance, yet it is only a relatively small part of your identity, and is relatively fleeting in the journey of life. When you attend a party or BBQ and are asked the predictable ice-breaker following introductions, do you immediately blurt out your title and your company and wait for the looks of envy and admiration, or do you start with being a loving partner, proud parent, and crap golfer who works in a certain industry? Generally we segment our lives into thirds, with work, family and leisure, and rest/sleep/recharge constituting the rough segments. (Note that even here, I put work first). What happens in your life when the work third surreptitiously becomes 40%, then 50% or more, and what happens when it stays there? What happens when you increasingly forgo family and social functions to work longer, without really knowing why? What happens to your family life? Is your partner and children overcome with gratitude for the extra trinkets your "sacrifice" delivers, or do they mourn your absence morning and night, at school and sporting events, and when they do finally see you, are you often tired, grumpy and preoccupied? What happens to your health and well-being when you prioritise one segment of your life to such an extent that the others become discretionary? What happens to your mental health and fitness when you wake up one day as a single dimensional being, only identifiable internally and externally by your job, and how is that mental fitness impacted when that one remaining identifier is lost (you lose your job, relocate or retire), and your family and social circle don't include you any more as you were never available. This is not theoretical sermon from the mount stuff as I was this person for way too many years, missing decades of life and all it has to offer, in the blind pursuit of "stuff" and self-fulfillment. Knowledge is power. Carefully consider your options, your priorities and your balance when pursuing your own life journey. If you can, join us around 3.00pm today for a Supply Chain Partners panel discussion on mental health and well-being challenges in the supply chain as part of the Supply Chain Partners Virtual Summit hosted by Dr Sharyn Grant.

A Journey to Well-Being: James's Story James had always been a hard worker, dedicated to his job as a marketing manager at a mid-sized tech company. However, over the past year, the once-supportive work environment had become toxic. The increasing demands, #unrealistic deadlines, and a new manager who belittled and micromanaged his every move took a toll on him. At first, James tried to push through it. He told himself it was just a rough patch, but as #months passed, his mental health deteriorated. He felt anxious, couldn't sleep, and lost interest in activities he once enjoyed. Friends and family noticed the change and urged him to consider his well-being. One evening, after a particularly grueling day, James #realized that his job was affecting every aspect of his life. He remembered a quote he had read: "You are not weak for leaving a job that is bad for your mental health." The words resonated deeply with him. The #decision to leave wasn't easy. James worried about financial stability and what others might think. But he knew he couldn't continue down this path. With a heavy heart but a clear mind, he drafted his resignation letter. James spent the next few weeks finalizing his departure and preparing for a new beginning. On his last day, he felt a mix of relief and apprehension as he walked out of the office for the last time. The first few weeks were challenging. James grappled with self-doubt and fear of the #unknown. However, he began to feel the fog lifting. He attended therapy to address his anxiety and rediscovered hobbies he had neglected. He reconnected with friends and family, who provided invaluable support and encouragement. James reassessed his career goals and what he wanted from his professional life. He needed a work environment where he felt valued and respected, and where his mental health was a priority. With renewed confidence, he began job hunting and eventually landed a job at a company that aligned with his values. The difference was night and day. His new workplace emphasized work-life balance and mental health. Looking back, James realized that leaving his previous job was one of the best decisions he had ever made. It wasn't a sign of weakness, but an act of courage and self-respect. By sharing his story, James hopes to inspire others facing similar situations to take the brave step toward a healthier, happier life. Follow for more such content:- KARAN SINGH JEENA LinkedInLinkedIn China 领英中国Linkedin Learning ToolLinkedIn LearningLinkedIn News #MentalHealth #SelfCare #WellBeing #Courage #Strength #Healing #Resilience #Balance #Recovery #Inspiration #Empowerment #Bravery #Positivity #Wellness #Transformation #Happiness #Support #Change #Growth #SelfLove

"I don't hate my job, I don't hate the work, I don't hate the people I work with, but I need to leave". That's what I told my boss, which must have confused him because if you don't hate something, why leave? After what seems to be almost 4 years of remote working, sitting at a desk staring at a screen, not meeting people in person, combined with moving from under to over 50 years old, I knew that although this is a relatively easy life, it's not a healthy life. The body feels stiff at the end of the day, eyesight is strained, you feel lonely, so physical and mental health suffer. "I need to get out more, I need to move more, it's as simple as that " is what I told him. I know my work requirements, as well as not being willing to replace sat at home with sat commuting on a train, means getting out more doesn't necessarily mean I will work achieving that goal, but if I don't move more now the latter part of my life will be miserable 😖. So that's what I'm doing, moving more, sitting less, and hopefully that'll mean I'll live more rather than exist more. Everything must add value to your bigger goals in life, and if it doesn't then question why you do it. It's no different in business, if what you're doing doesn't add value to the strategic goals then the people at the top will struggle to value your contribution, make sure you can see the link otherwise question why?

"Embracing change with a positive spirit, open mind, and persistent heart paves the way for transforming dreams into reality, at any stage of life." - Bernadette Henry Welcome to the inspiring story of a 44-year-old woman who dared to reinvent her life. After years as a full-time case worker and part-time life coach, she decided to pursue her dream of becoming a licensed mental health counselor. This journey is about balancing a demanding job, raising children under 19, and managing life's responsibilities while chasing a new career. Embracing Positivity Amidst Change: Leaving a secure job brought skepticism, but she chose positivity over doubt. Embracing positive thinking helped her navigate the uncertainties of this career transition. Maintaining an Open and Flexible Mindset: She immersed herself in counseling courses, attended seminars, and kept up with the latest industry trends. This adaptability equipped her with the necessary skills and confidence. Persistence in the Face of Hurdles: Balancing studies, family obligations, and a part-time job was challenging. Her determination never wavered, and each obstacle brought her closer to her goal. The Power of Visualization: She used a vision board to keep her goals in sight, from becoming a licensed counselor to achieving work-life balance. This tool served as a daily reminder, keeping her aligned and motivated. Seeking and Accepting Help: Recognizing she couldn't do it alone, she sought advice from industry professionals and leaned on her family for support. This openness to assistance provided valuable insights and emotional backing. Her story is a testament to the transformative power of goal setting. At 44, she is on the path to becoming a licensed mental health counselor, fulfilling her career aspirations, and achieving a more balanced life. Her journey highlights that with determination, an open mindset, and proper support, it's never too late to chase your passions. Does her story inspire you? Let her journey motivate you. Apply these principles to your path and watch your dreams unfold. For further guidance and inspiration, read "Jumping The Rope: Move Yourself and Manifest Your Success" by Bernadette Henry. This book offers practical advice and motivation to help you believe in yourself, overcome obstacles, and achieve your goals. Start your transformative journey today by visiting https://lnkd.in/e5B-wpKk. #JourneyOfProgress #LifeTransformation #MentalHealthCounseling #Inspiration #GoalSetting #OvercomingObstacles #PositiveChange #CareerChange #Motherhood #BalanceAndGrowth #jumpropeisdope #makeitfunnyc

Since May is national #mentalhealthawareness month, I wanted to share a journey that I haven’t spoken about with many people. It’s always a bit scary to share personal challenges with others, but I feel this is something that is important to talk about & is becoming more & more common, particularly in corporate environments & the events industry. Last summer, I had a mental breakdown. No one aside from those very close to me knew what I was going through. To the outside world, I was living life to the fullest, enjoying a much-needed sabbatical, soaking in the sunshine & enjoying all the amazing things a New England summer has to offer. The truth: I was in a deep state of depression & struggling to pull myself out. I’ve dealt with anxiety & mild bouts of depression for most of my life, but for the most part, I’ve found ways to manage it. Like many others, my job is demanding & doesn’t leave much room for the emotions I used to incorrectly perceive as weakness. Let me clarify that. Weakness in myself. In others, I could sympathize with their mental struggles. I would applaud when they took time & action to find a better state of wellness. For a number of reasons, I couldn’t give myself the same grace & compassion when dealing with something similar. I felt like I was a failure for being anxious or depressed. I found myself in new territory last summer though. I was in a place where, for the first time in my life, I couldn’t figure out how to feel better. I yelled at myself to snap out of it. (I couldn’t) I told myself to be grateful for all that I have. (I was) I said to myself that I didn’t deserve to feel this way because my life, for the most part, is pretty wonderful. It’s far from perfect, but I have a close family, great friends, a career that I love & have worked hard to build, a dog that makes me smile every day just by existing, & I wake up every day to see the ocean. I felt guilty for having so much to be grateful for but still not knowing how to bring myself out of this dark hole that I had fallen into. There are a number of reasons as to why I found myself in the place I was, but a huge part is that I had let my career outbalance the rest of my life. For years I had found joy & fulfillment in climbing the professional ladder. With every successful program & each promotion, it fueled me to keep pushing on. All the while, I was letting the other things that brought me joy slip away to mere in-between moments. Hobbies that I was once passionate about, personal relationships, adventure travel, etc all took a backseat to my work life. I would justify it to myself because I truly love what I do, I’ve always prided myself on my work ethic, & of course the dopamine hits from each success were enough to make me feel happy. Until they weren’t. (Cont. in the comments below)

5 years ago today, my team lead, and dear friend dropped this on my desk and changed my life forever. She gave me a wry smile. 'In case you were wondering or had forgotten' She could see that I was unhappy at work. It was a few days after I had seen That Mug (Do More of What Makes You Happy') I laughed when she gave it to me, but inside I was numb. in fact, I soon discovered that I was clinically depressed, and struggling to function. it was the catalyst that changed my life forever and I will.be forever grateful to her for this notebook. It's a big part of the story that gives me the 'why' I now live by. Why I am so passionate about the work that I do. I was in a team of lovely people, doing important work, but it wasn't the right role or culture for me. I had had years of squishing who I was to fit into others expectations of who I should be, from my legal career to down to others expectations of me as a wife and mother. I felt squashed, flattened and directionless. I was doing the wrong kind of work for the kind of person I am. It was all Guardian detail and tiny shifts of change when I am Big Picture, I'm a Connector and my whole MO in life is to develop others. I'm hugely strategic, and need to exact sweeping change to improve working life for whole organisations. I know that when people work in roles that suit their strengths, they are happier, more productive, more collaborative, make better decisions and are open to healthy challenge. When they don't, the opposite happens, as it did for me. Only 11% of the UK workforce is engaged in the work they do. 79% have workplace stress, anxiety or depression. Teams who don't communicate work at less than 60% of their healthy capacity. We need to do better. That's why I do what I do. Have you had an epiphany, or a sliding doors moment that changed your life? Please let me know in the comments.

We’ve all had that situation in which we “logically” or “intellectually” believe or understand something, but we still find ourselves acting in ways that are antithetical to that belief or understanding. Yesterday, I told you the three most common reasons for this: 1️⃣ you don’t actually fully believe whatever it is, 2️⃣ you don’t want to feel negative emotion, and 3️⃣ you are worried about the potential consequences. Now what do you do about them? Let’s start with 1️⃣, your actual belief in the thought, using the example of taking time off. The thoughts people “logically” or “intellectually” believe are usually some variation of: 🔹Taking time off actually makes me better at my job.  🔹Taking time off is good for my mental health.   🔹I should use all of my vacation time or my PTO - it’s part of my compensation package. You don’t fully believe it yet (or your belief is stronger in some other thought) if it’s followed by a “but.” Take the belief and add this on “, but ____________________.” Fill in the blank. Why don’t you fully believe it? What do you really believe instead? 🔹That you don’t deserve to take time off? 🔹That it is impossible to take time off for whatever reason? 🔹That no one can do your job as well as you? 🔹That you can’t take time off without hurting your career? 🔹That it isn’t worth it to take time off because of what you have to come back to? That’s where the work is. Those are the thoughts you need to start exploring and shifting. Those thoughts are creating emotions like guilt, anxiety, overwhelm, and resignation. Those emotions are leading to the actions you don’t like. To being unable to implement the changes you want to make. One way to start shifting these unhelpful thoughts: Challenge them. How is it not true? What evidence can you come up with that supports the opposite of the thought that follows the “but”? What evidence supports the initial part of the thought - the piece before the “but”? Your brain is already looking for evidence to prove your current belief true and ignoring everything else - you have to intentionally redirect it to look for evidence that proves your desired belief true. Intentionally opening up your perspective will start creating shifts in your level of belief in the thing you actually want to believe. A ❤️ note to you: This is just one of many coaching tools that can help you shift your beliefs and get unstuck. If you’re feeling stuck in the same old patterns, maybe it’s time to try something new. To get started, send me a DM that says START. We will talk about what’s you got stuck, why you haven’t been able to get unstuck, and how you can start making impactful changes in your life. *** I’m Jenn Deal. You know how so many women lawyers constantly struggle with feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck? I help them create careers and lives that feel good. ♥️ Want to see more content like this? 🔗 Connect with or follow me here  🔔 Ring the bell in my profile