The first step to leveraging your emotional intelligence and charisma is to understand yourself and your emotions. Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, manage, and express your own emotions, as well as to empathize and communicate with others. Charisma is the ability to attract, inspire, and influence others with your personality, communication, and presence. To develop these skills, you need to be self-aware and self-regulated, meaning that you can identify your strengths, weaknesses, values, and triggers, and that you can control your impulses, emotions, and reactions. You can improve your self-awareness and self-regulation by practicing mindfulness, reflection, and feedback.