Advice
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Harriette Cole: Our retirement worry is wrecking our marriage
We try to talk calmly but we always end up blaming each other.
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Miss Manners: I said no to my fellow flyer’s request. The next day, I felt guilty.
Plus: It seems weird to act like I don't notice my neighbor's dramatic change.
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Dear Abby: This is worse than her boyfriend being a snooty jerk
I was heartbroken when I saw the Facebook post.
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Asking Eric: I last saw her during our ill-fated teen stunt. Is it OK to reach out now?
Plus: Why do people walk away when I tell my stories?
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Dear Abby: She won’t stop with the bizarre child-rearing advice
She says she knows best because she was a nurse. I found out she never...
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Asking Eric: My brother doesn’t know the money came from me, and the subterfuge is stressing me out
I don't care about getting it back. I just want the drama to end.
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Harriette Cole: I live with my sister, and her husband wants to make this deal with me
I'm inclined to turn him down, but it's becoming an issue in their marriage.
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Miss Manners: How can I stop them from flushing when I’m on a serious call?
It's distressing when these women won't be quiet while I'm taking a call in the...
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Dear Abby: How can we help our co-worker without giving offense?
I know there's always another side to the story, but I was appalled at the...
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Asking Eric: Was I elitist to encourage my daughter to ditch her boyfriend for a better prospect?
Her aspiring carpenter found out I was backing the other suitor, and now he holds...